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Bullied or just a push over?

Retaliate with passive aggressiveness?
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Easily hurt or thick skinned?

Laugh it off or laugh at?
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I think being picked on and being bullied are two different things. A group may pick on an individual because they are different, this to me is the worst case and hardest as if no one else intervenes, no authority figure, the individual must try to find inner strength and resolve and self-worth apart from what a group of idiots think. Some stoic philosophy might help, religion, faith, finding someone to share that burden with.
The second case has only one solution, being physically bullied by an individual who is usually a coward often requires force if no other intervention works. I have been bullied by such idiots when I was young and only by standing up to them did it end. I decided that the fear of them was worse than if I took a beating, so I risked a beating and stood up to them, telling them either stop it or fight me. Every time they found out it was no longer 'fun' to push someone around who was willing to push back. Also when I got older I had to stand down a bully who was picking on my sister. You may need to call upon a bigger friend, relative, or even a parent in a case where using threat of physical force will not work for the victim of the bully.
If you are someone who sees another being bullied and you can stand up for them--do so. Bullies get very small in the face of real opposition.
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I am only concern about bullying if it's physical NOT verbal.
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ijime dame zettai!!
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Midnightspell wrote:

okay my fellow Crunchyroll members lets talk about Bullying, now everyone is aware of what it is and what the consequences can possibly be, but do you realize how bad it is, do you think saying things like " it was just joke" or " i didn't know or realize" is acceptable in anyway. for me i think it is unacceptable and that bullies should not get away with it. bullying is no accident


Bullying? It's laughable. People can say and do whatever they want because they have the power to do so. Yes, bullying is unnecessary, cruel and intolerable, but remember what kind of world we live in, where the strong prey on the weak. If you don't at least have the will to be strong then you are already dead.
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Kids today.

Ya'll depress me sometimes you know?

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I used to have conflicting feelings about this. I was bullied by my "best friend" and her friends from when I was 9-12. It was enough to make me very insecure and self-conscious, with pretty severe social anxiety. When I moved up to secondary school, it took me a while to shake her off but eventually she stopped having any influence over me.

I only managed to get this way by befriending the popular b*tches, but I had to do some things I wasn't proud of to get there. There was this one girl. She was one of the first new friends I made in the school, after being held back by my social anxiety and emotionally controlling friends. She was pretty annoying and attention seeking, but that didn't excuse the way I treated her in order to gain the populars' favour.

It was only around two years later, after everything kind of fizzled out and i got with a different group of friends who are much more fun and kind, that I realised that the whole time I had been trying to suck up to the populars, I only did it to get away from my bullies, and in doing so, I ended up becoming a bully myself. I won't ever do something like that again. I remember how it felt being completely alone and miserable at the hands of these people, and I will never forgive myself for putting someone into that same position.
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The only wound worse than a mental wound is a disfiguring/disabling/fatal wound. Bullying makes a mark on your ability to communicate with and trust people, which becomes permanent if left alone for too long. Depression too inhibits your ability to enjoy life for the rest of your life unless you spend a huge amount of money and effort trying to fix it. I think emotional bullying is equally as bad as physical bullying.
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Is bullying bullies acceptable?
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When I was growing up my father was in the military, so we were always moving every three years. I was in the new group and ended up being a loner. By the time I got to high school I was never in the in-group, even though I played football. The coach told me that he threatened to put a label on my helmet that said "I am nice", but I found out later he also told my mother that I was the strongest one on the football team. That said, I always remember the day that the team bully, who was several inches taller than anyone else went around flicking the buckle of his chin strap on people's helmets. (this was like putting a metal bucket over your head and hitting it with a spoon!) Long about the third time he did it to me he finally motivated me to action and found out why it was best not to make me angry, lol He was always nice to me after that.
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Kids are evil. What does not kill you makes you stronger.
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But then there are just more bullies in the world...
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There is a clear difference between joking and bullying. Bullying is horrible and if it's possible, you should always look for help if you can't handle it yourself.
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Schmooples wrote:


CptSpeirs wrote:

This is not going to be a popular opinion. When bullied you have one of two options be a victim and cry about how you are bullied or rise up and put your big boy/girl pants on and deal with it. Dealing with can be violent but only when all else fails, normally bullies are just trying get you to react just ignoring them should work. We have too many people wanting to be babied and wanting others to handle their problems. A lot of the time YOU are the reason you're bullied, sometime the bully is just an asshole, if the second is the case just acknowledge fact that they are an asshole and go on with your day.


When I was in school, ignoring the people doing the bullying did not help at all. The bullying died down a bit when I started talking to people more and started making "friends." It is also important to note that the one being bullied is not at fault for being bullied, either. In my case, it was because I was the new kid and preferred to keep to myself. For other people, it can be anything from having strange hobbies or uncommon quirks, which is not their fault, even if the cause is technically themselves.

Blaming the person being bullied is akin to blaming the victim for the crime, which is really just absurd.


This whole scenario from when you were in school falls under the bullies being assholes, which I covered. Also you noted that once you started making friends the bullying died down. I stated that ignoring normally works, not always. As for the people who get bullied because of strange hobbies, don't publicize that you have a strange hobby. The people with uncommon quirks like a disability may need to get some help to deal with bullies, if the uncommon quirks are something that they can change like having pink hair or something then they need to change said quirks.
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