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If my God can forgive the guy that betrayed him three times, and STILL choose to take the betrayer's place for punishment, then I probably can too, even though it's hard. You just gotta realize that people are wicked, including us. We can't keep playing innocent and have self-pity, otherwise we'll always be pathetic. One of my biggest inspirations for this forgiveness is Louis Zamperini. He decided to go to Japan and personally forgave the soldiers that abused him in WWII. It was very heartwarming when I saw who once were enemies in the past, began to smile with each other in the present.
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Forgiving enough to stop caring, but smart enough not to make a similar mistake. If you give me a reason not to trust you, I will not trust you, but I also wont come to hate you.
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harutoharuta wrote:

Overall, I think I'm pretty forgiving.

I've been bullied, I've had friends who I trusted hurt me, I've had a girlfriend go out with me just to get another dude's attention, things like that. Not the most hurtful things someone can do to you, but still quite hurtful, especially at a younger age.

I've forgiven these people. Some have even apologized to me, however many years late it may have been. I wouldn't say "that's life" suits those situations, but it is common, and considering how young the people involved and I were, I just found it easier to forgive. Kids will be kids.



So how forgiving are you? You can obviously give a general response, but I'd like to read examples as to why you would or would not forgive people who have harmed you in certain situations.




I am slow to forgive, but it is possible. But you have to regain my respect before I can forgive you.
Posted 5/5/15
forgive and forget basically
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I give no second chances.
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I was nearly killed when a semi made an illegal lane change that ended up almost crushing my car and sending me into traffic. First thing I said to the driver when I got out of the wreckage was "Are you okay?". So I would like to think I am, maybe too much so...
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I'm too forgiving, as long as you don't try to bring real harm to me or the ones I love.
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I don't really forgive, but rather stop caring, since I don't really hold grudges to begin with.
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I may not always want to forgive, but I still forgive those that do me or those I care about wrong. However those who hurt me or the ones I care about may be forgiven, but my respect for them is lost. That is something they will have to earn back
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I was pretty forgiving when I was young, but the older I get the less forgiving or tolerant I become. I don't hold grudges or get cold, nasty revenge; I just don't bother contacting those people. I have better things to do than be worried by people who choose to be arseholes, the people I really want to spend time or effort on have never caused me any real grief & probably never will - they are just too laid back to be bothered!!
And don't let it worry you that you wont have many 'friends' if you start ignoring those people - as you get older you have less time or interest for most of them, finding that quality is far preferable to quantity, and you'll soon find that you are happy with just a few good friends. Anyone that causes you too much grief just wont be worth the trouble & won't last the distance - dont let it bother you, its just natural attrition!!
So if someone shits on you enough that you have to ask yourself whether they should be forgiven - dont! Just forget about them & spend your energy on someone more rewarding & less selfish!!

Posted 5/5/15
Not at all. It's been around 4 years since my ex girlfriend cheated on me, and I still haven't forgiven her. We're still friends but I haven't forgiven her or other people. I'll always remember the shit people have done to me, and will never forgive them.
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Probably too forgiving. I understand stuff happens so I always try to forgive people unless they really manage to get under my skin.
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It really depends, I'll forgive if it's something trivial or that I can relate to (so as to not be a hypocrite) but I don't consider myself forgiving of heavy things (though my greater feelings for my boyfriend and family could change that). Ultimately, it depends on my mood, sometimes I feel Jesus like enough to forgive a murderer. Other times I'll talk about the execution.
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But I try sometimes.
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When I regret my actions, forgiveness comes immediately, an apology normally follows.

When somebody else regrets their actions, I forgive and ignore the actions.

When somebody acts in a way that hurts me and doesn't regret it, forgiveness doesn't come until a few more interactions with the person. It's like "I know you're sometimes an asshole, and I heard that you been talking shit about me or a friend of mine, I don't know how to approach it, but yeah, that's you, here's another chance."

So forgiveness is pretty easy for me. Eventually I'll just see somebody as a grouch or a crybaby or a liar before I stay mad at them. And a grouch is easy to forgive for being a grouch, a crybaby is easy to forgive for being a crybaby, a liar is easy to forgive for lying.

If somebody's attitude doesn't change regardless of the circumstances, I guess I become less forgiving of their attitude and more interested in the circumstances. People have said I come off as cold, but I'd say I'm ruthlessly trying to make sense of the world around me.

Forgiving is one word. Ruthless would be a better word for it.
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