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Posted 5/28/15
well what do you think?
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Some people do, others don't. From what I've noticed those who had great parents and a good relationship with their parents tend to turn out like them more often than say... someone with bad parents who had a bad childhood. They're more likely to go in the opposite direction. Just my observation.
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No, you become like your parents from the first day you move out of the dorms and into your first solo apartment--

And "I'm finally going to buy the coolest mega stereo system!" eventually gives way to "Will you please remember to change the toilet paper roll when it runs out?"
That's when you discover that what your parents had was Responsibility, and what you didn't have as a kid.
Posted 5/28/15
Yelling from the livingroom just to ask me to hand them the remote that's like 5 feet away from them...calling me by my sisters name but expects me to respond anyway..throwing a shoe at me from across the room if I ignore them....
Yep. I'm gonna be exactly like my momma.

lolno but on a serious note, possibly. if kids have pretty shitty parents, they wanna be better than them. this is what i've noticed. but with poor or no parental guidance, they most likely wouldn't. they'd have good morals, but they won't do things the right way.
if their parents are good, they often don't wanna be like them. like, just dont wanna go by the rules & follow their ways they go by. make their own paths. often by rebelling at a young age, stuff like that. not sure if I'm making sense.
I do however believe we may pick up certain traits from our parents. like, my dad is hella picky with food. I probably picked that up from him, bc my mother isn't picky at all. same with my sister. she's not picky. just stuff we pick up from them just being around them I guess.

but I guess my answer is no. I don't believe kids grow up like their parents. in most cases anyway.
Posted 5/28/15
Ah, no.
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I don't plan on becoming a parent, so I dunno. There are definitely a variety of things I wouldn't do as a parent that my parents did/do though. But, as they say, nobody's perfect.

I gotta work it.

Again and again 'til I get it right.
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It's more like in this situation where you tell someone young,"well, back in the day, we didn't even have.... _____ ... and we had to.... ____. You, young bloods, got it so easy."
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I think that's mostly up to the child. In the end what really matters is how much effort you put into becoming the person you want to be, though how you were raised can play a big part since it points you in a certain direction.
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No i don't think so. I turned out more like my older sister
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not exactly, it really depends on the individual and their experiences in childhood. my assumptions are that most people tend to evaluate their own upbringing and seek to avoid the parental behavior that may have been harmful in their own personal formative years, and then give their child what they themselves lacked in their early life as they are more conscious (i guess) as to what works and what doesn't
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I think it really depends. My own father certainly didn't have the same relationship with me that my grandparents had with him.

I think it depends on the parent. If they are taking great care not to be like his/her parents and making a conscious effort to change, there's a good chance the child will be brought up differently.
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Posted 5/29/15
Nope.
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galaxiias wrote:

I don't plan on becoming a parent, so I dunno. There are definitely a variety of things I wouldn't do as a parent that my parents did/do though. But, as they say, nobody's perfect.

I gotta work it.

Again and again 'til I get it right.


haha miley's songs were so true back then.
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Turning into your father/mother is a very common thing, and it happens to most people. Some more than others. Most people probobly dont even realize it.
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I guess it depends on the circumstances. My grandfather was a pretty mean person to my father and uncle, so they would of course not become like him at all. And my father has his own set of bad qualities I never want to inherit(and don't think I will, because I am aware of them). Although I guess I'll end up becoming very much like my mother.
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