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Posted 6/4/15 , edited 6/5/15
There may be many reasons why I women won't tell you simply no.

a) It is hard for her to reject someone even if she doesn't want anything with you as women are sensitive beings.

b) She likes you but she can't be with you for wathever reason.

d) She dosn't want to say no as to have you on hold, but this is terrible and can leave you hanging for like forever.
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NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO !!
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I've said no and kind of felt bad about it because this guy was really pining for me. But I just didn't feel that way, curse my super nice nature! And trust me, this doesn't prevent everyone from trying. I'm actually blunt about this kind of stuff... I feel like some guys don't understand that "no" means NO. Around my age now, I feel like it's getting worse
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zero1200 wrote:

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO !!
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Of course!That no will echo in my head for most of today i presume.With voice of my neighbours kitten.Seriously people who think that women can't say no are quite silly indeed.
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Posted 6/5/15 , edited 6/7/15
In my experience, giving an excuse or confusing the heck out of someone gets them to leave me alone 90% of the time whereas saying no works rarely, if ever.
I actually get bothered MORE after saying no to someone, which is the exact opposite of what I want. I do prefer saying no though, I hate making excuses. So when I feel like the person I'm talking to isn't going to be pushy or aggressive, I'm way more likely to just say no.

Also something I felt was off about this question was the whole "make up some fake answer" part.
I cannot count the number of times I've given someone a legitimate answer and had someone throw the sarcastic "sure" at me like they thought I was lying. I think including being more blunt, another thing that improves communication is not assuming you know what the person you're talking to is thinking.

That's just my experience.
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I can't tell you the amount of times a girl has just said no to me. (Not that I've ever been too assertive with women/girls either.) Rarely, if ever, have I been given confusing lingo or refusals in disguise. But that being said, I know when to back off. And so I usually simply accept the 'no' and move on. SIGH. And so the quest for female companionship resumes!
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From what I've experienced, girls who didn't say no were kind of iffy on me in terms of dating or anything of that nature. Maybe they could see potential, or maybe they liked me as a friend and didn't want to shoot the relationship we already had in the face. The only reason I say this is because I have gotten very cold, blatant NO's from girls who would turn around and do the beat around the bush to other guys. Also some girls are teases, who want the attention but have no desire to be in a relationship of date or anything, so they tend to try and loop people around to keep their little harem together.

Also this isn't just a girl thing. I know guys who do this, and I'm sure I've done it at least once in my life.
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NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO !!


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Posted 6/5/15 , edited 6/7/15
Honestly...

Most men are too fragile to hear a blatant no. It sends them into a tailspin. Why? Because there's a lot of men who think it's impossible for any woman ever to not be interested in them, and to find that, surprise, there is (!) they usually will try and recover by insulting her or something equally pathetic.


Posted 6/5/15 , edited 6/7/15
At first I felt terrible saying a straight up "no, but I got over making excuses or dodging the question. Saying "no" usually gets me being called "offensive" names (they may be deemed offensive but I really dc).. Also, saying "no" is usually followed by multiple questions as to why and many other attempts to see if I have changed my mind, and it truly bugs me . Just as some women may not be able to say no because of various reasons, men sometimes have a hard time accepting they just got simply rejected and decide to dig deeper or offend the person. It really just depends on what kind of person you are talking to.
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Yea, people tries to get me to date again after major heartbroken.. I just say naw I'm loner, its me... nothing wrong with the ladies! ;p
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I think men have the same problem.

people are reluctant to hurt others, that's why sometimes they hesitate to say "no" directly. But in some cases, it only makes it worse because it ends up hurting the person more.
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Lol.. I don't think this applies to JUST women.. decent human beings in general try to let the other person down easily in order to spare their hurt feelings.

I have let down lots of people by making up excuses as it makes me feel better knowing I didn't blatantly say no because they were unattractive and or unappealing to me.

Most women however (that I have personally encountered), do flat out say no. 7/10 women on average that I have talked to have blatantly just been like "no".

Hearing "no" isn't as fun as it sounds, I would much rather someone make an excuse; hence why I tend to make them, because I know how much hearing that single two letter word can sting.

Hearing "no" makes you question yourself, "am I ugly? am I too skinny/too fat? am I just a weirdo?", but hearing them give you an excuse and an explanation usually is sort of a conformation that oh its nothing wrong with me, its that you are already in a relationship. It prevents the mind from wandering to far and hurting itself in the process.
Posted 6/5/15 , edited 6/7/15

eeveetree wrote:

Because you're assuming that "all women act like this." Any generalization that lumps an entire gender together is sexism/prejudice. I'm sorry that that's been your experience with women, but please don't assume that therefore that's how ALL women behave.

This isn't sexist. lol
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