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Are you an old soul?
Posted 3/1/15
(This thread is about the real world, not internet.)

I am, for some reason I have been told continuously that I'm mature beyond my years. From hobbies and interests to tastes in music and fashion, often I feel displaced in the modern world. I love technology, don't get me wrong, but it's not an integral part of my identity, and quite frankly I could live just fine without it. I don't know how I feel about reincarnation, but occasionally I feel as though I lived a different life before, it's totally weird. Anyway, I'm curious, are there any kindred spirits out there (laughs) that have felt similarly? Share!
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Posted 3/1/15
I am just old
Posted 3/1/15
le wrong generation
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Posted 3/1/15
hmm idk i'm definitely not mature , i don't like paying my bills


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I am just old


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Posted 3/1/15
When I was still in school (mainly from 6th to 12th grade) I always had trouble fitting in with people my own age due to the fact that I had a more expansive vocabulary, as my head was often buried in a book in my free time. Often to the surprise of adults around me I was able to hold a conversation with them more adequately than my peers. Additionally, I was never one to partake in the frivolities that youth often do, such as parties, drugs, sex, and so on (however, that's likely also due to my introversion). Anyways, I'm not sure if this makes me an old soul, and admittedly I sound like a rambling old git in in this post, but I understand what it feels like to be considered more mature than those around your age group.
Posted 3/1/15
Nope. The opposite. I'll always act like a 13 year old boy


You live longer that way!
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Posted 3/1/15
I think its stupid to call others 'old souls' or mature beyond their age. Everybody behaves in a way that suits them, whether its a false front or honest they're being themselves in either respect since thats part of their personality to act that way.
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Posted 3/1/15
I like to think so, I listen to a lot of old songs, one of my favorite genre of music is jazz - like louis armstrong, sammy davis jr, and all those era of musicians.
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Posted 3/1/15
I've been told this since I was a kid. I don't know though. I've always had trouble connecting with people my age and still do, though it's not as bad. I just haven't ever cared to do all of the things my peers do. I don't think it's a good or a bad thing, just how I happen to be. It is a little funny sometimes because people have said I'm confusing. They say I look younger, but act older/more mature than I actually am.
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I feel like i've been living for a very very very long time... even when i talk to old people it feels as if im talking to children
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When you hear that kind of thing at a young age, I think it runs the risk of actually being a bit harmful since you don't understand what it means. I got the same kind of messages mostly throughout public elementary school.

When I went to a private high school (generally higher performing population) and where the adults expected us to know things and behave rationally, that kind of commentary didn't come up. More the opposite, some people were noted as acting immature at times.

The message itself may or may not be a compliment or have any particular meaning -- it really depends on the person saying it and the situation. There is no consensus about that phrase.

Some adults will mean it as a sort of compliment, in that by comparison to others in your age group, you are not extremely boring to them, and you appear to have your own personality and goals beyond simply trying to fit in with everyone else and do exactly what they all are doing (whatever the latest fashion is, etc.).

Crudely put, you are not performing at the average they have come to expect, and some of the things you express interest in are things they also have an interest in. For example music -- if you like jazz, and almost everyone else your age likes the current pop songs that older people complain about ("That's not music! Back in my day ...") they are appreciating the fact that you are not following their preconceived notions of what a "kid" likes. In that sense, it is kind of encouragement to you to be how you want to be, without really spending the time to consider your real feelings on being different from other people.


Sometimes it's not a compliment, just "something to say" in a situation of no conversation. Even if they don't like jazz (or whatever), people will feel compelled to say "something," because most people don't like silence. Rather than, "Hey, I noticed that your taste is different than the other kids your age, so I will simply point that out to make you self conscious" they instead say, "Wow, you're mature." There are probably no feelings in particular behind it, they are just making conversation.


If said by people of your own age, you can run into mixed meanings. Some people may respect your apparent "maturity" while others will avoid you for it. A lot of times it may just fall into the "something to say" category.


I have found that overall, it is intended as a compliment. I have also found that overall, people generally don't care much about other people than themselves, and so you shouldn't give too much weight as relates to you specifically. As you get older, you will find out that age is not related to "maturity." If anything, the less "mature" people simply get better at masking their immaturity to blend in to their surroundings, while the "mature" people get different descriptors, such as "driven," "intelligent," "focused," "serious" etc.


EDIT: To add: You should still try to get the hang of interacting with and being friendly with "immature" people. Those people never go away. They won't "grow up" and suddenly be on the same level as you with things -- if you're smarter than they are, you will stay that way barring serious life problems -- but you'll have a better time if you can appreciate individuals for the strengths they do have.
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Posted 3/1/15

Sogno- wrote:

hmm idk i'm definitely not mature , i don't like paying my bills



Muahaha, You and Me both.
Posted 3/1/15
love old music...

like twilight time - by the platters
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5E1dbn6fWI8
unchained melody, because you loved me by celine dion. I'm a huge fan of the carpenters.

I also have very specific tastes, I like the way you look tonight, the peter skellern version, not the frank Sinatra version.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=und3e9ZN_Tc
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Posted 3/1/15
No, I'm very modern.
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Posted 3/1/15
Thanks for the laugh. The "old soul" bit gave me quite the chuckle.
Don't get me wrong though. It's good to have an appreciation for older music and such. You can miss much if you allow yourself to be trapped by current trends.
However, one also misses much if they obsess over that which is "retro". (Or, in the case of those of us who actually are old, those lying sugar-coated memories we call "nostalgia")
I think it's easy for people to lie to themselves about what they do and do not like. Sometimes because we want to fit in with our peers, or a specific subculture. Other times, I think we just want our own thoughts to be orderly. Especially younger people but don't be fooled. Most adults are just better about hiding how little we know.
Well, just be careful if your tastes are for a particular era, that you don't try to convince yourself to like the stuff from that era that sucks. Cos some of it surely does. I can't count the number of times I've played crappy songs over and over trying to force myself to like them because I liked the band so not liking the song was contrary to my perceptions of my own taste.
OK, I said this in 50x more words than necessary, but basically I'm just saying that while "newer" is not a sign of quality, neither is "older". If you have the ability to see past such illusions; certainly, take pride in yourself. I do not, however, believe a metaphysical explanation is necessary.
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