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Looking for a realistic romance
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Hey there!

I...well, recently ended a five-year relationship. Ouch. It didn't end well.

My outlook on love is bleak. To say the least. I'm a few months out of the relationship and just looking at birds flying happily together in spring makes me jealous (and also yell at birds in a public park and people think I'm crazy.)

Main problem is, my side job is writing short stories. Romance is a large part of stories... and lately all my chapters have been ruining all the ships and making everyone a cynical jerk. Even my editor got depressed after reading it. Oops.

Anything that'll help restore my faith in humanity? And romance?
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Hello fellow writer! I don't think I can offer too much in advice as this sounds like something you may have to resolve on a personal level. Perhaps it is still too soon from the break-up to be writing about love? Maybe give it some more time to heal? I wouldn't lose faith in humanity and romance because of the break up. That sounds just like the pain lashing out, especially if you're yelling at birds. I'm sure you'll find someone again in the future. If not, look at it as a little bit of new found freedom and time to enjoy hobbies that you didn't get to as much during the relationship.

I don't know if that helped much, but I do believe you need to focus on healing and moving on from this break-up first because you sound like you still are allowing it to entangle you. Best of luck to you in your writing!
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Hmm... "realistic" romance is largely in the eye of the beholder, I've found. Love triangles seem campy and overly melodramatic until you've been involved in one, just as one example.

Still, if you want some romances that are at least somewhat grounded in realistic human emotion, I can offer a few ideas:

Steins; Gate: Okay, so the thrust of the show is a time-travel, sci-fi story line, but the romance that is here is top-notch.

Kimikiss: Pure Rouge: Generally upbeat, although with a dash of melodrama; tells the story of three people, who must all make a decision between two potential romance partners.

Please Teacher: Set-up is pretty cheesy and art looks a bit dated, but if you want a show about the highs and lows of being in love--and about how the highs make the lows worth while--this might be the thing.

My Love Story (currently airing): Sugary-sweet romance about the nice guy who never gets the girl, and the girl who falls head over heels for him.

ef: Tale of Memories: If you want something a little darker, (everyone here has their mental and emotional scars) but that still has a happy ending, this might be the thing. Also, the art is excellent.

Kanon (2006): A bittersweet story, but if you want something to help you cry without leaving you horribly depressed at the end, it's hard to find better.

Good luck!
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minatika wrote:

Hey there!

I...well, recently ended a five-year relationship. Ouch. It didn't end well.

My outlook on love is bleak. To say the least. I'm a few months out of the relationship and just looking at birds flying happily together in spring makes me jealous (and also yell at birds in a public park and people think I'm crazy.)

Main problem is, my side job is writing short stories. Romance is a large part of stories... and lately all my chapters have been ruining all the ships and making everyone a cynical jerk. Even my editor got depressed after reading it. Oops.

Anything that'll help restore my faith in humanity? And romance?


Honestly, most anime pair-ups usually wait for the end of the show to get any resolution romantically... This one's simple, and even is heartwarming in a few places apart from the romance:
/kimi-ni-todoke-from-me-to-you

Here's a short. It has adults, which is rare. Currently part way into season two:
/i-cant-understand-what-my-husband-is-saying

This one is current too, 5 episodes in. Very nice so far, high-school level like most though:
/my-love-story

These are feel-good ones. There's a relationship, but not really a romance.
/one-week-friends
/the-kawai-complex-guide-to-manors-and-hostel-behavior

And these, for good measure. All are teen high-school ones though. Somewhat serious in a couple places:
/blue-spring-ride
/say-i-love-you
/my-little-monster
/toradora
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Romance isn't the primary focus of the show as it deals with a lot of other psychological issues like loneliness, depression, and suicide but it as negative as that sounds it leaves you with a positive feeling mainly due to the relationship that is developed and how they cope with these issues.

Steins; Gate



While the Sci fi element of this show is far from realistic (despite the fact that out of any sci fi series I have seen this has the least amount of plot holes and the most references to real life scientific theories and handles time travel perfectly) the relationship that develops between the 2 main protagonists is very real.

My Teen Romantic Comedy SNAFU


http://www.crunchyroll.com/my-teen-romantic-comedy-snafu

Not sure if I should put this here as a genuine romance hasn't truly developed in the 17 episodes out so far. What it does provide is a very realistic portrayal of human interactions and relationships in general and various attitudes and outlooks on them.
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afwxveteran wrote:

Hello fellow writer! I don't think I can offer too much in advice as this sounds like something you may have to resolve on a personal level. Perhaps it is still too soon from the break-up to be writing about love? Maybe give it some more time to heal? I wouldn't lose faith in humanity and romance because of the break up. That sounds just like the pain lashing out, especially if you're yelling at birds. I'm sure you'll find someone again in the future. If not, look at it as a little bit of new found freedom and time to enjoy hobbies that you didn't get to as much during the relationship.

I don't know if that helped much, but I do believe you need to focus on healing and moving on from this break-up first because you sound like you still are allowing it to entangle you. Best of luck to you in your writing!


Thanks for the advice : ) I know I've got to resolve it personally, and things like this take time. I'm definitely not losing faith in humanity, that was a bit of an exaggeration haha. But I'm catching up on hobbies! Television being one of them! I didn't watch tv/anime at all while in my relationship, so I'm using it to help me cope. I know I need to face my problems, but I also need an escape too.

And thank you everyone for the recommendations! Definitely seeing some good titles here to start with!
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minatika wrote:

Hey there!

I...well, recently ended a five-year relationship. Ouch. It didn't end well.

My outlook on love is bleak. To say the least. I'm a few months out of the relationship and just looking at birds flying happily together in spring makes me jealous (and also yell at birds in a public park and people think I'm crazy.)

Main problem is, my side job is writing short stories. Romance is a large part of stories... and lately all my chapters have been ruining all the ships and making everyone a cynical jerk. Even my editor got depressed after reading it. Oops.

Anything that'll help restore my faith in humanity? And romance?


Victorian Romance Emma is what you want.

Aside from that, perhaps watch Hanasakeru Seishounen

Both are pretty great romance anime, although the first 1 is probally exactly what you're looking for.

Both are also great examples of amazing well thought out/written stories as well.
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Don't forget to look for love in the little things. Heartbreak is part of the equation. Love can be one-sided, bittersweet, inspiring, unambiguous, subtle, and frustrating (all at the same time). This is random, but I think the artwork helps capture "real-life love" better than some others I have seen: http://pulptastic.com/korean-artist-beautifully-illustrates-real-love/
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Don't give a shitty shit about anything.
Do what you love. Get over your ex ....or if you can't, try to woo him back!

And.... watch a lot of anime... it helps.. I know
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Maison Ikkoku, it is really all you need right now. Just find it and swim around in it like Scrooge McDuck for a while.
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Watch Clannad after story again then you will feel guilty about being sad and move forward!!!!!!! Buy box of tissues first
Posted 5/16/15
The most realistic would be White Album 2, but I think that would bum you out in your current state... So realistic it hurts :3.


I'd just go with Clannad, I guess. I wouldn't say ef, even though I love it, just because it has a tad of fantasy and non-science medical conditions. The love triangle in ef - Memories is quite realistic though.
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Posted 5/18/15
try Plastic Memories...it gives me the feels every episode and i would say i am severely lacking in emotional IQ
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Posted 5/19/15 , edited 5/19/15
5 centimeter per second.

Sad love story about growing apart - and moving on!

You dont get much realistic romance in anime/manga, barley any. 5CPS has quality writing tho.
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I see everyone recommending what they like but alot of these anime push ideals onto their characters. The best way to find a realistic romance example is finding romance and hinted shipping in a anime or manga that is not necessarily romance genre.
I recomend looking at a strong friendship first like maybe When Marnie was There
Then it would be best to analize some mangas that have manga authors with the opposite gender from their manga publishing demographic.

For example, Arakawa Hiromu and Ohtaka Shinobu
They might push some ideals on the guys but the girls are realistic.
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