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You know, you could of used another gif for the sad part....


I just looked at it, that doesn't look like something else to you does it??


Lol I guess you don't know where it's from. It's a instant hit in the feels otherwise.
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etoile55 wrote:

One word: Oxytocin


The chemical helps us form emotional bonds, which I understand. Although, the real question is why does it suggest the mind to manifest emotional bonds physically? Oxytocin makes us feel certain emotions, but something in the brain tells us to press our bodies against each other...

Too me, if I'm going to place my body against another persons body, it means I wanna fuck them.

And why do people who are just friends like to hug?


DanteVSTheWorld wrote:


PurpleDjango wrote:


DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

You know, you could of used another gif for the sad part....


I just looked at it, that doesn't look like something else to you does it??


Lol I guess you don't know where it's from. It's a instant hit in the feels otherwise.


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It's so comfy and warm
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Were you not hugged as a child? I legit am wondering.
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Were you not hugged as a child? I legit am wondering.


Yea... but by the time I turned 5, I started hating it, and didn't like it when people hugged me.
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PurpleDjango wrote:


DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

You know, you could of used another gif for the sad part....


I just looked at it, that doesn't look like something else to you does it??


something else... wait...

Get your mind out of the gutter
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silversongwriter wrote:


PurpleDjango wrote:


DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

You know, you could of used another gif for the sad part....


I just looked at it, that doesn't look like something else to you does it??


something else... wait...

Get your mind out of the gutter


My mind is the gutter.
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It's a proven fact that various things happen in the brain through touching other people. But besides that human contact just have a psychological effect. In fact I've read in various places if you don't hold and touch babies it will affect their development because they literally NEED that stimulus from human contact. There is a good chance their brains and even bodies may not develop properly is they don't have that stimulus from human contact. As you grow up you need it less as you've already started to get passed that part of your development but it's still an important stimulus that we find comforting not just because of the chemicals it releases but many of us at least sub consciously remember the comfort it gave us as children.

It's also just the idea that someone else cares enough to offer and/or accept one that many find comforting them they are depressed.

So yeah hugging isn't meant to be sexual at all it's about comforting and supporting each other. Although since ideally this is what lovers do they also tend to hug a lot but again it's not meant to be a sexual thing normally.
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Something carried over from early social groups of humans over a million years... probably.
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silversongwriter wrote:


etoile55 wrote:

One word: Oxytocin


The chemical helps us form emotional bonds, which I understand. Although, the real question is why does it suggest the mind to manifest emotional bonds physically? Oxytocin makes us feel certain emotions, but something in the brain tells us to press our bodies against each other...

Too me, if I'm going to place my body against another persons body, it means I wanna fuck them.

And why do people who are just friends like to hug?


There are many reasons. For friends, it's a way of showing affection beyond what a smile or words can do.

In a way, it's also a sign of trust, as you leave your back exposed to the person you're hugging; says "I know you at least won't (literally) stab me and I'm not going to stab you either." It's a significant gesture for many to let themselves be that vulnerable to another person.

Hugging when you're happy or sad is our bodies wanting more of those feel good chemicals, and instinctively knowing hugging is a safe, easy way to get them.

It's also a nurturing gesture that goes back to parents hugging children as a form of protection, comfort, and love. Depending on the situation, you can hear or feel the heartbeat of the person you're hugging, which is something we know calms people down. Monkeys and apes do it, and similar gestures can be seen throughout the animal kingdom among those that nurture their young or bond with their mates and peers.

Hugging someone who's sad or crying, it's an instinctive reaction to try and comfort someone crying. It's saying, "You don't need to bear the burden of your sorrow alone. Draw on my strength to help get you through this."

There's also the simple comforting factor of heat transfer. Usually when someone is in shock or sad, they get cold (or at least their bodies react that way); hugging gives them a little of your body heat, and in a way is like sharing a little life energy with them, since humans can die so easily if we get too far outside of our normal operating temperature.

For people you haven't seen for a while or won't see for a while, touch and scent memory come into play strongly. Is there someone you know that you remember mainly from how they smell? Hugging them gets you a nose full of memories. :)

It's a little unfortunate that you associate physical contact with sex so exclusively. Not saying you need to become a hugger, it's not something everyone is comfortable with or good at. But if you drop any expectation from it and just go with it, you might find it satisfying in all new ways.

Plus, being known as someone that gives good hugs isn't a bad thing. ;)
Being the awkward hugger - and people can tell right away if you're just going through the motions because you feel you have to, is not a good place to be in life.

Think about this: If seeing you and planting a big old hug on you makes someone's day a little brighter, and you take no pleasure from that, maybe you need to take a look at what makes you feel good and why.
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My friends at school all thought I was weird for not liking hugs. I'd literally duck and dodge out of the way, so they started trying to get me with 'Surprise Hugs'...

I still get flashbacks...
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Get more basic..why the handshake?
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Dunno for me I see hugs as pretty intimate , if you get a hug from me then I really trust you and you mean something to me. For both guys/gals.
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Don't know.
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