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Posted 4/6/15 , edited 4/6/15
I also do not think you can ever forget about a person you felt so strongly about. I still think about my exes every once in a while and wonder how they are doing but these thoughts are not colored with malice or regret or sadness. Although I no longer talk to a few of them, I'm not opposed to the idea of speaking to them again and catching up. Not due to any lingering feelings but due to how they were there for me in pivotal points in my life and are still good people I confided in, who shared secrets with me in return.
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silversongwriter wrote:

No matter how much I drink, I can't forget about her.

Sometimes, when I getn too drunk, In start crying over her. I cry and scream her name really loud, and have no memory.

I really, wish I forget.. I tried smoking a lot of weed, spice, drinking DXM and a lot of alcohol, but I can't forget her. I've forgotten so much. I've forgotten most of my childhood, and I have very few memories, but for some reason, I can't forget her... I hate this. I hate her memories. I wanna forget all about her.

This is how I've felt for 3 years.


I think once you love someone you don't forget them. If you see a person who's been in love and they are able to get by like nothing is wrong, they've only learned to live without the person they miss. Your love for that person may decrease over the years and someone might come along who you'll love even more but you'll always still have feelings for the previous person you fell in love with. That's what I think.

How do I know this? Because for three years I've loved someone who's many years older than me. At first he didn't take me seriously because of my age but as I got older and wasn't letting the idea go, he realized I was serious and he won't even talk to me anymore. I don't know how you feel but I wasn't even given a chance because I'm inadequate; not what he wants. You have a better chance than me; if you call that person up and try again what will happen? If you feel like you've already lost everything you had with this person then there's nothing more to lose so you might as well try and try again til your heart's content, that's what I do.
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Posted 4/7/15
Simple. Just forget. :P

For a more philosophical view point, well... I rather not say since it'll be too long. Just doing your most basic daily task [that didn't involve your loved one] is a start.
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Posted 4/7/15 , edited 4/7/15
You don't forget; however, if you want to move on with your life, it's imperative that you stop running from reality. All you're currently doing is masking the pain with intoxicants, and begging for attention. You seem stuck in the Anger, Denial and Isolation, and Depression stages proposed by the Kübler-Ross model of bereavement.
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Watch lots of Anime, and Anime swipe my memories with them away
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vorpleghost wrote:

if you truely loved the person you will never forget them.

To heal all you can do is try to wait it out until you are capable of finding someone else.


That's true

And if our heart is empty our empty heart will be filled by people around us and if we lost someone there will be someone who'll change that person and make our heart filled again ^-^

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Posted 4/7/15 , edited 4/7/15

silversongwriter wrote:

No matter how much I drink, I can't forget about her.

Sometimes, when I getn too drunk, In start crying over her. I cry and scream her name really loud, and have no memory.

I really, wish I forget.. I tried smoking a lot of weed, spice, drinking DXM and a lot of alcohol, but I can't forget her. I've forgotten so much. I've forgotten most of my childhood, and I have very few memories, but for some reason, I can't forget her... I hate this. I hate her memories. I wanna forget all about her.

This is how I've felt for 3 years.


Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Don't try to forget them, remember them fondly for the good times if you can, and go out and find some more people to make memories with.

Alternatively start another new political thread and we can have another chat over some size of government issue, if that helps.

EIDT: Sorry that might have been a bit callous of me

Either way man I do hope you feel better soon.
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for me, I once had someone that I really liked. I really wanted to marry her. I had tunnel vision and all that I saw was her. The thing was that I had tunnel vision, and I stopped caring about myself, and only cared about her. It was as if I had never existed when I was with her. The next thing I know, she breaks up with me, and suddenly I'm awake to reality. now... I'm 20 years old, jobless, without a relationship, and watching anime. I guess that all that I can really say is that you should try to take it from me. Keep your mind out of reality. it really sucks when you go back. It just keeps on reminding you about what your life really is. I'm here to tell you that there's nothing better than anime. In all honesty, I just wish that everything in my life would just go away. the thing that sucks is that I have family, so killing myself is out of the question. There are still women on the planet to mate with, so I guess that I'm not that worthless. the thing is: only a handful of women would be able to be my girlfriend in the entire world. Out of the entire 3 and a half billion women on the planet, only five or six would be able to be my mate. That is how it is with my selection of genetics, and logic. Most of the women that I would consider for my mate have already been taken by other men. Therefore, I am not to be engaging in any kind of relationship because there is no point in going after women. They're not worth it.
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alcohol and drugs tend to help!

No but seriously, time heals all wounds
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It's simple, don't forget.
Remember why you loved her, why you're not with her and accept that it's okay to move on.
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Posted 4/10/15
Think of it as something that's behind you and move on with the rest of your life. Find something new to obsess over, one should do something positive, like improve on oneself~

If you really can't forget, is she dead? Then she would probably want you to be happy.
Is she alive? Well it's been long enough for you to start working on yourself and try to fix whatever happened/yourself.
Even if shes with another man, you can be better then him if you work on yourself.. It just wont be easy.
Posted 4/11/15
Replace your feelings with something else.
A new hobby, a new person, even.
You don't have to get over it, but you have to move on.
You can't keep torturing yourself.
You want to swim, hike, hunt for rocks, dance, sing, play a musical instrument, fish, sew, cook, raise bugs, sculpt, craft wood, grow plants, make movies, write stories, travel, review movies-- anything.
Life continues on.
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