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Do you prefer brains or body in the opposite sex
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silversongwriter wrote:


PhantomGundam wrote:

This is why the divorce rate in this country is so high. More people like the OP only caring about sex and not putting in effort to maintain relationships. I don't know how old you are, but you sound like a kid who just entered high school and experienced your first rejection.

But to answer the original question:





No.... I felt this way for 3 years... I've never stopped thinking about her.

Love doesn't really have any advantages when you actually think about it. You're restricted, you have all sorts of responsibilities with that person, you have to be with them, regardless of whether it's convenient for you. You would have to put her needs above your own, and she would have to do the same.

How many people actually got what it takes to do that? I can't see how anybody could call that easy


It's not easy and that's kinda the point. If you want easy avoid relationships. If you are selfish, avoid relationships. People who can (at least part of the time) put another's interests above that of their own are the ones who will have successful relationships.

A common misconception is that one falls in love; lies. You fall into infatuation (regardless of degree). Love is putting another before yourself every second of every day. True love is impossible for us, yet we try regardless.

How marriage is supposed to work:
1) You find a partner you can love.
2) You swear to them you will put their needs before that of your own.
3) You keep that promise for the rest of your life, regardless of circumstances

If it was easy, we wouldn't have our current statistics. Find an old couple and learn from them.
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I'll be honest... I want to lose my viginity. But I never wanna love... never again. I'll never fall in love again, it's a disgusting feeling. It's sick, it's wrong, it makes you foolish and brings misery upon me. That girl stole my sanity for a long time. Love is stupid.

So I prefer body. My dream is to find a girl who's extremly stupid and slutty and dumb. One who's easy to manipulate cause she's stupid.
But she need to be able to drop dat booty down lower than her IQ.

The best part, is that I wouldn't love her, I would just buy her shit, and rings and stuff... it would be like having a private prostitute.
I wouldn't care if she cheated on me... She's not in my heart and I won't love her, so I won't care if she cheats on me, because she's just a person I have sex with and I don't really like her. And I could easilly not give a crap about leaving her if she gets annoying.
I just think love has too many responsibilites, so it's not worth it. I just care about having sex

That's the reason that personally, I think I consider looks as being more important in a relationship. If it's a nice smart girl, I might falll in love with her... and that would only bring me pain.


Okay to start of your a sociopath. If your that hateful of woman after one breakup just listen to this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ma7lyfYzIw8
and rethink your views on women.

Anyway to answer the question I think the brains lead you to finding a womens body attractive. Most girls Ive had a thing for was I was attracted to because of the way they acted and how they thought. After learning about there personalities I began finding there bodies attractive.
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It's tough. I'm gonna be honest and it may be shallow but I'm always attracted to someone by their looks first. But you could be the hottest guy with a shitty personality and I will not give a second thought. So, I'm not so shallow as to let their looks blind me from their crap personality. Also, along with looks and personality- just having a healthy looking body. It says a lot about yourself. Taking care of yourself can be the sexiest thing to me. So with that being said, you could have not the greatest looking face but if you have a nice bod and awesome personality then F yeah, I'd go for you.

I guess biggest thing is: 1. Having a great personality.
2. Taking care of your body.
3. Face hotness.

Comes down to don't be a douche and you're all right with me. <3
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Neither.
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Do you prefer brains or body in the opposite sex?


Why would we have to chose between brains and body?
The two are not mutually exclusive. That's a stereotype.
Geeks and nerds aren't more intelligent, they simply (usually) embrace different interests than people with better emotional intelligence (ability to interact with people).

In truth, fit and beautiful people are known for above average intelligence.

Here is an article in Psychology today. (I can picture the howling and gnashing of teeth.)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/201012/beautiful-people-really-are-more-intelligent


So, it is not a very fair question.


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So long as she keeps herself lean and healthy and has an above-average intelligence, then by all means.....
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Brains > Body always but you can't ignore body does matter somewhat.
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Hmmm..... I think both but if I had too pick one, I give the edge to body although brains are important. Nobody wants a dummy
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As long as i think she is sexy then its good with me.

As far as brains as long as theres no clinically something wrong with her then its good with me.

That being said I'd value someone who is loyal and tells the truth over both. (i know i ask the impossible.)
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I need a bit of both i want someone who is cool but whom I am attracted to, it's crazy you have to settle for inner/outer beauty
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Reading OP's posts made me feel like curling up and dying.

My boyfriend has EDS type 4. It's a basically rare disease that leaves you in constant pain as you become a young adult, gives you a life-threatening disorder in your 20's, and possibly kills you when you're about 45. A lot of people with this syndrome end up with depression, especially because they struggle to find a partner who will understand and persevere through the pain with them the best they can. When we started dating, neither of us knew that he had it. According to the OP, since he's going to die, especially at an early age, why should I even waste my time? I fell in love with him, and he's my best friend. Him being physically weak and thin doesn't matter.
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I like how Qualesha3 and Santera pretty much posted the same thing.. i wonder if they notice that.
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i need both cuz aren't opposites supposed to attract
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Brains.
You have issues.
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Santera wrote:

Do you prefer brains or body in the opposite sex?


Why would we have to chose between brains and body?
The two are not mutually exclusive. That's a stereotype.
Geeks and nerds aren't more intelligent, they simply (usually) embrace different interests than people with better emotional intelligence (ability to interact with people).

In truth, fit and beautiful people are known for above average intelligence.

Here is an article in Psychology today. (I can picture the howling and gnashing of teeth.)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/201012/beautiful-people-really-are-more-intelligent


So, it is not a very fair question.


Santera


Interesting article but Id like to point out that the image of attractiveness is entirely dependent on societal views. Go back couple hundred years and the standard of beauty was completely different. Also intelligence at least in our current time is a bit loose to measure. The standards in america we use to judge intelligence in wide swaths are incredibly inaccurate and alot factors in like how and were someone was raised are not considered. Nowadays the theory of multiple intelligences is much more accepted among teaching and psychologist communities which differentiates intelligence in modalities like visual-spacial, verbal-linguistic, logical-mathmatical, etc, rather than a generalized intelligence. The test used in the 60-70s which this study draws its data from are outdated by todays standards which arent even that solid measures of intelligence on there own.

Also am I the only one a bit creeped out by how teachers defined their 7 and 11 year old students as psychically attractive. Seems a bit Jimmy Savilley to me.
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