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Post Reply Do you care how much your partner makes?
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I think that generally, there's been two camps so far:

Those that say "LOVE IS ALL I NEED!!!!" (and I think they really are young and inexperienced with just how uncomfortable being poor as fuck can be), and those of us that say, "get your fucking finances straight cause we aren't carrying your ass".... Which is to say, we aren't asking for someone to make a set figure, just that past experience has jaded us to knowing how fiscally draining it can be to have someone always leeching off you and doing nothing to fix it. (or have seen this situation develop in others).

Oddly enough money issues tend to be one of the top reasons why couples fight or separate.

http://www.couplescounselingchicago.net/reasons-for-divorce-top-10-reasons-marriages-end/

https://www.whatsyourprice.com/blog/the-top-break-up-reasons-of-2014/

And according to this, if GayAsianBoy is right. Cleanliness is up there with the reasons people fight... next to money:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2265615/House-cleaning-causes-marital-dust-ups-majority-couples-admit-row-chores-week.html

http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/money/perfi/basics/2006-04-27-couples-cash-series_x.htm

So yeah....

Money actually is kinda important.
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Wait, I have a partner?
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Not especially, as long as they bring home something if/when only one of us shouldering finances puts us in a tight spot. I'm of the mindset that, if a couple can afford to have only one person working or handling most of the bills, then it isn't absolutely necessary for the other to be on the same level; however, financial dependence has its risks. I wouldn't take kindly to my rhetorical partner throwing money around willy-nilly; acting like the finances are a bottomless well, getting abnormally possessive of money he didn't personally earn, and failing to make joint decisions with me over significant spending.
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Well, my dad was able to support five people with his income alone, so I don't see a problem with doing the same myself. I know laziness and greed have steadily taken over society, but surely we're not above putting up someone who puts out. Although, I suppose it's more rare these days to have a salary capable of supporting more than half a person with loans.
Posted 3/14/15
It's okay to care how much your partner makes. It's okay to want them to make more money. It's okay to want them to be the queen of England if possible.


Descrimination, it's everywhere.
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As long as it's enough to provide decent food, cheap clothes, basic utilities(water, heat, electricity), and a clean roof over our heads, I could care less about the actual amount. (This is coming from someone on disability, too. So, yeah, I very much know what it's like to be dirt poor.)
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I'd like to say I only care about the person... However I can't since one person can't pay the expenses of two people especially not if we want to have children since that's only going to increase the costs!
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