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Yes, I was abused by all corporal punishment
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Grim topic I know.


Yes.

Too many times. I spent a few years living in a really bad neighborhood.

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Nope, I have never seen it.
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Beyond any that happened to me, there was a teacher in middle school who was a complete bitch. One time someone was accidentally stabbed in class, and she just told the kid to stop crying about it and gave him detention for disturbing the class. It seemed pretty serious. Maybe not hospital serious, but serious enough that he should get medical attention before it does become hospital serious.

Other than that the only other thing I can remember is when she used German as an excuse to single out a student for being fat. It was quite a long time ago and I didn't have her for long. She quit thankfully.
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Actual child abuse,yes. I've a parent who used to use my services and her kids would get really slapped and hit. Not actual discipline speaking but heavy hits to the pace,pinching that left bruising. Half the town was calling the police on her. But when it comes down to it out friends on the CPS agents and we only have one in this area and she pretty much ignores any case that isn't easy open and close. So those kids are pretty much sucked between everyone's house because their mom just doesn't care where they are.


I do not believe in hitting and slapping children, because I think it is wrong and it is never discipline at all. I join the global initiative, because I love children so very much. I think you should stop hitting/slapping kids, etc.... too. I feel proud of myself not hitting children, because that would show emotional immaturity. Parenting really takes time.

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I do not believe in hitting and slapping children, because I think it is wrong and it is never discipline at all. I join the global initiative, because I love children so very much. I think you should stop hitting/slapping kids, etc.... too. I feel proud of myself not hitting children, because that would show emotional immaturity. Parenting really takes time.



My parents always spanked me and slapped me for the things I did wrong and it worked really damn well. Today I'm a better person because of it and I don't have any permanent injuries or psychological trauma from the punishments. I think it's okay to use pain to discipline children as long as you tell them what they're being disciplined for.
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My parents always spanked me and slapped me for the things I did wrong and it worked really damn well. Today I'm a better person because of it and I don't have any permanent injuries or psychological trauma from the punishments. I think it's okay to use pain to discipline children as long as you tell them what they're being disciplined for.


Out of curiosity, roughly at what age did they start?
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Uhh, ohh god I can't even really recall. Ever since I can remember though. I know they were doing it even when I was just a toddler.
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My parents got raised with lots of spanking. They both left their countries to get away from their strict families. Mother already had a job and a referral to college but she left because she'd get her independence at 18. People mostly didn't leave him until they married. The only exception is leaving the country for studying. Father was from a well to do family and he wouldn't have had to work if he didn't want to.

Mother decided that was not how she was going to raise her children so she didn't spank us. I got the shock of my life when I was 3 and saw my god parents line up their children, have the recite their multiplication tables then start beating them when they got a part wrong. I didn't know about multiplication then. I just heard them mentioning numbers, when I was older I realised exactly what they had been saying. God father told me I was too young so I wasn't going to get spanked. I'd never seen a person strike a child before that so to me that was abuse. Later in the Caribbean I found out that that was common. Grandparents even spanked us for silly little things. If person A gives you a command and you obey then person B comes along and gives you a contradictory command you have to try to obey or face a spanking then person A comes back and sees that you've gone against them and another spanking. Mother said she'd get spanked from her parents, her teachers and even her neighbours. Sometimes all of them could spank her for the same one incident.
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CCTDaily wrote:


I do not believe in hitting and slapping children, because I think it is wrong and it is never discipline at all. I join the global initiative, because I love children so very much. I think you should stop hitting/slapping kids, etc.... too. I feel proud of myself not hitting children, because that would show emotional immaturity. Parenting really takes time.



My parents always spanked me and slapped me for the things I did wrong and it worked really damn well. Today I'm a better person because of it and I don't have any permanent injuries or psychological trauma from the punishments. I think it's okay to use pain to discipline children as long as you tell them what they're being disciplined for.


That is wrong, parenting would take a lot of time. Discipline has been mistakenly translated as punishment by lots of people. They much rather take the easy way out rather than understand the child's speech, etc.... The spanking really never worked out for me at all.

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I do not believe in hitting and slapping children, because I think it is wrong and it is never discipline at all. I join the global initiative, because I love children so very much. I think you should stop hitting/slapping kids, etc.... too. I feel proud of myself not hitting children, because that would show emotional immaturity. Parenting really takes time.


You are not doing the child any favors by avoiding spanking them.

I've both received my fair share as a child and dealt by fair share as a parent.

I'd say both of my daughters turned out well for it. Both are honor roll, neither has ever been in trouble. The oldest is in her second year of college.


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Dariamus wrote:

You are not doing the child any favors by avoiding spanking them.


Teaching your child to fear you isn't doing them any favors either to be honest.
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Dariamus wrote:

You are not doing the child any favors by avoiding spanking them.


Teaching your child to fear you isn't doing them any favors either to be honest.

It's not about fear, it's about immediate reinforcement for actions performed; both positive and negative.

Good actions were just as quick to earn a hug and praise as bad actions were to earn a spanking.

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Dariamus wrote:

It's not about fear, it's about immediate reinforcement for actions performed; both positive and negative.

Good actions were just as quick to earn a hug and praise as bad actions were to earn a spanking.



Ah. So that's where most parents who hit their children go wrong.
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CCTDaily wrote:
I do not believe in hitting and slapping children, because I think it is wrong and it is never discipline at all. I join the global initiative, because I love children so very much. I think you should stop hitting/slapping kids, etc.... too. I feel proud of myself not hitting children, because that would show emotional immaturity. Parenting really takes time.


You are not doing the child any favors by avoiding spanking them.




Yes, I am. I doing the child favors by experessing maturity. You have be more creative by not harming them and other things. It's the people who chose to think that taking the hard way out as a joke. Losing what you like is the most effective parenting tool that is beneficial like if the child countinues to touch something dangerous or hazardous, he will most likely lose his TV privileges or his toys, etc.... Consequence cards also teach the child why him or her the wrong doing is unacceptable like no TV, no video games, timeouts. Causing physical abuse such as spanking will only and only make all problems, even parenting problems, big, small, etc....., even more worst. You can't just let TV babysit your children. Physical harm will only cause negativity to rule over him and make her or him more powerless. We want raise the children up, not slap them down, not even knock them out, especially knock them dead. It's impossible to differentiate corporal punishment from physical abuse

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