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Posted 5/25/15

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Arielgirl375 wrote:
I mean it in a negative way. They just weren't what I thought they were. Then I thought "why did I like him in the first place"? Idk if that makes sense, but yea I think u got the gist of it!

Then I would call the instinct card -_- (if you was drawn or felt a bit comfortable when you meet and later)



ya ill start using spoilers aswell its more convienent.
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Well yes I have had similar experiences, and it usually starts with the realization that they are something more than sexy. Whether it's a boy or a girl they can be sexy and charming and have initial traits they are willing to display to you. Gradually people feel more comfortable around you and they will take on a more lax stance in your friendship. They will stop having the need to impress you - or feel welcome with you - and express more personal or real behaviors. You will begin to notice that they are no longer idols to adore and are more like the rest of us ( or something less awesome than you initially anticipated). THAT IS OPTION "A". Option "B" is that you look past their initial charm and sexiness/beauty and realize/witness the proof that they are basic ass bitches and aint that cool at all and aint worth you. The key to finding a dope worthy love companion, is to take in to consideration what isn't part of the flare that made you notice them in the first place.


the body will wilt but the mind will only thrive so if love were the body than it shall wilt as well, but love is eternal,therefore love is the mind, lust is the body.


what you typed is kind of a contradicting. Cause u said love is eternal, but said body wilts. So if love were the body it wouldn't be eternal. I still get what you mean, but it took me a minute
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I'm a 27yr old maid, *laughs* but not unhappy in my choices. I've been very alone as well regarding people of my age group for quite a few years. More than a decade; so I can relate to the loneliness. *nods*



if there is a hell its a place without anothers thoughts, loneliness is the enemy of life, im glad someone can relate to the true feeling of hell but wish that you couldn't.
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Posted 5/25/15

Arielgirl375 wrote:


CSPower wrote:


PencilPoosh wrote:

Well yes I have had similar experiences, and it usually starts with the realization that they are something more than sexy. Whether it's a boy or a girl they can be sexy and charming and have initial traits they are willing to display to you. Gradually people feel more comfortable around you and they will take on a more lax stance in your friendship. They will stop having the need to impress you - or feel welcome with you - and express more personal or real behaviors. You will begin to notice that they are no longer idols to adore and are more like the rest of us ( or something less awesome than you initially anticipated). THAT IS OPTION "A". Option "B" is that you look past their initial charm and sexiness/beauty and realize/witness the proof that they are basic ass bitches and aint that cool at all and aint worth you. The key to finding a dope worthy love companion, is to take in to consideration what isn't part of the flare that made you notice them in the first place.


the body will wilt but the mind will only thrive so if love were the body than it shall wilt as well, but love is eternal,therefore love is the mind, lust is the body.


what you typed is kind of a contradicting. Cause u said love is eternal, but said body wilts. So if love were the body it wouldn't be eternal. I still get what you mean, but it took me a minute


i have a lot of time inside my own thoughts so deep thinking is kind of a part of me, i can see your confusion though
Posted 5/25/15


you are most kind; but I'll endure the wrath of such physical hell if it means I then have the ability to relate to the pain of another. If it's one thing I have in abundance it is the will to endure.
I normally don't do this but poetry has been a saving grace in my life. I don't know if you like poetry or not but this has always given me some comfort and hope so I pass it to you:

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul

Invictus-William Ernest Henley

and although I'm not there right now, all of my best and warmest wishes to you, CSPower
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Posted 5/25/15

weyxtra wrote:



you are most kind; but I'll endure the wrath of such physical hell if it means I then have the ability to relate to the pain of another. If it's one thing I have in abundance it is the will to endure.
I normally don't do this but poetry has been a saving grace in my life. I don't know if you like poetry or not but this has always given me some comfort and hope so I pass it to you:

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul

Invictus-William Ernest Henley

and although I'm not there right now, all of my best and warmest wishes to you, CSPower


DAMN STRAIT
i love this, this is why hell is NOT eternal as long as the souls of the strong live on, thank you this is a very good poem.
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I don't understand whats happening up there ^, but it seems cool!
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Posted 5/25/15 , edited 5/25/15
No. But I don't really start to like anyone that easily, so by the time I fall in love with(or crush on) someone, I'm already far enough ahead to see past their shell and see them for who they really are. The only women I've been with are the ones I wanted to be with, so I can't regret that, even if it didn't work out with them. I still see the same traits I saw before in them, if that makes sense.
Posted 5/25/15 , edited 5/25/15
100% appearances so far.

sometimes i get curious about what sort of guy would i like for personality...
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Yeah, typically it happens when I got out of a long relationship. I'm bad at breaking things off so I end up in another relationship longer than I should have just because that person is diffrent from the previous relationship. Like as an example, was going out with a girl who was the complete opposite of me in most every important respect, errr well almost. What I saw as cute about her was also the aspect of her personality which made her being loyal in a relationship completely impossible. Just a kind of no barriers friendliness.
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I've had a few. most of them in high school and college. Mostly nice until they realised I meant it when I said I don't kiss, no holding hands, no sex. But that I just put up to crazy teen hormones and lack of maturity.

Had one guy who seemed very well put together but after a few months he got the materialism bug: scared when he graduated he wouldn't get six figures, big house and summers in California. I looked out that I was in need school to please my birth family and planned on things more modest and laid back after, beingng a housewife with a business on the side (stamp dealer at that time was my hope). Yeah, that didn't go well.

And another I knew I'd met through a gaming group. He seemed very intelligent and cool, was very nice and all that. But as we dated he got arrogant and just plain rude. He had a temper that would fly off the handle and would just get belittling of you didn't agree with him or had a different taste in something. Then I found out he was living with his parents not from getting laid off or having hard financial times like can happen but just because he spent all day playing video games and didn't feel like working. At 46 that's just....yeah. he always said his place was in a bad neighborhood so that's why he never hosted game night but really it was that. Then I found out later that day he was bragging to our mutual friends about his young girlfriend and all the sex we've had but they didn't believe him thankfully. Suffice to say we didn't last long and I still keep in touch with the rest of our group.
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Posted 5/25/15

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I know exactly how you feel. When my first boyfriend asked me out, I was so happy because I really liked him. He dumped me a month later after using me for his own pleasure twice. His reason for dumping me was that he felt sorry for me the entire time and that he was "too popular" for me. After that, I started to realize how terrible he was to me the entire time. The reason I liked him so much was because he would always compliment me and make me feel good about myself , but it turned out that he did that to every other pretty girl at our school. Sometimes I feel like I still like him, but I remember how awful he was. The only reason we fall for the wrong person is because all the attention they give us at first. My mistake is that I jumped into the relationship too fast because I thought that he really liked me. Moral of the story : "We accept the love we think we deserve."


Very sorry for your having had to experience that. I think most of us experience relationships where we get used to some extent. I've been used for what I can buy someone before and though it doesn't compare to the typical guy bs you had to go through it's still not a great feeling.
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I recently got out of a long relationship because I hit exactly that kind of revelation, OP. It was sad and hard to do, but sometimes we just start liking people for no real reason other than the fact that they might be cute, attractive, fun, etc. but then you realize you're just not fit for them. But it was still a good learning experience, and I like to think every relationship offers one.

Hopefully my next one won't be like that. I certainly intend to be more careful about who I date in the future.
Posted 5/25/15
I can't speak from experience but I think it's the attachment to the idea of the person which isn't who the person is but merely the delusion of what we thought they were. As for still having feelings towards that person afterwards it's the inability to let go of that delusion that you were so fond of and accept that was not who they really are.
Posted 5/25/15
Truth -- Nice eyes or nice butt

Yup.
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