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Posted 6/18/15

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streamhopper wrote:

I agree, a hobby would certainly help pass the time. But ultimately, we're social critters. As much as I wanted to think I could stay away, I ended up on the CR forums. Socializing has a way of creeping into one's life. But I don't regret it.


True. I guess the same could be said of me as well.

Though, I don't give much stock to online interactions. I wonder if they alleviate loneliness as social interaction, or if they do so as just another way to kill time? I mean, they just seem so airy - like striking up a conversation with someone on a bus.

Bah, I've never been good at analyzing things psychologically.... lol


Forum posts and alot of online interactions trick you into thinking you are getting an opportunity to socially speak, be heard and share ideas but the reality is often that no one is actually listening or really cares what you are saying. It is like a social placebo. It relieves the symptoms temporarily without actually solving the greater problem, Like when you see your doctor and instead of him making you change your diet for acid reflux, He gives you some pills to take for the rest of your life. If you don't take the pill BAM your back where you started and no progress has been made.

But there are instances where while most internet conversations don't go much further than a bus chat would, someone you see online alot and always talk with can become like a real friend. Like a clan member on an online game, Until one of you quits the game then it's like bye-bye-----------------------------------------------
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It's called Not giving a single Fuck. If you miss your friends, just go hit them up and chill. Or you can just visit them at work or something. You only become lonely if you don't do anything. You can make new friends that have the same interest and Bam! there ya go
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You can`t feel lonely if there`s nobody around. A quote from a good anime and my personal opinion
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It won't cure loneliness but you can combat idleness by staying busy, when/if not by working then by something you enjoy doing.
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Once you have a glimpse of being with someone be it a friend or a relationship you'll desire those relations to stay the same. If you lose those relations then you'll feel you lost some of yourself. Where did all that time and effort go that you put into the relations and how can you get them back? That is what causes depression or loneliness in some because they are trying to get back what they lost, but cannot and miss the days when they had what they desired and beat themselves up for losing that for taking it for granted.
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Here is some general advice. First you need to be content with yourself, if you aren't happy with who you are then it's easy to become depressed, and feel lonely. Secondly, get some fresh air once in awhile to avoid cabin fever, and get a little exercise. If you are getting bored of doing stuff you normally do then try finding a new hobby, or learning something new. Try to avoid junk food since it can make you feel really shitty; nothing wrong with junk food once in awhile, but when you do it should feel like a treat, and not part of your daily routine. If all else fails then you could always try making some friends.
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Naruto did it.
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Yes? Well.... in my case, I won't say "cure" ... I'm just, I feel like I'm never lonely
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Loneliness is an illusion perpetuated by the ego and vanity that ropes you into using others as a means to justify your actions.

That said i have never felt lonely in my entire life, i'm happy to walk my life alone, live alone and die alone, i have no fear of it.
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I believe you have to find peace with yourself first. Then you can work on breaking the negative thinking cycle that put you in this state of mind. Social interaction can be cool, although real life interaction feels more rewarding. Depending on your age I mean just get out of the house, you can get a job possibly (where you more than likely talk to people you don't want to still it's interacting). Get a pet if you can, they will definitely help with the boredom/silence aspect of things. I understand how it feels, but ultimately don't be afraid to be yourself.
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Captainkirko wrote:

Once you can enjoy your own company, you will never be alone again.


Exactly! But that's a totally different conundrum altogether

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PurpleDjango wrote:

The only true cure for loneliness in my eyes is love..


spoken like a true youngin'
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Love and friendship are good remedies for loneliness. This world sucks without either of them, believe me. Success is also a good supplement, financially, spiritually, any kind of success is good motivation for us to pick ourselves up out of loneliness.
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Humans are social creatures by nature, but in extreme cases of isolation, will always find a work around.
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All my friends have moved on doing their own things. I used to be really sociable. I don't really have that many friends anymore, I don't like hanging out with family and even feel indifferent about being an uncle for the first time (sister pregnant), which I find a shame... I should feel proud but I don't. These days I like being alone.

I'm very introverted. But why don't I like being with my family? I never want to talk to them. My proffesion is a nurse and being introverted I find it very exhausting making phone calls, speaking with relatives and being in close contact with people all day every day. It's like I've used up all my 'social energy' so that when I get home or have a couple days off all I want to do is be by myself and relax, and tend to decline offers to spend time with friends or family...

I might regret this later down the road. But I enjoy the time I'm by myself so I dunno what to do...

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