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The title seems harsh but I couldn't figure out any other way to word it. I just recently found out that a fellow classmate, friend, and very respectable young man who was going places in life ended up being charged on many bad counts. I'm not going to be too specific, but it's a record that he won't recover from easily in his life.

It just came as a shock to me. This is my first experience with seeing someone I used to know in the news under such negative connotation. Especially someone as respectable as he was.

I guess that just goes to show you that everyone fights their own personal battles that no one truly understands on the outside.
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I can understand the title being harsh and won't dig any deeper into the person you're talking about. I can't really relate because I don't look up to many people. I don't trust them enough to look up to them or I think too much and think there's something beyond that "act" when they're probably acting normally. I don't know many people so I won't really get shocked if someone is looked at negatively. That might make me sound like a jerk and I guess I am if I think that way. If anything your story goes to show a person isn't always what they appear to be on the outside. A person can act nice and look nice but if they're not that way on the inside negative things can happen to them.


Tl;dr I overthink everything said in these few sentences and come up with some bs. I also can't relate because I havent ever really looked up to anybody
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If he's under 18, he'll recover fine as long as he's not dedicated to the behavior he's been charged with.

Expectations are the problem here. Who I was in high school is not who I am now, who you are now will not be who you are later, life is more complicated than it looks on paper, et cetera et cetera.

If you're friends with the guy, make sure you believe he was charged correctly and go from there. Have you even asked him if he did it?

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I used to look up to someone but she then dropped out and now is addicted to gambling and causes her family thousands of dollars whenever the people come knocking at her dad's door.

I still love her and care about her like a sister but I can no longer say that I consider her my role model.
Posted 4/26/15
I feel kind of bad that there has never been someone I have looked up to. I guess at least I don't ever have to see them become a disappointment.
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morechunch wrote:

If he's under 18, he'll recover fine as long as he's not dedicated to the behavior he's been charged with.

Expectations are the problem here. Who I was in high school is not who I am now, who you are now will not be who you are later, life is more complicated than it looks on paper, et cetera et cetera.

If you're friends with the guy, make sure you believe he was charged correctly and go from there. Have you even asked him if he did it?



We are both 19 now. Legally adults in our area. I have never asked him but judging by the news coverage on multiple stations here, the evidence is compelling.

I don't hate him for it. I still see him as who he was in high school. That's why it's so shocking. It's hard to fathom.
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Chigiribow wrote:


morechunch wrote:

If he's under 18, he'll recover fine as long as he's not dedicated to the behavior he's been charged with.

Expectations are the problem here. Who I was in high school is not who I am now, who you are now will not be who you are later, life is more complicated than it looks on paper, et cetera et cetera.

If you're friends with the guy, make sure you believe he was charged correctly and go from there. Have you even asked him if he did it?



We are both 19 now. Legally adults in our area. I have never asked him but judging by the news coverage on multiple stations here, the evidence is compelling.

I don't hate him for it. I still see him as who he was in high school. That's why it's so shocking. It's hard to fathom.


I've had lots of high school friends that didn't stay out of trouble. Poor people, what can you do?

I've had one good acquaintance commit suicide, I forgot his name one time, I'll never make that mistake again.

If the charges aren't something you find reviling, which it sounds like they are, my suggestion would be keep close contact.

For me, if it was something that I couldn't abide, I wouldn't be able to stop myself from telling the guy exactly how I felt. If it's less than that, I can't blame you. But I also kept quiet until I punched a mentally ill roommate in the face when he grabbed me by my shirt one time, I'm a gut reaction kind of guy. But I miss the guy, I try to treat him as normal when I see him, but I hardly ever see him anymore.

In that situation we had let it get so bad that eventually his family had to take him to a ward, the ward kept him for six days. I could have said or done something sooner, but it took a punch to realize I was reacting inappropriately.

With my mom it's the same way, I can't forgive or blame myself for letting her go nuts when she does. I guess "those who can't, teach" isn't a bad saying in the end.
Posted 4/26/15 , edited 4/26/15
Visit him in prison??
Did he kill his fam?
Kill his gf?

Ah! maybe he's raped someone or several someones and he's been caught now.

I doubt something like fraud or any of that white collar crime would be news worthy. I'm in the finance business and i knew a chinese lady who was a tax accountant and defrauded money well into the millions from her company and that never made the news lol.

He's saying it ha nothing to do with class. You can witness that if you've ever been homeless, the types of people that are there are from all backgrounds. There's no such shared delusion that can make one think they're secure or it can't happen to someone upstanding.

v after reading that post below, ignore my post lol. Pity or not, it makes no difference.

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