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Well, it's been a while since I've been in one since I've literally only been in one relationship before it went downhill.

Hang out with friends and do fun stuff to take my mind off it. Or watch anime and play games. It was over the summer so I had so much time on my hands after the breakup.
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I'm glad you like the vibes Missy. One thing I would add since you cohabitate. For me it kept being hard to have fun on my own until I left. I realised that and asked that she put in some effort to find a roommate so I could leave. Even with the great frustration of going back to my parents with my intimity limited to a very small room, I'm convinced it was the right thing to do, because at least now in this small room, here I am, enjoying anime, music, and writing this right now.
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imahipjapdude wrote:

Oh that's good to hear! Glad I'm not late on anything....


Nah you're fine... Wait! There's a time limit or something!... oh s***t!

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LittleMissee wrote:

The title speaks for itself!

Discuss. :)

I'm one of those who tends to keep myself busy when dealing with a break up. Working extra hours at my job, putting extra time in my studies, power cleaning the house, walking the dog excessively. I make time to relax (as best as I can) by reading books and drinking tea, or gaming with some online friends on xbox. It seems I'm fine, as long as I can hang onto my momentum, but dropping my guard, so to speak, makes reality a bit hard to deal with, so I just do my best to not give in to the ice cream pints and boxes of chocolates that call out to my misery.


im more the same, gaming, reading and tea drinking are great ways to avoid stress and depression. i also love gaming on my xbox with some friends when depression gets to me, or get into a good book. But a great alternative is gym workouts. Doing jump ropes, shadow boxing, hitting the punching bag or sparring are my stress relievers (BOXING). I believe when things sucks its BEST to smile through the BS, things get better eventually. They're always someone out there who has it worse. Hope things get better
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Oh no I'm sorry, I didn't mean it like that.... I just meant that I might have been behind all of you people with this stuff.
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I'm glad you like the vibes Missy. One thing I would add since you cohabitate. For me it kept being hard to have fun on my own until I left. I realised that and asked that she put in some effort to find a roommate so I could leave. Even with the great frustration of going back to my parents with my intimity limited to a very small room, I'm convinced it was the right thing to do, because at least now in this small room, here I am, enjoying anime, music, and writing this right now.


Thanks for the advice! I own the house, actually, so right now it's a case of him finding somewhere to go, and me either finding a roommate or budgeting to see if I can manage on my own (it'd be tight, but it might be possible, something I'm looking into). I can definitely see where you're coming from though. The feel of "personal space" has changed entirely. At least it wasn't an awful break up. It was mutual and mature, buuut, nonetheless, you can't do much about the awkward leftovers, ya know?


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LittleMissee wrote:

The title speaks for itself!

Discuss. :)

I'm one of those who tends to keep myself busy when dealing with a break up. Working extra hours at my job, putting extra time in my studies, power cleaning the house, walking the dog excessively. I make time to relax (as best as I can) by reading books and drinking tea, or gaming with some online friends on xbox. It seems I'm fine, as long as I can hang onto my momentum, but dropping my guard, so to speak, makes reality a bit hard to deal with, so I just do my best to not give in to the ice cream pints and boxes of chocolates that call out to my misery.


im more the same, gaming, reading and tea drinking are great ways to avoid stress and depression. i also love gaming on my xbox with some friends when depression gets to me, or get into a good book. But a great alternative is gym workouts. Doing jump ropes, shadow boxing, hitting the punching bag or sparring are my stress relievers (BOXING). I believe when things sucks its BEST to smile through the BS, things get better eventually. They're always someone out there who has it worse. Hope things get better


I actually have a small home gym, and yes, there's a punching bag!!! I've been neglecting it, but I'm glad you brought it up, I think I should get back to it and vent some frustration. There's so much damn snow outside I can't get active outdoors quite yet, but I think the bag can handle some of my stress. Thanks for the advice/thoughts. ^.^

You're all so great, thanks.
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LittleMissee wrote:


Gegueure wrote:

I'm glad you like the vibes Missy. One thing I would add since you cohabitate. For me it kept being hard to have fun on my own until I left. I realised that and asked that she put in some effort to find a roommate so I could leave. Even with the great frustration of going back to my parents with my intimity limited to a very small room, I'm convinced it was the right thing to do, because at least now in this small room, here I am, enjoying anime, music, and writing this right now.


Thanks for the advice! I own the house, actually, so right now it's a case of him finding somewhere to go, and me either finding a roommate or budgeting to see if I can manage on my own (it'd be tight, but it might be possible, something I'm looking into). I can definitely see where you're coming from though. The feel of "personal space" has changed entirely. At least it wasn't an awful break up. It was mutual and mature, buuut, nonetheless, you can't do much about the awkward leftovers, ya know?


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LittleMissee wrote:

The title speaks for itself!

Discuss. :)

I'm one of those who tends to keep myself busy when dealing with a break up. Working extra hours at my job, putting extra time in my studies, power cleaning the house, walking the dog excessively. I make time to relax (as best as I can) by reading books and drinking tea, or gaming with some online friends on xbox. It seems I'm fine, as long as I can hang onto my momentum, but dropping my guard, so to speak, makes reality a bit hard to deal with, so I just do my best to not give in to the ice cream pints and boxes of chocolates that call out to my misery.


im more the same, gaming, reading and tea drinking are great ways to avoid stress and depression. i also love gaming on my xbox with some friends when depression gets to me, or get into a good book. But a great alternative is gym workouts. Doing jump ropes, shadow boxing, hitting the punching bag or sparring are my stress relievers (BOXING). I believe when things sucks its BEST to smile through the BS, things get better eventually. They're always someone out there who has it worse. Hope things get better


I actually have a small home gym, and yes, there's a punching bag!!! I've been neglecting it, but I'm glad you brought it up, I think I should get back to it and vent some frustration. There's so much damn snow outside I can't get active outdoors quite yet, but I think the bag can handle some of my stress. Thanks for the advice/thoughts. ^.^

You're all so great, thanks.


No problem, just make sure you put on some hand wraps when you hit the bag. VERY BAD for your hands if you dont. Also if you need another gaming buddy, my username is the same as my GT on xbox.
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Ha! Daym Canadian winter eh? 'You getting that storm right now? I knew it was coming but I just looked out the window (Québec city) and what the?!
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I avoid serious relationships because 1. I'm afraid of getting tied down and 2. I'm afraid of people getting close enough that they could hurt me. Sooo...I deal with breakups by avoiding the kind of relationship needed to breakup? But in all honesty, I would deal with a breakup the same way I deal with most bad things: through myself into a story I'm writing and listen to a lot of music. Basically tune out the entire world and avoid the issue until I can't anymore.
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Gegueure wrote:

Ha! Daym Canadian winter eh? 'You getting that storm right now? I knew it was coming but I just looked out the window (Québec city) and what the?!


hahah yah, I'm in New Brunswick (are you French, btw?)!! It hasn't started yet but I'm dreading it's arrival, it's supposed to start snowing in a few hours... like we don't have enough snow already! Spring is a lie!!
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Well when I broke up with my girlfriend last year I didn't really think much of it since we mutually agreed that things just weren't working out between up. If I had to go through a breakup with someone and I didn't want it to be over, then I would probably turn to my music to help get through it.
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I usually just let myself mope for a few days. Cry a lot at first, then just deal with it all. Just keep on living my life. I'll be sad for a while, and I might cry if something reminds me particularly of a memory I had with the person. But I don't really do anything out of the ordinary. I just deal by not dealing, by just going about life as it was before the person came along.
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It also appears to me you're doing it just right, staying positive and communicating with others seems like the ideal solution to me.
Don't tell yourself you miss them, you're forgetting them. Don't deny that they're gone, accept it. Denial is a toxic emotion... looking at you onibrotonel >_> Far better it is to have a stout heart always and suffer one's share of evils, than to be ever fearing of what may happen.

I had a 6-year relationship end that originally started in WoW after living together for a year and 4 months. Proof to me that you never truly know if they are the one until you have lived with them. That was just over a year ago that we broke up, whoa did time fly by.

I'm grateful our breakup was cordial and mostly mutual although I can't deny that I felt like I just wasn't good enough. Luckily I own the house we were living together in, paying all of the bills myself, and she had somewhere to go. Went to some dude she worked with who shortly afterwards gave her a STD... ouch. That makes me kind of wish I just let her stay until she could've gone back to her parents in KS. I always only ever wished her happiness, and still do, though I can't imagine living with someone if you still deeply care for them, but you're just disconnected. I am sorry that you have to go through that and I wish you the best in whatever decisions need to be made.

I coped the only way that worked for me, removing myself from the real world and living in video games as much as possible. No smoking or drinking for me, I can't stand either for many reasons. I tried the working out thing, it didn't distract my mind enough and I kept losing focus, but I've heard that it works for a lot of people. Anything that allowed my mind to wander wasn't good, like trying to go to sleep. It just didn't work for me haha I got too worked up until eventually I just started staying in my computer chair until I passed out from fatigue. My online friends were a huge help, we talked about it once, and never again. Them playing with me and keeping me distracted was awesome. Anime was a good help too. I think it was Attack on Titan I was watching, great anime if you haven't seen it. I'd say I was over it in about two or three months. I'm not sure if that's fucked up or a good thing, but I was sure glad to be happy again. That month-long trip across Europe helped tremendously... I thank my family for that.

Dis is for you Missee, and anyone else going through a break up


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imahipjapdude wrote:

I don't know I've never had a relationship with anyone... (lol) Is that sad?


I'm three years older than you, still never been in a relationship. Hell, a long hug was the closest I ever got.

For lack of trying of course.



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I've never been dumped.

But then again...I've never had a girlfriend.
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