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Posted 5/22/15

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Very good parenting. Would have been greater if she had the sense not to let a child online without supervision. But then I'm old school and the kids that come in my home generally listen to the rules.


Nope worst parenting ever. Talk about painting a target on her daughter back for bullies. Not to mention she going to make her resent her even more now. The mother is just a bully. Public shaming is the solution to this problem, yeah like that has never backfire before. There are 100 ways to handle that situation with not resorting to this caveman solution.



See mate if I was her father I would get my belt and give her a good whooping. It work for me, it could work for her. Then I'd delete that account. Break or keep her computer (depends on how angry I'd be) and her phone. Buy her a phone where see cant get on the internet..
Then when I cool down I'd ask why she would do that.
But now that I think about it. I wouldn't publicly shame here for something like this. Maybe if she stole or something along those lines then maybe.
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Well if it gets to the point where a girl acts like that, it's because of bad parenting in the first place. You don't just wake up one day and decide you're going to be trashy. So what to do once it gets to that point? The obvious answer here we should all learn is, instil common moral and respect at a young age, rather than try and do it later. I don't know if what the mother done was right / wrong but once again at that point, I think it's a simple case of shit happens and the only way she will get better is if she takes a look at herself and decides to.

And to the people in this thread saying they would hit their child and suddenly treat them like their in a prison, don't ever have kids you fucking idiots.
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Posted 5/22/15

KarenAraragi wrote:


retronatrix wrote:

Very good parenting. Would have been greater if she had the sense not to let a child online without supervision. But then I'm old school and the kids that come in my home generally listen to the rules.


Nope worst parenting ever. Talk about painting a target on her daughter back for bullies. Not to mention she going to make her resent her even more now. The mother is just a bully. Public shaming is the solution to this problem, yeah like that has never backfire before. There are 100 ways to handle that situation with not resorting to this caveman solution.


She was already going to be a target for something far worse than bullying if she was online age catfishing with 40 year old guys. You can feel with bullying one way or another. But I've seen 12,13,14 year old girls in nature and clothing that have made them look quite older. I've had to turn one away from my business because I keep a dresscode as part of my service contract and I thought she was a college girl:very tall,well done makeup,very inappropriate revealing clothing....then her mom called me to yell and compassion because she's only 14 and I just get little special unique snowflake feelings.

You have ways with dealing with bullies. You can't undo a sexual assault.
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And to the people in this thread saying they would hit their child.

Some cind of punisment like that I would accept to a degree...
Like how some teachers where back in the day not accepting BS and treated equaliy back (saying you are no better, and maybe worse if you are going to be like that)

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then her mom called me to yell and compassion because she's only 14

She told you to yell at her?
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from what AiYumega wrote.. think we can stop talking about what you'd do now. and seriously, you'd work that hard lol.. xD. Disable the camera and buy her a phone with none if you go ahead to discipline anyone who does that.


Or easier yet....take away her phone, fully password protect every computer in the house, change the passcde for the wifi,etc. My adoptive parents were Amish, the highest tec I encountered was tv at diners and a few English kid's house my parents were friends with. I didn't touch a computer till I was 14. I turned out fine. Nerdy but fine.
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Like all teens she will rebel and do worse.


Not all teens rebel. A good amount, granted. But not all.
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Good she deserves it.

I don't understand why little kids keep posting their nasty bodies online. Like, can you wait until you're older?
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Whoa, i don't know whats wrong with some kids anymore. Well, i'm young and i don't know if that method would've worked with me (well, i never did anything as stupid as that). What i do know is that she will suffer a lot, but the outcome of all this is in her hands (the daughters, and, in a way, in her moms too.) humans aren't all equal, we are individuals, different from one another, so should she hate her mother, kill herself, run away from home, or whatever comes her mind, it's up to her. Though i do hope things end up well, and by that i mean 'not so bad" because after this bad things are bound to happen. But that is just my opinion.
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That is not parenting. Try consequence cards.
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Freddy96NO wrote:


DanteVSTheWorld wrote:
And to the people in this thread saying they would hit their child.

Some cind of punisment like that I would accept to a degree...
Like how some teachers where back in the day not accepting BS and treated equaliy back (saying you are no better, and maybe worse if you are going to be like that)

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then her mom called me to yell and compassion because she's only 14

She told you to yell at her?


No, she called and yelled at me because I refused to do her tutoring dressed as she was. When I tutor it's often at the same time I'm tutoring others,while my husband is with the children I care for or during activity the for the children. So part of the service contract I have had a dresscode that I require the adults and older kids to sign off on. Because I'm not going to allow a child or parent dressed as a skank a saurus around other people's children,inappropriate clothing isn't conductive.

So her mom got mad at me because she thought it was stupid and yelled. I let her until she finished, pointed out that she was dressed VERY inappropriate for a care facility with children, she went be charged because of refused service and that she can choose back when dressed like a young lady.


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I have to say this is terrible parenting. Like others have said, all this has probably done is traumatise her daughter and make her a joke in her community. Hell, she's thirteen and still in school. What her mother has done there is create the perfect topic for kids to bully her with, and I cannot in any way see any positive consequence from this form of "parenting".

Sure, punishing kids doing stupid as hell things is all well and good, but when the punishment is far too over the top for the poor behaviour, that's just bad parenting, and doesn't help the child. Parenting isn't about dishing out overly harsh punishments, which I do believe this was, it's about raising a child to be a functioning member of society. I don't see how publicly shaming your child, in a video that goes viral and thus very likely severely damaging her social life, accomplishes that.
Posted 5/22/15

retronatrix wrote:


KarenAraragi wrote:


retronatrix wrote:

Very good parenting. Would have been greater if she had the sense not to let a child online without supervision. But then I'm old school and the kids that come in my home generally listen to the rules.


Nope worst parenting ever. Talk about painting a target on her daughter back for bullies. Not to mention she going to make her resent her even more now. The mother is just a bully. Public shaming is the solution to this problem, yeah like that has never backfire before. There are 100 ways to handle that situation with not resorting to this caveman solution.


She was already going to be a target for something far worse than bullying if she was online age catfishing with 40 year old guys. You can feel with bullying one way or another. But I've seen 12,13,14 year old girls in nature and clothing that have made them look quite older. I've had to turn one away from my business because I keep a dresscode as part of my service contract and I thought she was a college girl:very tall,well done makeup,very inappropriate revealing clothing....then her mom called me to yell and compassion because she's only 14 and I just get little special unique snowflake feelings.

You have ways with dealing with bullies. You can't undo a sexual assault.


Even so there better ways of handling the situation.
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Posted 5/22/15

KarenAraragi wrote:


retronatrix wrote:


KarenAraragi wrote:


retronatrix wrote:

Very good parenting. Would have been greater if she had the sense not to let a child online without supervision. But then I'm old school and the kids that come in my home generally listen to the rules.


Nope worst parenting ever. Talk about painting a target on her daughter back for bullies. Not to mention she going to make her resent her even more now. The mother is just a bully. Public shaming is the solution to this problem, yeah like that has never backfire before. There are 100 ways to handle that situation with not resorting to this caveman solution.


She was already going to be a target for something far worse than bullying if she was online age catfishing with 40 year old guys. You can feel with bullying one way or another. But I've seen 12,13,14 year old girls in nature and clothing that have made them look quite older. I've had to turn one away from my business because I keep a dresscode as part of my service contract and I thought she was a college girl:very tall,well done makeup,very inappropriate revealing clothing....then her mom called me to yell and compassion because she's only 14 and I just get little special unique snowflake feelings.

You have ways with dealing with bullies. You can't undo a sexual assault.


Even so there better ways of handling the situation.


Yes, discipline and standards in parenting as a preventative. No child under 18 need to be online without filters and supervision.
Posted 5/22/15

I don't agree with the whole internet thing. I was a kid and I never did any of this shit this kid did.
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KarenAraragi wrote:


I don't agree with the whole internet thing. I was a kid and I never did any of this shit this kid did.


And not every child can handle responsibility. Better safe than sorry.
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