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Post Reply My Nigga! Thoughts on the use of the word.
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Considering that my friends say it all the time, it grew on me.
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MysticGon wrote:

Well maybe you should stop targeting people. The whole point is to discuss, not to break down and sling mud.



You created this thread for the sole purpose of slinging mud, even went as far as to say it will be removed for that reason. Also, you posted it and now I'm "targeting the op" for views that I don't agree with. You make no sense what so ever.
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eightcar wrote:

Like i said, it isn't my place to criticize either side of this. I can only listen and try not to be ignorant and offend anyone.
And I for one will NOT use either word.


Thats nice you don't use any word but it doesn't seem fair that some African Americans do that. Sorry my comment sounds harsh.
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kamahl01 wrote:

You created this thread for the sole purpose of slinging mud, even went as far as to say it will be removed for that reason. Also, you posted it and now I'm "targeting the op" for views that I don't agree with. You make no sense what so ever.


Listen to you think or me. My word, man. Take a step away from the PC and relax.

Okay. So you don't like the use of he word? Right? Correct me if I'm wrong. Well to that I say I use the word maybe 20-30 times an hour. I don't have a problem with it at all. We disagree. Now you get to make the next move. You can mercifully remain civil or silent or you can continue to be nasty in which case I'll just have to ignore you. There is still time to be adults about this.
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It's so overused not many people notice in my opinion,
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Posted 3/11/15 , edited 3/11/15

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MysticGon wrote:

Thanks for them. Just giving you a counter thought. That is all.


Fair enough, I'd have just appreciated some further explanation is all. Granted the example I used wouldn't happen in many cases, but it's not infeasible that someone could be a bit of a double-standards dick in that way.


Thats understandable you can see it that way. To be honest I see it differently after an incident a work. You see, I'm black. I use the word nigga quite often. At first I never had a problem with people outside my race saying it as casually as I do. That is until I told some co-workers thats that. They went crazy with it once they realized I was one of the "cool ones". It became a problem and I put an end to it. When you are black you really do put up with a lot of things some people find hard to understand.
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Posted 3/14/15 , edited 3/14/15
I reopened this because I think language use, and complex meanings and emotions that are bundled up with words is something interesting to have a discussion about, though I was dismayed when this thread received so many reports that it was closed quickly.

I've removed the inappropriate responses, so I hope we can restart on a better footing.
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What I think -- Language changes over time and meanings shift, variants are created that differ in meaning from their original form, and some words even transform in ways that the same word can mean opposite things! I do wonder what the state of this particular word (and its variants) will be 50, 100, many more hundreds, of years from now.

I'm going to start by saying I've never used the terms nigger, nigga, niggah, my niggah, etc. myself except when actually quoting or discussing the words. For me it's not such a taboo word that I have ever felt I needed to resort to "The N word" when speaking of it, but it is enough of a taboo that not only do I not say it or think it myself, I wince a little when I hear others say it -- which isn't often. I think it's completely unacceptable for white people to use "nigger." My feelings about Blacks using it are more mixed, but I also lack knowledge about how it's used and not used and viewed in various predominantly Black cultures. (Didn't realize use of "my nigga" was a thing in Latino cultures.)

I do think the context in which words are used is important, and part of their context is their history. And in the case of "nigger" I think it would be inappropriate for me, a white person, to use it in casual conversation.

The current variants though...especially "my nigga; mah niggah"... I'd personally be uncomfortable using those terms myself not just because they are variants of the taboo "nigger" but because they are not part of my cultural experience. Partly a race thing, partly an age thing, partly a circles in which I move thing. I see the words in passing when reading (including on CR's forums); I might hear them occasionally when I'm out and about on the subway, or walking, or in song lyrics maybe, but I only have the vaguest sense of who the people are who use it, how it made its way into their active vocabulary, what they intend when they use it.

And it boils down to, I'm not comfortable using the terms myself, I'm a little more comfortable seeing/hearing others use them in ways that are clearly not intended as derogatory, but I'm wary about them being used broadly without regard for causing discomfort or offense to others.

I think, however, that over time those variants will come into common uncontroversial use fairly broadly...either that or they will mostly disappear as "fad" words. "Nigger," however, imo, is much more likely to stay taboo for a very, very, long time.
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A guy I know supposedly uses that term on those he respects. I have no opinion of the term myself.

I will never use that term because I have enough problems being misunderstood as it is. Plus I have no use for it anyway.
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It's used so often where I live at that no one even cares anymore.
You're in the minority if you don't say it.
I kinda hate the word being used in conversation that I'm involved in but I accept that it would be used regardless.
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My black co-workers are the ones that are apologizing to me when the n word slips out while they're talking. It's because they should know better but from time to time they get caught up in the moment. I'm like, "ok."

I actually learned the n word from black people themselves; and it's during middle school while I was considered "fresh off the boat." It should be "fresh off the airplane" but oh well.
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Eggshells for sure, lol

I don't say that word at all, I lived in place in Long Beach that would now be referred to as a ghetto, for 7 years of my childhood. I got my ass beat too many times to try anything that foolish.
*nostalgic moment*

Oh god my childhood sucked.

I'm indifferent about other people using the word but I think I'll pass

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A word used which does not bother me.
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There is a VSauce on the use of bad words. You practically hit the nail on the head, but if you want to check it out here you go.

(Reference to everyone not just Lorreen) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dd7dQh8u4Hc
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Posted 3/14/15 , edited 3/14/15
I'd rather not walk on eggshells when the potential harm is great, the likelihood of harm is substantial, and the net gain is small. It just doesn't make any sense to, no matter how you slice it. I get that people want to use it to mean something else but our vocabularies are not so limited that we need to do this the hard way?

I don't use the word also because it sounds ugly. Haha, it's a trivial reason, but I consider useless stuff like that occasionally. I don't really mind if others use it, but they ought to know exactly when it is appropriate to do so instead of just yelling it in public (I've wanted to facepalm so many times because SO MANY people will brazenly do that in public). You don't normally go into public shouting things that might be considered racial slurs. It tells me that the person isn't really using their brain and makes me not want to associate with them.

You don't have to be professional all the time but you should be respectable.
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