First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  12  Next  Last
Post Reply Anyone here a NEET or hikikomori?
1423 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 1/9/17 , edited 1/9/17
To be fair, IDK if it is possible for an American to be true Hikikomori..... You NEVER leave house; perhaps not a single room.



There are 2 anime (both on FUNimation only) I suggest people watch (and quite good BTW):

Eden of the East
Welcome to the NHK



Everything in life will make sense after that, well maybe. Not if NHK doesn't come for ya first, of course. In either case, the "solution" to the problem is for fellow peoples to come together. Individually u cannot do anything; combined u can do quite a bit. And since we all generally share interests (anime), should be fun.


But no matter.....
20477 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Online
Posted 1/9/17

lethalchopsticks wrote:

(This post basically screams TLDR but it will also probably be the only ridiculously long post I'll ever post here since I just relate so much)

I'm not exactly a NEET, but I've been working in a suffocating factory setting for 3 years already while commuting to college, and in all that time, I've made no effort to make friends because I get so tired that all I want to do is go straight home once work/classes are done. But I guess that's just an excuse to never go out and do anything with friends. I only have exactly 3 friend now which I still never see anymore. They all know I'm an extreme homebody but somehow still stay in contact with me like once every 2 months so bless their hearts for that.

My main thing is I've made the mistake of missing out on many opportunities in life to make my life a normal, active, social life by never doing clubs or sports in high school. I never did sleepovers or went to anything my friends invited me to do outside of school. Never ever. Because I think I had social anxiety. Still kind of have it right now and it's getting even worse now that I'm starting a new job where more socializing is needed.

With every conversation I've had, I'm constantly aware of how boring I've become and wondering how I can get a personality back since it seemed to have festered through the years. Many nights I'm randomly agonizing and panicking over how I can hold a civil conversation with a coworker when my knowledge of world news, social media, or American pop culture is literally squat. I don't do twitter, facebook, instagram, nothing. Because all I'm really into is Asian drama, Asians songs and anime, and I find it really hard to admit this to anyone IRL for some reason when they ask what I do in my free time, so then I find myself inadvertently lying or saying misleading things to hide this part of myself like saying I just draw or read all the time. (which I did use to enjoy drawing but the last real finished piece I did was over 3 years ago)

I also get anxious over being judged by what I say on the internet so I've even avoided commenting in any online community even though I'm technically always anonymous. But clearly I'm trying to get over this by posting my first comment here so I hope this will lead somewhere...

There you have it, these are all my fears in one post. Good to know I'm not the only one with social anxiety who's always at home.


Why do you have social anxiety? What is the ideal life that you want to live? How do you cope with working a deadend shift job everyday?
146243 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
26 / F / Overlord's Castle
Offline
Posted 1/9/17
My mother is a netgame addict. Does that count?
20477 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Online
Posted 1/9/17

kurosakiichigo2010 wrote:

I have to say I was a NEET for like 2 years of my life because of extreme social anxiety. There were periods of time where I wouldn't leave the house for days. Thankfully I have gotten a little better and although I still have social anxiety, I'm working part time and studying now.


For those who don't know what NEET and hikikomori mean:

NEET: A NEET or neet is a young person who is "Not in Education, Employment, or Training".

Hikikomori: The Japanese Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare defines hikikomori as people who refuse to leave their house and, thus, isolate themselves from society in their homes for a period exceeding six months.


Why did you have social anxiety? What motivated you out of the NEET lifestyle?
20477 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Online
Posted 1/9/17

Balzack wrote:

I was a NEET for a number of years.

My girlfriend who I was going to propose to dumped me, my friend committed grisly double suicide with his girlfriend, and my mom got a cancer I didn't think she's end up surviving (she did survive though). All in like 2008. I was doing fairly well, working at a department store at the time. But I started to lose my mind a bit with all the stuff piling up on me so quickly, so I quit. Kind of retreated into video games and TV. Then a LOT of anime. A whole, whole lot of anime.

Anyways. I started working again in 2013. So I guess I was a NEET for a good 4-5 years. Got a full time job in shipping and video production in 2013 but that only lasted half a year. I've been working since then with a friend of mine at our own production company. But it's slow growing so I am still at least partially a NEET right now since I'm very much underemployed and at almost 30 am living with my parents because I can't afford rent elsewhere.


That's a very honest post. How is your mother doing now? Why did your girlfriend dump you? What did you do during your NEET years? How are you doing now? What is life like after NEET?
10276 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
29 / M
Offline
Posted 1/9/17
I was for about 10 months back in 2013. I got laid off from my job in a huge layoff, but only after a couple months they started calling people back to work and I knew I was going to be going back for sure and I had my unemployment to keep my bills paid. I didn't go no where or leave the house for days at a time. I remember one time I never went outside for a whole week haha. I did nothing but watch anime all day long and play games. I don't do that anymore I went back to work for about a year and lot laid off again but this time I didn't get that bad again.
7533 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
18 / M / Palm Coast, Florida
Offline
Posted 1/9/17
No, but I might be one for a month or two after I finish school, gonna take a break.
1699 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24
Offline
Posted 1/9/17
i was both from 2010-2015.. like 5.5 years


i hate myself and i want to die
1230 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / F / The Ivory Tower
Online
Posted 1/9/17

highplaces wrote:

i hate myself and i want to die


I hope that changes. I was there myself for a while.
Apholo 
2496 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / New Mexico
Online
Posted 1/9/17
I'm currently a NEET, but not by choice. I got laid off from my job back in October and haven't had any luck finding work elsewhere.

Instead of spending the money I earned on rent or something, I decided to move back in with my parents for the time being. I mean it saves me money while I still look for work...and in the meantime I do have "odd jobs" every now and again, but they aren't stable. Just a quick way to earn some cash (Kinda sounds bad when I word it like that ).
6938 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
15 / M / California
Offline
Posted 1/9/17
Well it's not really possible for me since I have to go to school, but I don't see it ever happening in the future, either.
1423 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 1/9/17
Surprised a bit to see the participation on this thread here, even now. Being a NEET is not so bad, as long as you have an endgame/acceptance of your situation. Speaking from experience.......
53387 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 1/10/17
I had to google what hikikomori is anyways, I'm not a neet since I go to school (tho I never had a job before), and I would've avoided social contacts if I ain't force to tbh. I really love hanging out, I just don't have a will to do it recently.
6081 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / M
Offline
Posted 1/10/17
I'm definitely a hikikomori but not a NEET since i have been trained and educated through college and other jobs. I just can't leave my house because of anxiety and other things now.
1050 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
21 / F
Offline
Posted 1/10/17
Everybody has anxiety here
Mind if I join ?
I'm neither a Hikikomori nor a NEET, I got to Uni every day but still have social anxiety. That's very exausting :c
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  12  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.