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Posted 6/17/15

Pimmpachuu wrote:

Anyone feels like they're easily emotionally attach to someone for no particular legit reason? I was introduced to this girl and we haven't even met, we exchanged pictures and and a few meaningful conversations but I prioritize this girl over the girls around me that I actually knew?

We probably won't even be able to meet until February of year and I'm already making a big deal out of her...

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A heart that is quick to open to others will probably be hurt more times in a lifetime, however a heart that is closed will surely miss out on chances at love. Nothing wrong with quickly opening your heart to others, you just have to keep your composure.

You have the spark, and that is a great place to start. For now, as others have said, just enjoy that feeling. There is nothing like that innocent, idealistic flutter in your heart. But make sure that you keep an even keel and give the blossom room to grow.

The time you have until you can meet, and the space between you can work to your advantage. It can allow you to find out more about her, and let her know more about you all without the immediate threat of physical intimacy clouding the view. Some space can also help keep the two of you from smothering the relationship. Let her know who you really are, and do your best to get to know who she really is. While it is always important to have things in common, your differences and how you complement each other will be the true barometer for any future relationship.

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Posted 6/18/15

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Pimmpachuu wrote:

Anyone feels like they're easily emotionally attach to someone for no particular legit reason? I was introduced to this girl and we haven't even met, we exchanged pictures and and a few meaningful conversations but I prioritize this girl over the girls around me that I actually knew?

We probably won't even be able to meet until February of year and I'm already making a big deal out of her...

Opinions please


A heart that is quick to open to others will probably be hurt more times in a lifetime, however a heart that is closed will surely miss out on chances at love. Nothing wrong with quickly opening your heart to others, you just have to keep your composure.

You have the spark, and that is a great place to start. For now, as others have said, just enjoy that feeling. There is nothing like that innocent, idealistic flutter in your heart. But make sure that you keep an even keel and give the blossom room to grow.

The time you have until you can meet, and the space between you can work to your advantage. It can allow you to find out more about her, and let her know more about you all without the immediate threat of physical intimacy clouding the view. Some space can also help keep the two of you from smothering the relationship. Let her know who you really are, and do your best to get to know who she really is. While it is always important to have things in common, your differences and how you complement each other will be the true barometer for any future relationship.



That's deep dude, I really appreciate it...
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Posted 6/18/15 , edited 6/18/15

Mellowmi wrote:



Emotional attachments are two way process.
Doesn't work if one person feels it and the other person doesn't.
It could be unintentional, but that's rare.
Usually you just lead yourself into it.
If you're gullible to your own feelings then it could be a rough ride.
I wouldn't blame a person for leading themselves into it; because it feels like a bliss sometimes.


Nice way to word it I can totally relate esp to the "gullible to your own feelings" part as I often find myself that way and yes it can be quite a rough ride.... I can become easily attached to someone emotionally depending on their personality honestly
Posted 6/18/15

Hm. Well, it's easy to charm someone with sweet talk.
Anyone can say this and that to make you feel certain ways.
So instead, look for their 'actions'.
There's nothing to get close to if all they've been doing is talk.
They haven't done anything.
Nothing to prove themselves.
You should take a step back and see it this way sometimes.
That way you create some sort of distance and not feel as though you're gullible.
It's hard, for sure. I don't blame you.

But anyway, those are just my thoughts.
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Posted 6/18/15

Mellowmi wrote:


Hm. Well, it's easy to charm someone with sweet talk.
Anyone can say this and that to make you feel certain ways.
So instead, look for their 'actions'.
There's nothing to get close to if all they've been doing is talk.
They haven't done anything.
Nothing to prove themselves.
You should take a step back and see it this way sometimes.
That way you create some sort of distance and not feel as though you're gullible.
It's hard, for sure. I don't blame you.

But anyway, those are just my thoughts.


Yea but your thoughts totally make sense I appreciate the advice very much actually and you're absolutely right about the "just talking" part I've always heard "actions speak louder than words" so that completely makes sense. I will definitely take your advice as I hope the OP does as well. Thanks a bunch.
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I got too emotionally attached to Pretty Rhythm Rainbow Live. My favorite character is Naru. I thought she would end up with Kouji, but he ended up with Ito (never liked her >:[ ). So at the very least, I thought she would win the final contest and do 7-8 jumps. But Beru won...and to top it all off, Rinne had to go back to where she originally came from (I know it was bound to happen, but still...) I feel so cheated
I can never watch Pretty Rhythm Rainbow Live again...I keep growling at Ito and Kouji whenever I see their faces...and I dislike them more than the bad guys on the show
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That's normal
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We are in the same boat bro.

There's a girl at my job I can't take out of my mind. I try not to think about her, but it's impossible. It's really getting out of control.
We have exchanged a few words and smiles while working but that's it.
She has the most beautiful smile I've seen in a girl my whole life. Damn, I'm lost.
I really want to compliment her, but my memories of getting rejected when I was in highschool and also my shyness get in the way.


I know an anime forum is not the place to write this things, but whatever. I'll go watch anime as an escape to these feelings.
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Posted 1/1/16

Pimmpachuu wrote:

Anyone feels like they're easily emotionally attach to someone for no particular legit reason? I was introduced to this girl and we haven't even met, we exchanged pictures and and a few meaningful conversations but I prioritize this girl over the girls around me that I actually knew?

We probably won't even be able to meet until February of next year and I'm already making a big deal out of her...

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Hmmmm. Be careful. No sense in putting that much of your heart out there for such a small amount. There's nothing wrong with taking things slow.
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Not much help on my end since it's difficult for me to get emotionally attached to anything so easily. It's something I would like to experience but eventually end up denying myself of it.

I say why miss out? Good to be cautious though.
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Used to be too emotionally invested in people.

I say used to because then you grow into a cynical bastard and realize the term friend simply means that your temporary entertainment. Like a rational human being--you learn to stop investing.

Then a bitch comes along and ruins it by spending over three years getting through your walls like a fuckin' assassin. Suddenly---you're emotionally invested.

Better than one than many though.

My advice? You're about to get ripped off if you're going to emotionally invest too easily. Get ready to be broke as fuck until yah learn better.



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Posted 1/1/16 , edited 1/1/16

PrinceJudar wrote:

Used to be too emotionally invested in people.

I say used to because then you grow into a cynical bastard and realize the term friend simply means that your temporary entertainment. Like a rational human being--you learn to stop investing.

Then a bitch comes along and ruins it by spending over three years getting through your walls like a fuckin' assassin. Suddenly---you're emotionally invested.

Better than one than many though.

My advice? You're about to get ripped off if you're going to emotionally invest too easily. Get ready to be broke as fuck until yah learn better.





It's something I think most people have to learn the hard way. I know I did it far too often when I was younger. Now I see my brother in law doing it with girl after girl (and at least the girls I did it with were smokin'. It took me a while to start going for personality. These women he's going after are terrible all around.). Everyone gives him a hard time, and I just shrug. He'll learn.

Dude's 21 and already been married and divorced. His wife was caught cheating on him with three men (caught her with texts), less than 2 months after the wedding.

He'll learn. Just hasn't yet.


Nothing wrong with relationships, but nothing wrong with taking it REALLY slow, either. I still have issues letting some walls down for my wife, now. hehe.
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I used to get super overly attached to a lot of things when I was younger, it almost bordered along the lines of obsessed. but I somehow managed to grow out of it and become a little more apathetic. That's not to say I don't get attached to things anymore, and just don't dive headfirst into a lot of things like I used to.
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i dont usually get attached easily, but when i do become attached to someone, i regret it everytime
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Pardon me, but she's a fuckin' slut.

Some people take a long time...or never learn, unfortunately.

I'm a real turtle when it comes to relationships. Takin' it real slow like.

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