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It's important. But if you expect any on the internet... You are going to run into a lot of pretentious folks though.
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Can't recall a time in my life where I've ever felt empathy for anyone or anything. Honestly I don't feel much in the first place, and show even less on the outside. To me emotions get in the way of my analytical nature. I view most emotions as unnecessary or a weakness. That's not to say they're bad, but for someone like me I want nothing to do with such things. I like the way things are now. I'm definitely not the kind of person to come to for comfort, more so just a realistic take on things.


Detaching yourself from the suffering of the people around you might make your life easier, but it makes other people's lives harder. You should try to understand other people's pain and try to help them get through whatever they're going through. Otherwise you'll be a bad person. Any apathetic individual is a rotten individual especially when they're in a position of authority. Empathy is an extremely basic quality which every human needs. If everyone was consistently sympathetic towards each other, there would be less people causing pain for each other. The world would be a better place. Apathetic people reverse progress.
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SweetPerplexity wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:

Can't recall a time in my life where I've ever felt empathy for anyone or anything. Honestly I don't feel much in the first place, and show even less on the outside. To me emotions get in the way of my analytical nature. I view most emotions as unnecessary or a weakness. That's not to say they're bad, but for someone like me I want nothing to do with such things. I like the way things are now. I'm definitely not the kind of person to come to for comfort, more so just a realistic take on things.


Detaching yourself from the suffering of the people around you might make your life easier, but it makes other people's lives harder. You should try to understand other people's pain and try to help them get through whatever they're going through. Otherwise you'll be a bad person. Any apathetic individual is a rotten individual especially when they're in a position of authority. Empathy is an extremely basic quality which every human needs. If everyone was consistently sympathetic towards each other, there would be less people causing pain for each other. The world would be a better place. Apathetic people reverse progress.


Pretty ignorant opinion, but hey, it's yours. I'm not a nice person, but I'm not a bad person either. I understand people quite well. The fact that you posted half of the above already speaks volumes about you to me. Try not to be judgemental unless you want people to do the same to you. I'm not the kind of person you come to to lean on. I keep it brutally honest and realistic. Emotions would just get in the way. While most people can live life that way, not everyone does. Doesn't make people like me any less better than them.

I won't bother with debating your opinion as it isn't worth my time to mince words with someone attacking another. I gave mine to the op on how I personally felt.
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dotsforlife wrote:


SweetPerplexity wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:

Can't recall a time in my life where I've ever felt empathy for anyone or anything. Honestly I don't feel much in the first place, and show even less on the outside. To me emotions get in the way of my analytical nature. I view most emotions as unnecessary or a weakness. That's not to say they're bad, but for someone like me I want nothing to do with such things. I like the way things are now. I'm definitely not the kind of person to come to for comfort, more so just a realistic take on things.


Detaching yourself from the suffering of the people around you might make your life easier, but it makes other people's lives harder. You should try to understand other people's pain and try to help them get through whatever they're going through. Otherwise you'll be a bad person. Any apathetic individual is a rotten individual especially when they're in a position of authority. Empathy is an extremely basic quality which every human needs. If everyone was consistently sympathetic towards each other, there would be less people causing pain for each other. The world would be a better place. Apathetic people reverse progress.


Pretty ignorant opinion, but hey, it's yours. I'm not a nice person, but I'm not a bad person either. I understand people quite well. The fact that you posted half of the above already speaks volumes about you to me. Try not to be judgemental unless you want people to do the same to you. I'm not the kind of person you come to to lean on. I keep it brutally honest and realistic. Emotions would just get in the way. While most people can live life that way, not everyone does. Doesn't make people like me any less better than them.

I won't bother with debating your opinion as it isn't worth my time to mince words with someone attacking another. I gave mine to the op on how I personally felt.




You're just a person.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:


SweetPerplexity wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:

Can't recall a time in my life where I've ever felt empathy for anyone or anything. Honestly I don't feel much in the first place, and show even less on the outside. To me emotions get in the way of my analytical nature. I view most emotions as unnecessary or a weakness. That's not to say they're bad, but for someone like me I want nothing to do with such things. I like the way things are now. I'm definitely not the kind of person to come to for comfort, more so just a realistic take on things.


Detaching yourself from the suffering of the people around you might make your life easier, but it makes other people's lives harder. You should try to understand other people's pain and try to help them get through whatever they're going through. Otherwise you'll be a bad person. Any apathetic individual is a rotten individual especially when they're in a position of authority. Empathy is an extremely basic quality which every human needs. If everyone was consistently sympathetic towards each other, there would be less people causing pain for each other. The world would be a better place. Apathetic people reverse progress.


Pretty ignorant opinion, but hey, it's yours. I'm not a nice person, but I'm not a bad person either. I understand people quite well. The fact that you posted half of the above already speaks volumes about you to me. Try not to be judgemental unless you want people to do the same to you. I'm not the kind of person you come to to lean on. I keep it brutally honest and realistic. Emotions would just get in the way. While most people can live life that way, not everyone does. Doesn't make people like me any less better than them.

I won't bother with debating your opinion as it isn't worth my time to mince words with someone attacking another. I gave mine to the op on how I personally felt.




You're just a person.


Exactly. We all are.
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dotsforlife wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:


SweetPerplexity wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:

Can't recall a time in my life where I've ever felt empathy for anyone or anything. Honestly I don't feel much in the first place, and show even less on the outside. To me emotions get in the way of my analytical nature. I view most emotions as unnecessary or a weakness. That's not to say they're bad, but for someone like me I want nothing to do with such things. I like the way things are now. I'm definitely not the kind of person to come to for comfort, more so just a realistic take on things.


Detaching yourself from the suffering of the people around you might make your life easier, but it makes other people's lives harder. You should try to understand other people's pain and try to help them get through whatever they're going through. Otherwise you'll be a bad person. Any apathetic individual is a rotten individual especially when they're in a position of authority. Empathy is an extremely basic quality which every human needs. If everyone was consistently sympathetic towards each other, there would be less people causing pain for each other. The world would be a better place. Apathetic people reverse progress.


Pretty ignorant opinion, but hey, it's yours. I'm not a nice person, but I'm not a bad person either. I understand people quite well. The fact that you posted half of the above already speaks volumes about you to me. Try not to be judgemental unless you want people to do the same to you. I'm not the kind of person you come to to lean on. I keep it brutally honest and realistic. Emotions would just get in the way. While most people can live life that way, not everyone does. Doesn't make people like me any less better than them.

I won't bother with debating your opinion as it isn't worth my time to mince words with someone attacking another. I gave mine to the op on how I personally felt.




You're just a person.


Exactly. We all are.


Yup.
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Uhh yeah? Empathy is the jam. If you wanna get anywhere in life, just pull that card out.
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Empathy isn't necessarily that important. I don't feel that much empathy for people, yet i'm probably nicer than some people who do. I just remain indifferent, as opposed to people who feel empathy for some but then go around and mock or bully others they don't empathise with.
Posted 5/8/15
It depends on what your values are. If you're a kind and charitable person, it might be a part of your value system a bit.

It can be important if you have loved ones, for instance kids, caring for parents or are in a romantic relationship,

The lack of empathy doesn't make you a shitty person. It may not be needed at all in your life. One can have love and not empathy.

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S4869hu wrote:

empathy
[em-puh-thee]

noun
1.
the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.

Have you ever felt elation for someone's happiness? Sensed sadness even when a friend is hiding their pain? Felt in your heart that your crush likes someone else? Sometimes I feel like being able to tease the emotion out of various situations can be helpful but at times it can also be pretty devastating when you can tell that someone is lying to your face.

What do you think? Have you ever had these strange sensations? Do you believe this is an important trait that everyone should have or a weakness that nobody should bother to cultivate?


I think the above paragraph places entirely too much emphasis into vicariously experiencing and not enough emphasis into identification.

If it's just experiencing what someone else does, then it's simply a matter of either you do experience what someone else experiences OR you don't.

It's not that simple.

Identification comes from the conscious effort of putting yourself in someone else's place.

That, takes effort. It's NOT a simple case of "do you feel it or you don't" but do you TRY to understand or not.

The reason for this important distinction is that it's not the lack of feeling which makes evil but the lack of conscious consideration- This conscious consideration is rational in nature.

http://law2.umkc.edu/faculty/projects/ftrials/evil/evilhome.html


dotsforlife wrote:

Can't recall a time in my life where I've ever felt empathy for anyone or anything. Honestly I don't feel much in the first place, and show even less on the outside. To me emotions get in the way of my analytical nature. I view most emotions as unnecessary or a weakness. That's not to say they're bad, but for someone like me I want nothing to do with such things. I like the way things are now. I'm definitely not the kind of person to come to for comfort, more so just a realistic take on things.


Empathy does not necessarily involve actively experiencing. "Felt empathy for" is somewhat of a misnomer. See my other reply directly above.
Posted 5/9/15 , edited 5/9/15
lol, what's this? Lordseth's wet dream??
Posted 5/10/15
Nope. I am not at all emphatic.

I believe this is why I am so terrible at "comforting" people who are upset or angry or in pain. I... just don't understand. I'm like Sheldon for the most part. I have no idea what to do or how to react in such situations. Online, it's rather easy to feign empathy because I just have to type words. In real life, I'm more like a deer in headlights.
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_MissTake_ wrote:

Nope. I am not at all emphatic.

I believe this is why I am so terrible at "comforting" people who are upset or angry or in pain. I... just don't understand. I'm like Sheldon for the most part. I have no idea what to do or how to react in such situations. Online, it's rather easy to feign empathy because I just have to type words. In real life, I'm more like a deer in headlights.


So basically this?

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S4869hu wrote:

empathy
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noun
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the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.

Have you ever felt elation for someone's happiness? Sensed sadness even when a friend is hiding their pain? Felt in your heart that your crush likes someone else? Sometimes I feel like being able to tease the emotion out of various situations can be helpful but at times it can also be pretty devastating when you can tell that someone is lying to your face.

What do you think? Have you ever had these strange sensations? Do you believe this is an important trait that everyone should have or a weakness that nobody should bother to cultivate?


I'm sure it is very important, I often feel the same way as another.
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Empathy is good to healthy extent.

When you start feeling sorry for people who don't deserve it, however, that can get pretty crappy.
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I'm overly empathetic tbh, I can't really help it. I think it's extremely important to have tho, and to learn to handle. There's no better defense against cruelty than empathy.
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