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Do you believe people can change what they're like? Not just superficially, but fundamentally change their personality.

I'm of the belief you can, although it's pretty damn hard. Maybe because I've changed a lot myself from when I was younger. Even within a couple years, I'm pretty different than I was. Definitely a lot more laid-back and calm. My personality is pretty damn twisted too, but I suppose now it's just twisted in a different direction. Something like 'I don't want to do anything!" has now become "I don't want to do things that aren't going to give me an advantage later on." From a lazy person to a calculating and selfish person. Ah, what a wonderful adult I've become. Praise me.~

But yeah, what do you think?
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Yeah, and yes it does take time.
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I'd agree that it's possible, but does take time and effort. That, or severe psychological trauma.

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It's hard, but not impossible. Look at Vegeta.
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CSDiggity wrote:

I'd agree that it's possible, but does take time and effort. That, or severe psychological trauma.



This.
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Personality is a mask.
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It takes therapy over a long period and patient, caring friends; but personalities can definitely be friends. I am much more calm and understanding than I used to be, and it is because people were there to support me that I changed.
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I used to be shy and always nervous and very angry a people and suddenly when I turn 17 I change a lot. Even when people get in my-face I don't get angry or anything,I just stay calm. I used to be attack a lot in school by bullies. To the point that if I think I being attack or about to be attack My Adrenalin activate immediately. I also developed a immunity to fear or pain. I even star looking for ways to escape or weapon to use. I use to fight 3 or more people a once. I become merciless in fights, even if hurt badly I don't show the pain. It gotten to the point that even if I'm hurt badly if there something I need to do I do it first over going to the hospital. Last year I was hit by a car and instead of staying there I decide it was more important to go to the meting with my counselor I have plan that day. And because I did't want to worry my father. I have to be convince to go to the hospital and let him call my dad. The counselor took me himself to the hospital. By the way I have zero damage from the car other than some minor pain. My dad was giving me are you crazy look. Hell I even when I enter a building I star looking for exits and entrances. Where everything is located and stuff like that. I can even tell if somebody is lying to me if I pay attention to them even if I don't know them. I think the counselor even ask me if I hear voices ? I answer with hell no, I no crazy. I can be very cold to people I hate or I am angry to. I think he say he want to tested me if I have Asperger syndrome. Because he say even when I feel like crying or something like that I don't show it . He say I have extremely control of my emotion when I don't want to show emotions or something like that. He also says he want to see how in the hell I can witch on or off my empathy toward people that I'm angry or dislike.
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The brain is highly plastic and adaptable. It is very much possible to change by reinforcing different behaviours and thinking patterns while simultaneously excluding others. This is assuming your brain is not atypical and that your frontal lobe hasn't been damaged by having a rod jammed through it, for instance.
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I was one of those young teens who had "lost hope in humanity," and was just very dark inside. I hid it well though, for a long time too. I was at my worst at the beginning of 2014, but after some time off school, "getting help," and catching up on some old hobbies, I've learned to accept things as they are, and to not keep my feelings inside. Whenever I post in the forums, I'm usually indifferent and make silly remarks. I usually keep an open mind about the topics here, but either way, I don't want to get into arguments. I value any form of happiness highly, and don't want anyone or anything to take that away from me. Basically, I've went from letting every serious issue eat at me to the core, to becoming the deciding factor of what will make me feel emotion, although happiness comes naturally. I no longer have dark thoughts and I constantly catch myself smiling more and more. So yes, I do think people can change their personality. You just have to be willing to try.

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I think minute changes happen all the time. Maybe not to as much of an extent to your 'core' personality, but the changes are gradual and take years. Compare your self of today to your self from 10 years ago and you'll get an idea.
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I think minute changes happen all the time. Maybe not to as much of an extent to your 'core' personality, but the changes are gradual and take years. Compare your self of today to your self from 10 years ago and you'll get an idea.


Ten year old me, eh? Ahhh.~ So full of....youth? I guess. Hmmm....

I can tell ten year old me and twenty year old (current) me are fundamentally different, but I can't really put it into words.
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Phersu wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:

I think minute changes happen all the time. Maybe not to as much of an extent to your 'core' personality, but the changes are gradual and take years. Compare your self of today to your self from 10 years ago and you'll get an idea.


Ten year old me, eh? Ahhh.~ So full of....youth? I guess. Hmmm....

I can tell ten year old me and twenty year old (current) me are fundamentally different, but I can't really put it into words.


Yeah, but there are still core things that are intact.

My core philosophy hasn't changed much during my life. I was telling my family I never wanted to grow up as a kid and I still feel like that is right, for instance. All my old screen names feel right. I still despise superfluous change and my tastes have not changed much. I guess my core personality is still there, just tempered by physiological changes and newly acquired knowledge.
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Morbidhanson wrote:

Yeah, but there are still core things that are intact.

My core philosophy hasn't changed much during my life. I was telling my family I never wanted to grow up as a kid and I still feel like that is right, for instance. All my old screen names feel right. I still despise superfluous change and my tastes have not changed much. I guess my core personality is still there, just tempered by physiological changes and newly acquired knowledge.


Hmmhmmm....core things? My love for cartoons and reading, I suppose. My philosophies and beliefs have changed tons, though. I'm just that kind of person.~
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Phersu wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:

I think minute changes happen all the time. Maybe not to as much of an extent to your 'core' personality, but the changes are gradual and take years. Compare your self of today to your self from 10 years ago and you'll get an idea.


Ten year old me, eh? Ahhh.~ So full of....youth? I guess. Hmmm....

I can tell ten year old me and twenty year old (current) me are fundamentally different, but I can't really put it into words.


Well yeah, because 10 year old you did not have his personality set. If you're talking about fundamental changes, it's only really significant after your brain has finished maturing during your mid 20s or at least after puberty. At which point you can claim with some degree of confidence that a and b are your personality traits and they have now changed to c and d. Anything before that is just part of your normal development.
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