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Posted 3/14/15

severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:


IcedCola wrote:


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$50-$100 is good enough for me, if not cheaper. I don't have any interest in expensive engagement rings because there's other places that money could go which are more important. Plus I doubt I would wear an engagement ring after getting a wedding ring, so no point going all out for something with such a limited lifespan.

I know some people love expensive engagement rings, but that's not my style at all.


I'm shocked that you would spend more on ten months of your anime subscription than on the symbol that ties the person you love and yourself together. $50 will buy you a nice plastic ring.


Like I said, an expensive engagement ring just isn't my thing. Even a wedding ring doesn't need to be expensive or fancy -- a custom pewter pair is actually my ideal ring. For me, there are other ways which are so much better to show my love and commitment to someone else -- I have no desire for a super fancy ring to broadcast that to the world. Not when the only person who I care about knowing that is the person I've tied my life to already.

Also keep in mind that where I live, cost of living is extremely high. I'd rather be able to make rent, put food on the table, pay bills, and put something into a savings account than have $1000+ in metal and stone(s) sitting on my finger.

And hey, if my future partner and I could laze about and have a good time watching anime, that time and money is totally worth it



A bit passive. What's the point of marrying you?

Marriage is about showing off for the most part.


Marriage is about being with the person you love, not about showing off.

Posted 3/14/15

IcedCola wrote:


severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:


IcedCola wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:

$50-$100 is good enough for me, if not cheaper. I don't have any interest in expensive engagement rings because there's other places that money could go which are more important. Plus I doubt I would wear an engagement ring after getting a wedding ring, so no point going all out for something with such a limited lifespan.

I know some people love expensive engagement rings, but that's not my style at all.


I'm shocked that you would spend more on ten months of your anime subscription than on the symbol that ties the person you love and yourself together. $50 will buy you a nice plastic ring.


Like I said, an expensive engagement ring just isn't my thing. Even a wedding ring doesn't need to be expensive or fancy -- a custom pewter pair is actually my ideal ring. For me, there are other ways which are so much better to show my love and commitment to someone else -- I have no desire for a super fancy ring to broadcast that to the world. Not when the only person who I care about knowing that is the person I've tied my life to already.

Also keep in mind that where I live, cost of living is extremely high. I'd rather be able to make rent, put food on the table, pay bills, and put something into a savings account than have $1000+ in metal and stone(s) sitting on my finger.

And hey, if my future partner and I could laze about and have a good time watching anime, that time and money is totally worth it



A bit passive. What's the point of marrying you?

Marriage is about showing off for the most part.


Marriage is about being with the person you love, not about showing off.



Perhaps it's about both but i'd say the showing off part defines it.
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Posted 3/14/15

severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:

Like I said, an expensive engagement ring just isn't my thing. Even a wedding ring doesn't need to be expensive or fancy -- a custom pewter pair is actually my ideal ring. For me, there are other ways which are so much better to show my love and commitment to someone else -- I have no desire for a super fancy ring to broadcast that to the world. Not when the only person who I care about knowing that is the person I've tied my life to already.

Also keep in mind that where I live, cost of living is extremely high. I'd rather be able to make rent, put food on the table, pay bills, and put something into a savings account than have $1000+ in metal and stone(s) sitting on my finger.

And hey, if my future partner and I could laze about and have a good time watching anime, that time and money is totally worth it



A bit passive. What's the point of marrying you?

Marriage is about showing off for the most part.


Maybe for you, not for me. Different strokes, you know?

Simple engagement and wedding rings, getting married at city hall, having a small party for close friends and family afterward to celebrate, and a reasonable honeymoon. That's what I want. If my partner wanted something bigger then obviously there would be compromises on both sides, but marriage for me is about commitment and various financial and health benefits, not showing off.

If you want to go big, by all means and I wish you luck and happiness! I prefer a more modest, less flashy way of doing things
Posted 3/14/15

Omnomlette wrote:


severticas wrote:

Marriage is about showing off for the most part.


Maybe for you, not for me. Different strokes, you know?

Simple engagement and wedding rings, getting married at city hall, having a small party for close friends and family afterward to celebrate, and a reasonable honeymoon. That's what I want. If my partner wanted something bigger then obviously there would be compromises on both sides, but marriage for me is about commitment and various financial and health benefits, not showing off.

If you want to go big, by all means and I wish you luck and happiness! I prefer a more modest, less flashy way of doing things


You wouldn't mind a big engagement ring thou, would ya?
Posted 3/14/15 , edited 3/14/15
1,000 the most, you don't have to buy a huge ring from the start. You can always make the ring bigger through out the years you're married. Think of it as an anniversary present to her.
Posted 3/14/15
Think carefully about value if investing and being financially secure is part of any reason to marry.
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Honestly, when it comes to an engagement ring or wedding ring, I would want a ring that shows he knows what I like, versus how much he paid for it. My most comfortable price point would be $200-$400. Any more than that, and I would feel uncomfortable wearing it. I also do not like diamonds, either. Generally, for my taste in rings, I prefer colored stones, like iolite, amethyst, tourmaline, etc. I also have a soft spot for dainty, understated antique-style settings, and I find larger gem sizes to be gaudy.

If that time ever comes for me, I'm pointing my SO to Etsy instead of some overpriced jeweler. That place is full of rings I would love in the price range I mentoined.


I had not heard of iolite before -- it's pretty!

I'm with you in not really caring for diamonds. Too expensive and bland for my taste. Amethyst, tanzanite, and lapis lazuli are among my favourites. Alexandrite and ammolite could also be fun depending on the cut and properties of the stone.

It's kind of a shame that diamond is the default gemstone of choice, because there's so much more out there.
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Posted 3/14/15

severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:


severticas wrote:

Marriage is about showing off for the most part.


Maybe for you, not for me. Different strokes, you know?

Simple engagement and wedding rings, getting married at city hall, having a small party for close friends and family afterward to celebrate, and a reasonable honeymoon. That's what I want. If my partner wanted something bigger then obviously there would be compromises on both sides, but marriage for me is about commitment and various financial and health benefits, not showing off.

If you want to go big, by all means and I wish you luck and happiness! I prefer a more modest, less flashy way of doing things


You wouldn't mind a big engagement ring thou, would ya?


How big we talking about? Because odds are I would end up minding and possibly even considering calling things off (perhaps even ending the relationship all together). I may be willing to go a bit bigger if my partner loved the idea of fancy rings and we talked about it, but not too much bigger nor too much more expensive. And I'd want to pick out the ring myself because I have very specific tastes when it comes to jewelry.

If I were blindsided by a big fancy ring after I had already made it clear that's not my thing and I don't want that much money to be spent on jewelry, I'd nope right out of there. If someone's ego is more important than their respect for me, I do not want to be legally tied to them.

Giving jewelry in general is something where the giver absolutely needs to consider the receiver's tastes and likes first because the receiver is the one who will be wearing the jewelry (and depending on the ring, it could make coordinating outfits rather hard). Engagement and wedding rings are no exception. In fact, given it's assumed that one will wear those rings until the end of the relationship or death, it's all the more important to consider what the other person wants since they have to live with it.
Posted 3/14/15 , edited 3/14/15

Omnomlette wrote:


severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:


severticas wrote:

Marriage is about showing off for the most part.


Maybe for you, not for me. Different strokes, you know?

Simple engagement and wedding rings, getting married at city hall, having a small party for close friends and family afterward to celebrate, and a reasonable honeymoon. That's what I want. If my partner wanted something bigger then obviously there would be compromises on both sides, but marriage for me is about commitment and various financial and health benefits, not showing off.

If you want to go big, by all means and I wish you luck and happiness! I prefer a more modest, less flashy way of doing things


You wouldn't mind a big engagement ring thou, would ya?


How big we talking about? Because odds are I would end up minding and possibly even considering calling things off (perhaps even ending the relationship all together). I may be willing to go a bit bigger if my partner loved the idea of fancy rings and we talked about it, but not too much bigger nor too much more expensive. And I'd want to pick out the ring myself because I have very specific tastes when it comes to jewelry.

If I were blindsided by a big fancy ring after I had already made it clear that's not my thing and I don't want that much money to be spent on jewelry, I'd nope right out of there. If someone's ego is more important than their respect for me, I do not want to be legally tied to them.

Giving jewelry in general is something where the giver absolutely needs to consider the receiver's tastes and likes first because the receiver is the one who will be wearing the jewelry (and depending on the ring, it could make coordinating outfits rather hard). Engagement and wedding rings are no exception. In fact, given it's assumed that one will wear those rings until the end of the relationship or death, it's all the more important to consider what the other person wants since they have to live with it.


No price on love, right? So why the discrimination? His ego should not offend you in the least.

Didn't read the last paragraph but I will now. Aha, i rest my case.
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I wouldn't care what price it cost, as long as it's not ugly and doesn't turn my finger green~
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I'll be honest with you, I'd work my ass off for a year, and obtain whatever amount of money that I got, spend half of it on an engagement ring, and buy a wedding ring with another.

It does depend on how long you're going to be with your mate tho. If you can salvage 3-4 months to get more money for that big diamond, have funnn.

(Keep a $100 dollar bill for your honey moon, and stick it in one of her bras, she'll know what it means.)
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I'd keep it around $10,000 USD. No reason to get carried away.
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If you love me you'll be happy with whatever I give you.

How about a cat? Cats are nice.. Not expensive either.
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Posted 3/14/15

severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:

How big we talking about? Because odds are I would end up minding and possibly even considering calling things off (perhaps even ending the relationship all together). I may be willing to go a bit bigger if my partner loved the idea of fancy rings and we talked about it, but not too much bigger nor too much more expensive. And I'd want to pick out the ring myself because I have very specific tastes when it comes to jewelry.

If I were blindsided by a big fancy ring after I had already made it clear that's not my thing and I don't want that much money to be spent on jewelry, I'd nope right out of there. If someone's ego is more important than their respect for me, I do not want to be legally tied to them.

Giving jewelry in general is something where the giver absolutely needs to consider the receiver's tastes and likes first because the receiver is the one who will be wearing the jewelry (and depending on the ring, it could make coordinating outfits rather hard). Engagement and wedding rings are no exception. In fact, given it's assumed that one will wear those rings until the end of the relationship or death, it's all the more important to consider what the other person wants since they have to live with it.


No price on love, right? So why the discrimination? His ego should not offend you in the least.

Didn't read the last paragraph but I will now. Aha, i rest my case.


No price on love but when a small fixer upper house (with no yard) starts at $500k, rent for a decent apartment or condo is $2k+ a month, groceries for the month for two people can easily hit $400 if you don't get complete crap, and monthly bills can range from $300-$600, I'd rather pay those off than spend so much money on a ring I hate.

And I've dealt with far too many men with inflated egos to ever want to marry one. Being someone's trophy and having my opinions and comfort level completely ignored just is not romantic to me, for some reason.

I don't know why you're so invested in everyone having expensive rings. Some people like yourself love them, other people don't. Such is life. Neither side is wrong and both sides are entitled to their preferences.
Posted 3/14/15

Omnomlette wrote:


severticas wrote:


Omnomlette wrote:

How big we talking about? Because odds are I would end up minding and possibly even considering calling things off (perhaps even ending the relationship all together). I may be willing to go a bit bigger if my partner loved the idea of fancy rings and we talked about it, but not too much bigger nor too much more expensive. And I'd want to pick out the ring myself because I have very specific tastes when it comes to jewelry.

If I were blindsided by a big fancy ring after I had already made it clear that's not my thing and I don't want that much money to be spent on jewelry, I'd nope right out of there. If someone's ego is more important than their respect for me, I do not want to be legally tied to them.

Giving jewelry in general is something where the giver absolutely needs to consider the receiver's tastes and likes first because the receiver is the one who will be wearing the jewelry (and depending on the ring, it could make coordinating outfits rather hard). Engagement and wedding rings are no exception. In fact, given it's assumed that one will wear those rings until the end of the relationship or death, it's all the more important to consider what the other person wants since they have to live with it.


No price on love, right? So why the discrimination? His ego should not offend you in the least.

Didn't read the last paragraph but I will now. Aha, i rest my case.


No price on love but when a small fixer upper house (with no yard) starts at $500k, rent for a decent apartment or condo is $2k+ a month, groceries for the month for two people can easily hit $400 if you don't get complete crap, and monthly bills can range from $300-$600, I'd rather pay those off than spend so much money on a ring I hate.

And I've dealt with far too many men with inflated egos to ever want to marry one. Being someone's trophy and having my opinions and comfort level completely ignored just is not romantic to me, for some reason.

I don't know why you're so invested in everyone having expensive rings. Some people like yourself love them, other people don't. Such is life. Neither side is wrong and both sides are entitled to their preferences.


I just wanted to hear your story.

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