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Posted 5/31/15
No way, it's a relationship doomed to go nowhere. There are so many other things you could do instead of wasting your time with that kind of relationship.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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If she cheated on you then she'll cheat whit someone else, people who can't say something face to face isn't worth dealing whit
Posted 5/31/15
She sounds like a waste of time to me, someone who purposely leads someone on and then runs to someone else. I would've immediately cut ties with her after finding out she was hanging out with the same guy getting all lovey dovey lol I suggest you wait until you get older to have a relationship, and hopefully that'll be better.
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Posted 5/31/15 , edited 8/7/15
I'm going to go with what is probably the less popular answer here and say that anyone who you can be sufficiently close enough to on an emotional level can and will hurt you. Rather than withdrawing completely from opportunities to get hurt you should instead judge to see if she has a sincere desire to not hurt you.

If you are too afraid of getting hurt you will never be able to have a fulfilling relationship with anyone at any level. I know this... by experience.

Rarely does anyone truly have bad intentions. Give her a chance and test her resolve and sincerity.
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I would say it's not worth the time and effort to try to give it a chance. Once trust is broken while you could forgive you will never forget. Trust is the most important factor in a relationship. As others have pointed out you will never be able to give 100% trust in that person and the doubt will eat away at you.
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Posted 5/31/15
If you are dating someone who is trying to mentally hurt you, you should dump them ASAP
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Posted 5/31/15 , edited 5/31/15

Jwade316 wrote:

even told each other that we liked each other and wanted to try to go out together.



Jwade316 wrote:
she told me that she is sorry for leading me on


So... she likes you, but then leads you on while she goes off with some random dude, then she didn't 'mean to' lead you on, and suddenly she wants to focus on the future?

First off, I can bet the "we can be in a relationship in the future" part means she isn't in to you. She is just trying to let you down gently. And by the sounds of it, she sounds immature anyway so you wouldn't want to be with her, especially when she seems the type to sleeps around.
Posted 5/31/15
Nope, They're not worth it. Move on and find someone who will really cares about you so much that they will never try to hurt you.
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Posted 8/1/15
Easier to say "Bye Felicia" then to deal with any situation relating to a horrible person.
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Posted 8/1/15 , edited 8/1/15
Well people are going to hurt each other, it's what people do so it depends on why you were hurt and the circumstances surrounding it. In this case however I'd walk away, she's not being honest with you.

That said if and only if she noticed on her own that things weren't going right, didn't like what she may have been starting to do, and decided to only focus in on her future... I applaud her.
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Nope it messed me up mentally >.> she made me paranoid to the point of where I kept saying sorry because apparently I did was wrong.....like I mean EVERYTHING.....I felt like thrash and it was my first relationship horray for human relationships
Posted 8/1/15
No, I've been through enough abusive relationships to say
that it most definitely isn't a good idea to stay with someone
who is abusive to you in ANY way.
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Posted 8/1/15
By what you said I think she wasn't into you in the first place.. yeah she said she liked you but going with another guy after you? She wouldn't have done that if she was really interested in you. If she was serious about focusing on her future career then let her be and move on. But if she wasn't serious about the career thing then it could be just an excuse.. but either way let her be and move on.
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Posted 8/1/15
Of course not. Never date, be friends, or simply be around those who hurt you.
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http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/138933/15_signs_youre_in_an
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