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Why don't women ever just say no?
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 6/8/15
How come every time a guy tries to get at a girl and she doesn't want to be with him they have to make up some fake answer or use some code word that only other women understand? We're not hip to your lingo. A blatant no would easily suffice rather than using all these riddles and movie quotes. It would also prevent them from trying again in the future, saving you a whole lot of time and stress.

Edit: Due to a couple run-ins from some angry ladies I'm changing the words "a guy" to "me" and "a girl" to "a girl that I'm in to"

Also change "we're" to "I'm" and change "them" to "me"
Posted 6/4/15 , edited 8/8/15
Because no doesn't mean no when a woman says it right?
Posted 6/4/15
Hwat did they tell you, that you should be studying? Lol
Posted 6/4/15 , edited 6/9/15
It's more artistic otherwise
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 6/5/15
Because as much as no means no if no actually meant no every man on this planet would die a virgin.
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 7/26/15
It's saving face/avoiding confrontation on the matter. Some think that it is to not hurt the person, though I agree with you that this avoidance just makes things worse/more difficult.
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Posted 6/4/15
No answer would eliminate you from the list so when she gets rejected she can circle back to a sure thing more options always good thing
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28 / M / Ark-La-Tex
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Posted 6/4/15
If the ubiquitous "friendzone" threads on here are any indication, it's probably because they think the guy will throw a hissy fit, or worse, if he gets a "no" answer.
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 7/26/15
<experience>
because when we say "No" we get "why?" "why?" "why?" "why?"
or we give real reasons like "I don't find you attractive" or "I'm interested in someone else" and we're instantly seen as rude and cruel.

</experience>

Generally, as women, we are expected to be courteous and polite, so we sugar coat because a lot of people can't take criticism and would see anything less than a "yes" as rude.


And, at least for me - No does mean no. not "no till you convince me otherwise" But I'm honest to a fault anyway.
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 7/31/15
There are alot of stories about guys getting violent or just generally being dicks when girls say no. The question shouldnt be "why girls cant say no" but "Why cant guys handle rejection".
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Posted 6/4/15
You have to be Juza the Cloud in order to have any Women you want!
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 8/8/15
Women say no all the time. Men just don't hear it and don't know what the word means -_-
Posted 6/4/15 , edited 7/26/15
So we won't get constantly harassed maybe even beaten and/or killed for it.
Honestly, especially in my school, I'm not gonna fuck around with some dudes on my own they got some serious issues.
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Posted 6/4/15

IShouldBeStudying wrote:

How come every time a guy tries to get at a girl and she doesn't want to be with him they have to make up some fake answer or use some code word that only other women understand? We're not hip to your lingo. A blatant no would easily suffice rather than using all these riddles and movie quotes. It would also prevent them from trying again in the future, saving you a whole lot of time and stress.


News Flash. Many women do just say no.
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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 7/26/15

knibitz wrote:

<experience>
because when we say "No" we get "why?" "why?" "why?" "why?"
or we give real reasons like "I don't find you attractive" or "I'm interested in someone else" and we're instantly seen as rude and cruel.

</experience>

Generally, as women, we are expected to be courteous and polite, so we sugar coat because a lot of people can't take criticism and would see anything less than a "yes" as rude.


And, at least for me - No does mean no. not "no till you convince me otherwise" But I'm honest to a fault anyway.



Yep, it's completely this. Every time I've ever said no it's always followed by someone badgering me about it nonstop. If I've given an actual reason then it's always that I'm heartless and this is why I'll never find love, or something to that extent. Yep, cruel bitch right here.
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