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Posted 10/23/15
I like to mix it up everyday.
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Posted 10/24/15
I don't mind it if they have done it once or twice. But with like 5 different people? That's going a little too far for me. I haven't done it once, she doesn't deserve to take my virginity if she has done it with so many guys before.
Meeting girls my age that hasn't done it is more rare than not though.
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Posted 10/24/15

HolyDrumstick wrote:

Generally do not care, unless it is ridiculous.

I dated an 18 year old girl. Made the decision to have unprotected sex because I assumed an 18 year old would be low risk. She later told me she'd slept with 17 men. I felt sick at my stomach.



That's just brutal, anyone would feel the same after hearing that.
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Posted 10/24/15
I think that the fear of becoming abandoned, insecurity or jealousy to find something fault from personal history is to be blame in here. Yes when I was a teen I imagined that it was something sacred and holy, but times change.

The modern media has twisted the picture we have about sex; we are all affected and it has already spiraled out of control.

Being oldfashionable is becoming significantly harder; though at least in university life it is not -that- degenerate. Netdating has made things a lot easier, meaning it's easier to dump someone, if you don't like them because your actions are not ruled by the fear of being alone as heavily as back in the old days.

Well in my eyes that just leaves a trail of unhappy people. Increasing ammount of people is looking consodilation and approval from sex and psychologically it can lead into more problems than in the first place, i.e that story in this thread about that person having way too many partners for it to be 'healthy' for psyche and etc.

Humans are genetically programmed to try to bond and form relationships with eachother and nowadays even our 'falling in love' has become a subject of manipulation. Human's are more fragile than what they insist on others, and you don't show off this weakness until one has become so depressed that they've simply stopped caring about life itself.

Either way I would always avoid condemning a person of having sex with too many people. Those people sought comfort / approval / were pushed to / etc. Don't break their heart's by carelessly pushing your own ideals on top of them. Most can't take it and that can easily break down a relationship; I've seen it happen.

Opinions are our own but, if it can deeply hurt other - gulp it down. They have their own story, they might know better. x)
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Posted 10/24/15 , edited 10/24/15
It's always great to take someones first, but if they've already done it then that's that. Plus if they've already done it then they have more experience and can give you a better time......... And remember to always have safe sex.

But in all honesty what matters is that their faithul to YOU and that they don't go around and sleep with other people when in a relationship with you
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Posted 10/24/15
I subscribe to the don't ask don't tell policy with regards to this subject.
Posted 10/24/15
1) I'd not worry much about business that isn't my own.

2) I'd not worry much about that either.

3) A nonissue.

4) A person's past is their past. It's non of my business. All I'd hope for is someone who is clean, not carrying a trainload of baggage and doesn't feel the need to measure me up to their previous partners.
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Posted 10/24/15
If STDs weren't a thing I probably wouldn't even ask. Everybody has a past. I don't see the point in getting jealous over it. Their relationship with their previous partners didn't work out for a reason.
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Posted 10/24/15

aznzakum wrote:

When you met your significant other, did you mind that they had sex with other people? In our current generation, sex is so common that it is no longer a surprise that when you meet your love, that they've already done it with some other person (or persons, multiple partners).

The number of people who have not had sex grows smaller as age increases because with more time, there are more opportunities of having relationships.

Unless you are still together with your high school sweet heart (which is the minority here), chances are, the girl or guy have already experienced sex (either with 1 or more than 1 encounters).

My question is directed to everyone including couples and those not in a relationship.
For those that are not in a relationship, how would you deal with the situation if you were going to be in one?


How do you feel about the idea that they've had partners before who have delved into their bodies, who know about their physical secrets (such as what makes them turned on), who knows what it feels like?

or that when you guys are having sex, the thought of someone else having already been in that position, doing the same thing, experiencing the same thing?


Perhaps I am indeed overthinking the situation, but even so, I would like an honest answer of how you dealt with the situation and how you felt. Do any of the thoughts i mention from above come across your thoughts? why or why not?






Well, if they never thought of it before, they probably are now.... O.o

You're kinda in a damned if you do/damned if you don't situation. sleep with a number of people, you're going to be criticized for that number, (and asked who, and then judged on those "who"s). If you don't sleep with someone, you'll be judged and mocked for that.

Best thing to do is keep your fucking mouth shut about your past, and pray to never ask your S.O.

:P
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Posted 10/24/15
*Pretends to remain ignorant about what is going on to the world, turns on favorite anime, zones out*
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25 / M / ocoee,FL, America
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Posted 10/24/15
well just fight fire with fire I mean this whole sex thing should matter though how many partners vice versa they had..but since most people have slept with someone else already and not just one then just fight fire with fire.. is not because your a virgin or worried about about your size or insecure that's not it...there are people who had it with 2 or 3 and they agree with you about sex should matter....and about this whole thing about your size well ...I got some news flash for people the females jay jay size matters too ....if a guys stuff is 6 inches the girls jay jay could be 4 inches ..so yea you can say womens' size matter too....sorry for getting off topic..lol..
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Posted 10/24/15 , edited 10/24/15

MonologueWolf wrote:


HolyDrumstick wrote:

Generally do not care, unless it is ridiculous.

I dated an 18 year old girl. Made the decision to have unprotected sex because I assumed an 18 year old would be low risk. She later told me she'd slept with 17 men. I felt sick at my stomach.



That's just brutal, anyone would feel the same after hearing that.



>_> welcome to the real world
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Posted 10/24/15
I used to party get drunk and high and have sex alot. I regret it now cause the girlfriend I'm with now is amazing and I wish I had just waited till I met her.
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Posted 10/24/15 , edited 4/28/16
It is what it is, as long as im not getting cheated on while were in a relationship then its alright. Also as long as she doesnt have any kids...
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