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Post Reply A Child's Future Is Worth Every Sacrifice
Posted 3/29/15

Kavalion wrote:


GayAsianBoy wrote:
And yeah it's "tiring" to juggle all of these things, but people should have thought of that and weigh in the factors before they make babies. Or just abort the thing if you're not financially/emotionally prepared.
My opinion may be harsh, but I dislike not having any support. It's like not having parents or families at all.


No way! That's just an unhealthy perfectionist attitude... we don't have to be perfect parents to have kids. And it's important to our full enjoyment of life to have and raise kids.

If you're thinking about having kids but you're intimidated by the unrealistic expectations of parents... don't listen to that tripe! Just be yourself and do your best! Raising kids isn't about sacrifice... it would be a sacrifice to not have any!


i don't know how "bonding, supporting and encouragement" translate into "perfectionism"...



if you want me to elaborate on those three, then i can... but in no way am i expecting perfectionism from anybody...
it's hard to bond with parents who would rather talk/brag to their friends all day...
hard to reach your full potential when you want to be something but they want you to be something else...
and like when you achieved something at school, no praise was ever given. when i was able to paint something, there was no look of excitement or happiness...


This isn't expecting perfectionism... it's expecting some sort of words of encouragement. Anyway, that's all done and over. Ended up having to do everything myself and see value in myself...
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My parents never lied about anything... If they making sacrifice you bet I will hear about it

I guess parents are different nowadays
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Posted 3/29/15 , edited 3/29/15

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Video: My Dad is a Liar

Do you have parents like this? I know I do to some degree. They came here with nothing and I'm sure it was hard as hell. Parents are people too. They want to know that someone is thinking of them. My parents have made many mistakes along the way, still I want to show them that I am grateful for all the things they have done right for me.

Talk about the sacrifices your parents made for you? Do you think they are happy?




This video made me cry.

Its beautiful.


Santera

PS: Just don't look at the Metlife logo at the end. Kills the awesome touching filling like an ice bucket.
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My parents sucked at their job, they really did. They screwed up all of my siblings really badly. I wouldn't say I'm not screwed up, but I'm able to actually make reasonable decisions.
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omg I hate you.

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i mean the father is doing what he's supposed to do.. lol
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I lost my home when I was 6 years old, after my parents divorced. My mom lied and said we were just going to live with grandma for a while, because we haven't seen my grandma in so long. And of course, I believed it. But we lived there for 4 years. She couldn't possibly keep that lie up for long. Nor was I oblivious.

I feel like as we get older, we slowly begin to realize these things. Whether we take it for granted or not is based on our amount of knowledge. My parents are very flawed, and imperfect people. But I love them both very much.

Okay, whew, I didn't mean to get so serious there. I have to go lie down for 4 hours for feeling so much emotion.
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My mother left town without telling me when I was young. Haven't spoken to her in decades. My father/stepmother were good people but not good parents. I am grateful for everything my they did. They supported us and gave us a stable environment, no doubt it was difficult for them to take us in so suddenly after being part-time parents. I was never happy when I was a kid though. They didn't know how to show affection and they made some very poor decisions. I've made peace with it though. They did the best they could.
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Posted 3/29/15 , edited 3/29/15
Do you view your friends as obligations or friends? I feel like one of the two is only applied to parents.

MysticGon wrote:

Have you made any sacrifices for your parents?
Not enough, no.
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