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Posted 5/25/15

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Kinda poured out my heart there, whew.


girl, I am so freaking sorry. I wish someone could have been there to help you or something; that's so very hard and I can't imagine having that happen or the devastation that can wreak. I have been on the sidelines while someone has done this to my friend (albeit I told her he was a jerk...and she didn't listen -sigh- ) but I'm just so sorry you had to go through that
But you do deserve love. I know you don't know me or anything but please believe that; he's just not good enough for you. He's an ass but you deserve love, ok? That's just not what he gave you You seem like a really sweet person and I hope you find someone who will be good to you.
sorry...kinda ran my mouth off there....

But I've been in this sort of situation recently. I just now understood how much mental and vocal abuse I've been taking from someone for well over a decade. They seemed really sweet at first but I realize that they don't like me for who I am. Only when I suit their needs; which usually means they are so bored and none of their other friends are around that they have to 'settle' for me. I've wept over this for awhile now because it hurts ever so much but if they hadn't ripped my heart out and put it in a blender and hit 'puree', I would never have come to realize that I actually didn't do anything wrong and then I wouldn't have come here and met some of these wonderful, marvelous, generous and awesome people.
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Posted 5/25/15

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Well yes I have had similar experiences, and it usually starts with the realization that they are something more than sexy. Whether it's a boy or a girl they can be sexy and charming and have initial traits they are willing to display to you. Gradually people feel more comfortable around you and they will take on a more lax stance in your friendship. They will stop having the need to impress you - or feel welcome with you - and express more personal or real behaviors. You will begin to notice that they are no longer idols to adore and are more like the rest of us ( or something less awesome than you initially anticipated). THAT IS OPTION "A". Option "B" is that you look past their initial charm and sexiness/beauty and realize/witness the proof that they are basic ass bitches and aint that cool at all and aint worth you. The key to finding a dope worthy love companion, is to take in to consideration what isn't part of the flare that made you notice them in the first place.


That makes so much sense. I think I been falling for dudes, because of certain things they said/ looked rather then for who they r. My life is a lie!! D:
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Posted 5/25/15

weyxtra wrote:


kawaii_gangsta wrote:

Kinda poured out my heart there, whew.


girl, I am so freaking sorry. I wish someone could have been there to help you or something; that's so very hard and I can't imagine having that happen or the devastation that can wreak. I have been on the sidelines while someone has done this to my friend (albeit I told her he was a jerk...and she didn't listen -sigh- ) but I'm just so sorry you had to go through that
But you do deserve love. I know you don't know me or anything but please believe that; he's just not good enough for you. He's an ass but you deserve love, ok? That's just not what he gave you You seem like a really sweet person and I hope you find someone who will be good to you.
sorry...kinda ran my mouth off there....

But I've been in this sort of situation recently. I just now understood how much mental and vocal abuse I've been taking from someone for well over a decade. They seemed really sweet at first but I realize that they don't like me for who I am. Only when I suit their needs; which usually means they are so bored and none of their other friends are around that they have to 'settle' for me. I've wept over this for awhile now because it hurts ever so much but if they hadn't ripped my heart out and put it in a blender and hit 'puree', I would never have come to realize that I actually didn't do anything wrong and then I wouldn't have come here and met some of these wonderful, marvelous, generous and awesome people.


This is a nice moment!
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Posted 5/25/15

CSPower wrote:


Arielgirl375 wrote:


CSPower wrote:


Arielgirl375 wrote:


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so many times, but usually cuz i wanted to stop my self from becoming attached to something i could never have, so i had to convince my self that there were more wrongs than rights, but i guess im done with that part of my life and if a opportunity arises than im going to take it.


way to think proactively!! congrats


hell ya


HELLS Yea!!


the enthusiasm is entertaining.


I agree!!
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Posted 5/25/15 , edited 5/28/15


Yeah, you're absolutely right. I still see/hear about him trying to wreak havoc on other girls. But I don't think I need to eexpose him, everyone knows how he is and kinda hate him for hurting me. Plus, I'm too good to be wasting my time on him. Our "relationship" did teach me a lot of lessons.
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Posted 5/25/15

PencilPoosh wrote:

Well yes I have had similar experiences, and it usually starts with the realization that they are something more than sexy. Whether it's a boy or a girl they can be sexy and charming and have initial traits they are willing to display to you. Gradually people feel more comfortable around you and they will take on a more lax stance in your friendship. They will stop having the need to impress you - or feel welcome with you - and express more personal or real behaviors. You will begin to notice that they are no longer idols to adore and are more like the rest of us ( or something less awesome than you initially anticipated). THAT IS OPTION "A". Option "B" is that you look past their initial charm and sexiness/beauty and realize/witness the proof that they are basic ass bitches and aint that cool at all and aint worth you. The key to finding a dope worthy love companion, is to take in to consideration what isn't part of the flare that made you notice them in the first place.


the body will wilt but the mind will only thrive so if love were the body than it shall wilt as well, but love is eternal,therefore love is the mind, lust is the body.
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Thank you so much, that really means a lot. The sad thing is that I knew it was going to end badly but I didn't care because I was too lovestruck. I now know to be much more careful. I'm sorry that you're going through a hard time as well. You seem really nice and you deserve to be treated so much better. I'm glad that you realized that you're a wonderful individual that deserves the best.
Posted 5/25/15

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PencilPoosh wrote:

Well yes I have had similar experiences, and it usually starts with the realization that they are something more than sexy. Whether it's a boy or a girl they can be sexy and charming and have initial traits they are willing to display to you. Gradually people feel more comfortable around you and they will take on a more lax stance in your friendship. They will stop having the need to impress you - or feel welcome with you - and express more personal or real behaviors. You will begin to notice that they are no longer idols to adore and are more like the rest of us ( or something less awesome than you initially anticipated). THAT IS OPTION "A". Option "B" is that you look past their initial charm and sexiness/beauty and realize/witness the proof that they are basic ass bitches and aint that cool at all and aint worth you. The key to finding a dope worthy love companion, is to take in to consideration what isn't part of the flare that made you notice them in the first place.


the body will wilt but the mind will only thrive so if love were the body than it shall wilt as well, but love is eternal,therefore love is the mind, lust is the body.


I"m with CS Power on here but I also see Pencil's point; in my own experience anyway...I'm a pretty down to earth person. I know i"m not peaches to deal with so I don't expect everyone else to be either. Now I'm not talking of a romantic perspective, obviously; I've never had a boyfriend; but boy or girl, just from the perspective of a friend...well...I try to look at it this way.
There are times you love a person and deal with their negative qualities because in the end you know they do truly love and care about you as much as you do them. In my own way I think relationships need to be 50/50. You can't be expected to carry the other's weight; that's not friendship, you know? Sure, everyone is allowed bad days but even if you have them and you snap, make sure to apologize because your friend still didn't deserve to be put in the middle of your crossfire even if they endured it and stayed with you because that's what friends do. Friendship should never be taken for granted. You owe it to your own heart to know if someone you consider your friend is actually not your friend at all, either; that 'perfect idea' Pencil was talking about, when it leaves it hits so hard but that's where friendship comes in. You endure those imperfections; they make up the person....but if it's at the expense of your own heart and they just treat you ill and feel that they have the right to do so...I don't think that's friendship, nor is it right. Friendship seems to be really taken for granted these days. It's something serious.
Posted 5/25/15

Thanks, Kawaii ^_^ You seem truly sweet (and if that's you in the pic, you're so pretty! I'm jealous! heehee). My heart's still raw and achy but after 15+ years I know it's just going to take some time. I still talk with them but...well, I'm sure you know how it is as well. Eyes and ears open now and just leave when things get touchy because I no longer take it anymore. My mom says I"m too forgiving, haha. She's probably right; but I am how I am and I don't think I'll change it ;^_^;
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Posted 5/25/15 , edited 5/25/15


CSPower wrote:


PencilPoosh wrote:

Well yes I have had similar experiences, and it usually starts with the realization that they are something more than sexy. Whether it's a boy or a girl they can be sexy and charming and have initial traits they are willing to display to you. Gradually people feel more comfortable around you and they will take on a more lax stance in your friendship. They will stop having the need to impress you - or feel welcome with you - and express more personal or real behaviors. You will begin to notice that they are no longer idols to adore and are more like the rest of us ( or something less awesome than you initially anticipated). THAT IS OPTION "A". Option "B" is that you look past their initial charm and sexiness/beauty and realize/witness the proof that they are basic ass bitches and aint that cool at all and aint worth you. The key to finding a dope worthy love companion, is to take in to consideration what isn't part of the flare that made you notice them in the first place.


the body will wilt but the mind will only thrive so if love were the body than it shall wilt as well, but love is eternal,therefore love is the mind, lust is the body.


I"m with CS Power on here but I also see Pencil's point; in my own experience anyway...I'm a pretty down to earth person. I know i"m not peaches to deal with so I don't expect everyone else to be either. Now I'm not talking of a romantic perspective, obviously; I've never had a boyfriend; but boy or girl, just from the perspective of a friend...well...I try to look at it this way.
There are times you love a person and deal with their negative qualities because in the end you know they do truly love and care about you as much as you do them. In my own way I think relationships need to be 50/50. You can't be expected to carry the other's weight; that's not friendship, you know? Sure, everyone is allowed bad days but even if you have them and you snap, make sure to apologize because your friend still didn't deserve to be put in the middle of your crossfire even if they endured it and stayed with you because that's what friends do. Friendship should never be taken for granted. You owe it to your own heart to know if someone you consider your friend is actually not your friend at all, either; that 'perfect idea' Pencil was talking about, when it leaves it hits so hard but that's where friendship comes in. You endure those imperfections; they make up the person....but if it's at the expense of your own heart and they just treat you ill and feel that they have the right to do so...I don't think that's friendship, nor is it right. Friendship seems to be really taken for granted these days. It's something serious.
Me and CSPower are on the same page. What we are talking about is the difference between superficial lust and love. I agree with you weyxtra, a relationship's security lies in the acceptance of a person, both faults and shining qualities. But if the two of you have no business being with each other, other than your mutual appreciation of sexiness, then you should get real.
Posted 5/25/15


*holds up hands in peaceful gesture* as I said....talking only from a friendship perspective and no more I leave romance and other such emotions to my fictional gentlemen of Dickens and my BBC dramas for now I know my limits! *smiles*
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Posted 5/25/15 , edited 5/25/15

Arielgirl375 wrote:
I mean it in a negative way. They just weren't what I thought they were. Then I thought "why did I like him in the first place"? Idk if that makes sense, but yea I think u got the gist of it!

Then I would call the instinct card -_- (if you was drawn or felt a bit comfortable when you meet and later)

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Posted 5/25/15 , edited 5/25/15

weyxtra wrote:



*holds up hands in peaceful gesture* as I said....talking only from a friendship perspective and no more I leave romance and other such emotions to my fictional gentlemen of Dickens and my BBC dramas for now I know my limits! *smiles*


im not meant to be loved, im just a tool
have been for so long that my body and mind arnet the same person, ive been isolated IRL, so this is whats left, some guy posting on forums, if my wisdom(even though im only 15) is enough to change your out look than that is enough for me, but i do this for other convience, my words arnt for me so saying its not for you is like saying the hammer that no ones using is not for me . it was meant to never be used, but it is sooooo.....
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Posted 5/25/15


please explain in depth instinct card? I don't understand. Also will use spoilers for future reference!
Posted 5/25/15


I'm a 27yr old maid, *laughs* but not unhappy in my choices. I've been very alone as well regarding people of my age group for quite a few years. More than a decade; so I can relate to the loneliness. *nods*

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