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Posted 8/1/15
I did, it didn't end well. The mental scars took years to overcome, only recently to I feel "free" from his words. Of course, at the time I cared for him so no one could talk me out of it. Can't change the past, accept it and move forward. My current boyfriend is the love of my life and builds me up. I don't know how I got through the pain without him. If you love someone you build them up not tear them down.
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Jwade316 wrote:

Do you think it's alright to date someone or try to date someone that hurt you mentally?


As for me, I'm currently going through this situation with someone who hurt me. We spent weeks hanging out together, going to movies and
even told each other that we liked each other and wanted to try to go out together. One night she goes out to hangout with another guy as friends and through her words a "spur of the moment" happened. She came to school Monday, only said "hey" to me and started hanging out with the same guy. I didn't think anything of it until I saw them hugged up with each other holding hands. I didn't confront her until later that night and she told me that she is sorry for leading me on even though she didn't mean to, I still liked you and still kinda do. Now she says they're not a couple that she just wants to focus on her future first, then be in a relationship.


It's very possible that she didn't intentionally lead you on. She might have just gotten along really well with the other guy and decided to try it out. That said, if you can't truly forgive her and trust her then there is no point to dating her when she's ready. She obviously doesn't want to date right now, and that's fine. It's also fine if she dates someone else when she is ready. Don't pin your hopes on her. Have fun with your dating life, meet new people.
Posted 8/1/15
You do it because the sensation is familiar and don't want anything more than that because that would be unsafe.
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Posted 8/1/15
Nooooooooooopppppppppppppe!

unless you like the abuse... then that's on you
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Posted 8/1/15

Nekoshema wrote:

I did, it didn't end well. The mental scars took years to overcome, only recently to I feel "free" from his words. Of course, at the time I cared for him so no one could talk me out of it. Can't change the past, accept it and move forward. My current boyfriend is the love of my life and builds me up. I don't know how I got through the pain without him. If you love someone you build them up not tear them down.


As long as I don't see or talk to her in the fall semester as much as I did in the spring semester, my scars "should" heal fast.

On another note, I totally forgot that I made this thread.
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The people we love hurt us the most. That will always be true. Whether they are worth it is the better question. In this case I wouldn't chase, you're still in the dating scene and you might as well look elsewhere. Sounds like your trust took a beating with her, and that wouldn't work in a relationship.
Posted 8/1/15
I've dated someone like that in the past and I won't do it again. It's too emotionally draining.
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It depends is my answer on this. Keep in mind I'm 27 if that matters. I have been in a relationship now with my girlfriend for sometime. I left the state for personal and work reasons for a time despite her asking me not to and this upset her. She apparently while I was gone got with her old boyfriend to intentionally hurt me or because she didn't think I was coming back. They had sex after hanging out a bit and it turned out it was meaningless there was no romance there he just went and played video games afterward. She made a mistake and was hurt by it in numerous ways and was honest and sorry that she had done so with me. I forgave her and we have moved on and things are good.
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Posted 8/1/15
I'd go the long distance for them but that's not happening anytime soon since I'm still pretty young.
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I wanted to date someone who was mentally hurting me once. I don't think they liked me back.
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Posted 8/5/15


Could've chose a better music video.
Posted 8/5/15
your better off finding someone who genuinely loves you not someone whos pretending, you might not see it now but when you find that right woman the picture gets more clearer, then in the future you'll be singing skaterboi? lol
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16 / M / U.A Highschool
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Posted 8/5/15
Nope if sure hurt you once she'll hurt you again and again I been there before and it was terrible
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Posted 8/5/15 , edited 8/5/15
Um no. Actually.... It depends how much I am willing to hurt for that person. Also if ur a masochist and u like the hurt/pain type feeling.
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