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Post Reply Why do some parents abuse their children?
Posted 6/6/15 , edited 6/6/15

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I meant specifically that i don't care about them enough to give you a reason as to why they are assholes. asshole is just a word at the end of the day. if your (someone, anyone) dad's action is in someway bothering you (them), then you(they) know what to do. if what you(they) do is not worth shit, you need to either scare them in some way or live with it.

Person should do anything but think about taking their life, if they witness or it concerns them, they should get themselves someone on their side to stand up to the bully.


Please refrain from posting conclusions concerning my private life you cannot be sure are true.


Right, whatever. I'll edit it.
Posted 6/6/15

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Everybody has a different idea of what would count as abuse.


I agree with this. Even now I still don't like to call what went on with me "child abuse". To me it was just how I was being raised. Others say it definitely was.

As for why they do it... I can't really even begin to know and understand all of the possibilities. I think my parents are the way they are due to massive insecurities. My dad was bullied by his brothers all the time and his parents always sided with the brothers. I think that just got carried on despite it being something my dad hated. My mom too was always picked on and so often she will feel like she is being made fun of or something and will get mad very easily. I think they just get influenced by what they were exposed to and, at times, continue the behavior without even realizing it. Sometimes my mom can look back and actually realize that it is what she was doing but my dad just can't come to terms with it or doesn't want to see it that way. Maybe he justifies what he did by thinking that he still had it worse as a kid. I really don't know but this is the only example I can give to even try and explain why they do it.
Posted 6/6/15
Anger problems.
From how they were bought up.
They think it's 'okay' as you are their child.
Their own psychological problems.
I guess there are a range of reasons, but none of them matter.
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Honestly there is no excuse in my opinion. Sure everyone has that thought that crosses there mind from time to time, were all human. I think the people that cross that line MUST have something wrong with them either mentally or messed up in their past. Same thing with spousal and animal abuse. I would much rather have my kids/pets/significant other respect me out of love than fear.
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Posted 6/6/15 , edited 6/6/15

Nalaniel wrote:


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Thy're assholes and their world is very small.


And what do you think made them into assholes?


The fact that you're naturally selfish, self-induligent and self-serving as a teenager, and, um, supposed to have more real-world perspective as an adult.

Those who didn't quite make it to that second stage never quite managed to realize that once you have kids, YOUR entire rights to a private life basically vanish, and you spend 90% of your waking life taking care of your now-permanent responsibilities instead.
If you're still stuck in immature self-satisfaction mode, you can be rather....resentful that children don't have the good sense to raise themselves, as much as having a spouse who won't give you enough free time and keeps demanding things of you. It's even worse if you're the product of one who had that problem earlier, and so on.
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Posted 6/6/15 , edited 6/6/15
The main reason of child abuse is corporal punishment.
Here's proof and never listen against CCTDaily: http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-877315/the-truth-about-corporal-punishment-proof


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there's no "good" excuse for why it happens, but there are reasons it happens. i dont think it's ok to get away with it no matter how messed up the parents/guardians lives are. take children out of a home where they are being abused for pete's sake
Posted 6/6/15
Well that was a clever attempt to mitigate the response to abuse.
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Posted 6/6/15
Bratty kids?
Do not get me wrong beating your kid is wrong but a harmless slap never did hurt anyone.

In your example the child clearly deserved a punishment and with all the entertainment a child has in its room nowadays a harmless slap is probably the easiest way to get some sense in it.
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Posted 6/6/15

Nalaniel wrote:

What do you think are the reasons for a parent/parents to abuse their child (excluding alcohol)?

Why would parents hit their child for silly reasons like in this case: The father wants the kid (let's say it's 7 years old) to turn on the TV, and the kid doesn't do it. Because of that, he slaps the kid (this leaves only a temporary effect, which is pain). The father could have turned the TV on by himself and/or have told the kid that doing something like that is impolite and wrong. Why resort to violence?

Edit: It might have been a better idea to name the thread "Parents" or something like that, hm... Moderators' opinions?


Just "Parents" seems a bit vague.

How about "Why do some parents abuse their children"? Does that convey the essence of what you want to discuss?
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Posted 6/6/15

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Nalaniel wrote:

What do you think are the reasons for a parent/parents to abuse their child (excluding alcohol)?

Why would parents hit their child for silly reasons like in this case: The father wants the kid (let's say it's 7 years old) to turn on the TV, and the kid doesn't do it. Because of that, he slaps the kid (this leaves only a temporary effect, which is pain). The father could have turned the TV on by himself and/or have told the kid that doing something like that is impolite and wrong. Why resort to violence?

Edit: It might have been a better idea to name the thread "Parents" or something like that, hm... Moderators' opinions?


Just "Parents" seems a bit vague.

How about "Why do some parents abuse their children"? Does that convey the essence of what you want to discuss?


Sounds about right.
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Posted 6/6/15

Nalaniel wrote:


lorreen wrote:


Nalaniel wrote:

What do you think are the reasons for a parent/parents to abuse their child (excluding alcohol)?

Why would parents hit their child for silly reasons like in this case: The father wants the kid (let's say it's 7 years old) to turn on the TV, and the kid doesn't do it. Because of that, he slaps the kid (this leaves only a temporary effect, which is pain). The father could have turned the TV on by himself and/or have told the kid that doing something like that is impolite and wrong. Why resort to violence?

Edit: It might have been a better idea to name the thread "Parents" or something like that, hm... Moderators' opinions?


Just "Parents" seems a bit vague.

How about "Why do some parents abuse their children"? Does that convey the essence of what you want to discuss?


Sounds about right.


Changed.

I think there are probably a lot of different reasons. And I also think there are differences in what folks themselves consider abuse.

I think in some cases there are things like impulse, frustration, impatience, temper involved. Kids can be pretty difficult. This does not excuse abuse.

And for some, they honestly believe they are just disciplining the kid, and giving them good values about respecting authority.
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Abusing the child is to make the child submissive and to have them under their control. I am pretty sure that the abusive parent might not have any concern for the child and doesn't care about the child's feelings.
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Humans are fucked up.
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