Post Reply How to repair deep friendships?
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Posted 6/4/15
Recently my "friends" got into a big argument towards me about a really stupid topic of not talking about something or someone repeatedly and about getting annoyed by me often over the internet, and they all chose to mute me for it, attempt to break contact with me and such. I've known them all for a really long time and we would play games and watch the same sorta animes and stuff, talk openly, etc. This isn't the first time an argument like this has happened and the consequence was the same in the past towards me. Is there a way to try and restore what was between my friends and I or is this just a lost cause and should I move on?
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Duct tape or a fist fight. Get all that aggression out in the open. Then go get food. Tacos. I'm craving tacos myself.
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Posted 6/4/15
Well it depends. If you have other friends you can hang out with, then just leave them. If you don't, you might find that their company is probably better than anything you've got.
Posted 6/4/15
you either change and conform to the group...

or don't change and move on. the choice is yours to make... i cant make that decision for you.
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Posted 6/5/15
Oh, well, that's only happened once to me. I apologized and groveled a bit the first time, but the second time I made it permanent. Having a relationship where you're always walking on thin ice can be a very stressful feeling. I think angry complaints are cute, but that's different from not valuing a relationship.
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Posted 6/5/15
I agree with Phersu. Go fight them and if you guys don't make up after that, then the friendship isn't as deep as you thought it was.
By fight I mean either a fist fight or just being real and tell them what you really feel
Posted 6/5/15
I think I been through something similar before. All I really did was remind them of the past and how good of friends we were. Then bring up that we are nearly destroying our amazing friendship over a small thing. No friendship that strong or willing should ever be broken by anything. There are some things however that make that comment irrelevant. (The comment about never breaking a friendship)
Posted 6/5/15 , edited 6/5/15

AirMarshall wrote:

Recently my "friends" got into a big argument towards me about a really stupid topic of not talking about something or someone repeatedly and about getting annoyed by me often over the internet, and they all chose to mute me for it, attempt to break contact with me and such. I've known them all for a really long time and we would play games and watch the same sorta animes and stuff, talk openly, etc. This isn't the first time an argument like this has happened and the consequence was the same in the past towards me. Is there a way to try and restore what was between my friends and I or is this just a lost cause and should I move on?


If they are truly your friends, they would be more patient with you instead of being such little fucks. I've had issues with small-minded people like that before...

It could just mean your thinking is more mature and developed than theirs... And that they're truly not worth your time at all....

But if you have other friends? Join those other friends...

Or make new friends. Join clubs and etc and just socialise to the people with similar interests instead...

If you did anything wrong, or think you did something wrong with the group that's being mean to you now... Then learn from that mistake.

ALSO, if you still want to be their friends, talk to the person who you were closest to before... Try and make a compromise and spread out from there...

Just saying...

All friendships have little spats now and then... Just means you got close enough to face each other's edges... And when edges meet, fire comes out and it's bad...

As for me? I threw away all those past fake friends and I have absolutely no regrets.

It's really your choice now. It's your life...

I noticed your "friends" that you wrote it as.... ;')

P.S. What type of friends would get angry over you not talking about someone or something repeatedly? .......... *eye rolls* Sorry, I'm judging... And I don't usually judge.
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Posted 6/5/15
Never burn bridges if you can help it. That's one thing that a lot of people should be conscious of. There's no benefit in losing a friend kr acquaintance and/or making an enemy. If you must distance yourself, don't alienate or be hostile.

If you at least talk about it with them in a mature manner in person, then the ball is in their court and the result is in their hands. Sounds pretty petty to me, but it's a good idea to always talk in person when something threatens the relationship.
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Posted 6/5/15
Just start talking again lol.

Most of my friends I got in fights with just forgot about it the next day.
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It doesn't matter.
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Posted 6/5/15
The situation seems to be that either you or your friends aren't trying hard enough and it boils down to how much do you want them to be your friends? enough to speak to them directly?
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Posted 6/5/15
Do you feel you were in the wrong? If you do then the mature thing would be to apologize. If you don't then the right thing to do would be move on to friends who care enough about your relationship not to pull stunts like putting you on ignore because they don't like hearing what you're saying. "Talk to the hand" approaches are both petty and juvenile and they're definitely showing a lack of maturity by not even trying to talk it out. The ball is in your court now.
Posted 7/21/15
time should heal everything,

I had a few people who would butt heads but after a week or 2 people would talk again. the only problem would be if the person continued doing what got them in trouble in the first place
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Posted 7/21/15
If your friends are guys wait couple days then check it out guys move forward most of the time bring food or alcohol to the scene always good for peace offering
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Posted 7/23/15
Are these RL friends or internet friends?

If they're internet friends, just stop worrying about it, and make new internet friends, because these internet friends suck balls and internet friends are a dime a dozen.

If they're RL friends, give them a minute to settle down, then let it come back to normal naturally. Meanwhile, don't talk to them online any more. If they ask, just tell them your internets are broken or something. Meanwhile, slowly phase them out while you find less shitty RL friends. Not even kidding. I had to scroll back up to check your age. You're 20? This is some high school BS. You can do better. I have a friend who kept having this problem for like a year and a half, until I jacked her phone for a week, and she totally settled down and turned into a normal human being, and then I gave her phone back and was like TOLD YOU SO and she was like yeah... you were right, now give my phone back, ho, and I was like, yeah, love you too. <3 Your life will be better with better people in it, dude. DO EET.
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