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No matter how much I drink, I can't forget about her.

Sometimes, when I getn too drunk, In start crying over her. I cry and scream her name really loud, and have no memory.

I really, wish I forget.. I tried smoking a lot of weed, spice, drinking DXM and a lot of alcohol, but I can't forget her. I've forgotten so much. I've forgotten most of my childhood, and I have very few memories, but for some reason, I can't forget her... I hate this. I hate her memories. I wanna forget all about her.

This is how I've felt for 3 years.
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Just move on, it really is that simple. Trust me on that.
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Alcohol is a depressant, so step one would probably be to do less of that.
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Im no expert on love but just in my personal opinion... live.

Sometimes you won't forget people. Im pretty young and I've only been in one relationship and it was kind of shitty but is still miss the good days. But if you haven't forgotten over three years then chances are you probably won't for several more. So what I say is pick yourself up and go make new memories with new people. Go out with friends, go make some if you don't have any, get a hobby or something else along those lines.

Believe me, I know its easier said than done, but now you can't say no-one told you to.
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lol
Man the fuck up

Eminem - Superman

You will thank me later, with that song.
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silversongwriter wrote:

No matter how much I drink, I can't forget about her.

Sometimes, when I getn too drunk, In start crying over her. I cry and scream her name really loud, and have no memory.

I really, wish I forget.. I tried smoking a lot of weed, spice, drinking DXM and a lot of alcohol, but I can't forget her. I've forgotten so much. I've forgotten most of my childhood, and I have very few memories, but for some reason, I can't forget her... I hate this. I hate her memories. I wanna forget all about her.

This is how I've felt for 3 years.


If this person has passed away and you can't forget her, it means that she made a great and positive impact on your life. Even if she is still alive, then not being able to forget her means the same thing. If she has passed away, then those memories may never fade. However, DON'T forget her. Instead, cherish those memories as happy times that you'll never forget. Look at them in a positive light instead of a negative one and it will start to feel better. When we lose a loved one, the pain never goes away, only fades in time. I know this because my own Father passed away almost nine years ago, on the 8th of April. The pain of losing him has never left me, but the memories keep me going because I know that he'd want me to keep living my life. Those memories and that pain are how our loved ones are remembered and not forgotten.

If this is someone who you loved who you are no longer with, then it may not have been meant to be. If it was, or is, meant to be, then you may end up back together, though by the length of time that has past, this is probably not possible. Open your heart to the possibility of being loved by someone else and when you meet the right person the pain will fade away on its own. Both of these feelings and situations I know from experience, and I also know from experience that things do, and will, get better. I hope that this helps you some at least.

*Listening to 'Pray That You Always Understand Me' from the third Bleach movie and 'My Immortal' by Evanescence while writing this.*
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You get a new one.
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Your waifu will always love you
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I don't think you should forget. I mean my last girlfriend cheated on me with my best friend. It was a really bad breakup and I have a lot of hate inside of me that i haven't let go of. But despite all that, there are times where u have moments u should cherish.

You never should have any regrets in life. any good or bad experience means you gain more wisdom. You can continue your life and either do better if you made a mistake or continue doing what you're doing if everything is all right.

I've been sulking about my ex who cheated on me, and i've complained about my love, but the community of crunchy roll slapped me out of it.

You shouldn't forget a loved one. It may seem unreasonable, what i'm saying to you right now if you're still in pain, but nothing we do in life is unreasonable.

Use what you learned and look at your future. Your new loved one, and your new partner.

Because what matters is the end result after all.

But never forget! don't ever forget the feeling of holding that person. all the memories you shared. Respect them. Respect yourself. Respect the person you're going to meet.
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I made a video about ur forum https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Dx6jYkid9s
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hmm sorry to hear that. Wait no that's what most people would say... That pain your feeling is gonna make you stronger somewhere down the road. Be glad that you have this chance to get stronger. Me im immune to unrequited love so i don't completely understand exactly what your going through, better yet i don't understand many people when they love someone they can't have. A long time ago before i became immune to it i did once love someone who didn't love me back. She loved my friend it was painful for me to see her and hear her talk about him everyday.
Eventually I decided that i won't love her anymore. By that i mean i took steps to getting over her. It was alot simpler then everyone believes. I found three options on how to stop loving someone i couldn't have. 1. Pretend to move on. Just like in alot of animes this can have alot of shocking results if you keep a open mind. You may even find someone much better. 2. Beat a powerful emotion with a equally powerful emotion for love that would be hate. I see alot of people act like they are doing this option but really don't try to hate the person. Everything you love about someone can be linked to something also bad about them. Bear in mind this option will end the friendship or chance of friendship, and for alot of people that hurt watching the person they love love someone else that may be best. and 3. Get rid of your love for them.
This is the most painful option. This is the one i always use when i even start having a crush on a girl that i can't be with. You take all the love you have for them and accept it and decide to get rid of it. You never treat them any better then your friends and you always prioritize your serous life issues before theirs. Do whatever it takes. Stay away from them, be kind of mean, don't get sucked into group events with them, don't do them any huge favors. No matter what they say or what both of ya'll's friends say. Don't take the stab for others. There no point in that if your the only one bleeding. Stopping yourself from loving someone is gonna hurt alot, but it won't hurt nearly as much as loving something you can't have.
Btw there is more options out there these are just the ones i seen and used that worked. Human beings can do anything if they want to. Never forget that.
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Option 1: Get a waifu
Option 2: Watch a lot anime
Option 3: Both
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Silver, Sometimes, you'll never get over the person so it's best to remember them and move on. All of the people here are right who suggest depressants not helping the situation. About 20 years ago due to medication I was on and a bad breakup (with the girl I proposed to when I was 10 and was engaged to much later) I tried doing something stupid and almost died for it. Years went on and we got back together numerous times only in the end to realize that our first breakup may have been trying to tell us something. She's now married with a kid last I heard and honestly without her I've gotten to meet some wonderful women who I now regret not taking a chance at a deeper relationship with due to my pining over her. I still love her and always will but now realize although I thought she was the only one she wasn't.
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Alcohol WITH friends. Don't drink alone. And try not to drink too much. Don't get absolutely hammered. Drunk is okay but 11/10 hammered is not.

Then, again, I don't consider my breakups as having been particularly traumatic. Before that first breakup with my ex of 1.5 years (still my longest relationship by far), I had not shed tears for over a decade. It exposed me to all the raw emotions I wasn't used to, which was probably good for me. I was very cold and stoic before that. That made my first was the worst but I pretty much just went out with friends when they made me, and my best college girl friend insisted on making me go out with her whenever she wanted to do something, even if she only wanted to grab a boba or go grocery shopping, so that helped. I'm sure she knew, since she isn't the type to be that clingy with anyone. I was really thankful to her for that after I realized how important it was in retrospect. In my spare time, I continued my martial arts training and meditated under the bridges in my local park. The park is huge so it was easy to find areas from which I would encounter no people for many hours.

I wasn't allergic to the sun yet back then so I enjoyed being in the park and away from people when I wasn't out with my college friend. Took me about half a year but I got over it. It eventually comes down to not immersing yourself in awful thoughts. Truth me told, I was able to control myself and my emotions again after two months. The remaining four month period was spent trying not to give in to the temptation of continuing to think bad thoughts.

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if you truely loved the person you will never forget them.

To heal all you can do is try to wait it out until you are capable of finding someone else.
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