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Posted 2/19/08

krnsoldierofGod wrote:

you are actually legally your parent's property until your 18


Unless you get legal emancipation. Hence the topic.



I wouldn't unless they are abusive or neglectful (which is still abusive, and I don't mean the "Oh, they never listen to me and constantly forget to pick me up so I don't have to take the bus"-neglectful; I'm talking about the "Mom forgot to buy dinner and pay the electric bill and let my baby brother cross the highway on his own because she's to busy being a crack whore"-neglectful").

If you really can't stand it, but your not in the above situation, you better have a stable source of income. This doesn't mean your $7.70 and hour job at the Stop and Shop. This means, "I can afford an apartment, utilities, food, health and transportation and still go to school to improve myself." This doesn't often happen. The government declares you a (mostly) legal adult, so they aren't going to send you support other than welfare if you sign up for it, and I guarantee it's still not enough. Most of the cases I've seen end up with kids dropping out of school and growing too old two fast. I actually know two who were pacifists, and they had to join the military regardless because that was the only way they could get an education at that point. Both had dropped out shortly after joining high school because they needed to work and couldn't manage time for school.
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even if i wanted to get emancipated, my mum knows i can't survive without her... so yeah... dead end for me lol
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Posted 2/20/08
i thought about it a few times but never went through with it. but iv had friends who truly should have but never worked up the nerve
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23 / M / Singapore
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Posted 2/20/08
love my parents><...But one day we have to split. it is inveitable.
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Your Parents are only Human and they have thier bad sides,selfishness,evilness everyone is not perfect but every Parents is trying to love every Child but other just make thier child as thier Maids,Pets,Prissoners some parents forgot the tought that thier Child is a Human not as thier Personal Maids,Pets,Prissoners and some think that thier Child is just a garbage that they can throw were they wanted to but Everyone deserves Second Chances because thiers God didnt make a perfect Human everyone is inperfect.I know that I musnt tell this to you because I dont know your Parents and I dont anything about you but thiers only two Persons you can ask for free help your Parents and of course family because thier no True Friend who will help his/her Friend when his/her Friend is down but I know some are True Friends but its hard to find one.
Give your Parents Second Chances
Give them your Forgiveness
Love them because Life is too Short
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I don't know about you but I love my parents. Yes, sometimes we argue but in the end we find neutral ground and often learn something from one another. Often my parents are the ones that are right but sometimes I turn out correct too.

I think if you should talk to them first and make them understand before you think about emancipation. It's pretty hard to survive in this world without your parents. They do provide you with the things you need everyday, especially money. If you really hate them that much, at least wait until you graduate from college and have a job!
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Posted 4/5/08
i think its okay to do if you have good reasons yes
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31 / M / Louisville KY
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Its normal for teen to dislike their parents, I think its something we're "program" to do ?
Just remember that you have their blood in you, and they were once young like you.
There's no shame, I live with my parents still, and over the years we fought a lot and they go to work a lot to support us. But, I'm saying at least look at it from their view and try to support them. Maybe they'll feel you have more responsibility, and can trust you more when you tell them something.
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Posted 4/5/08

yetidaddy wrote:

Its normal for teen to dislike their parents, I think its something we're "program" to do ?
Just remember that you have their blood in you, and they were once young like you.
There's no shame, I live with my parents still, and over the years we fought a lot and they go to work a lot to support us. But, I'm saying at least look at it from their view and try to support them. Maybe they'll feel you have more responsibility, and can trust you more when you tell them something.


i dont bout that cause not all parents are nice i agree if there nice then yes but some parents are bad and do bad things to there children and many children dont like tell on their parents so emacipation rule is another way out
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my friend had his girlfriend emancipated because of abuse. actually she isn't emancipated yet, she's just staying with him until they can get the right papers i guess. but as soon as she left to stay with him, her parents moved away.


she's truly better off
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I looked at it all financially when I was younger. Did I have money? No. I would have moved if I had, but for practical reasons. It's nice to live in your own apartment. No regulations. My main problem was that my mother really explained things. It was just "yes" and "no". When I asked for something she could have at least said "we have no money. We are low income", which was true, I realize that now (especially since I am now myself. Well, my entire family is).

But I have to say this: the teens is considered a "rebellious stage", this is a very one-sided opinion. From the grownups teenagers receive patronizing ageism. This happened to me many times during my teens. For instance, it did not matter how logically and fully I explained my politics, I was just "an unexperienced teenager going through a phase". The teenagers in school don't have much right to anything. Things are decided "for" them, even if they are really against it for logical reason ("the department of education never mentions children" sir Humphrey in Yes prime minister). The nub of the problem is that while teenagers have to mental capacity and experience to grasp what the world is about and what they want, they have no particular rights and independence in the sense that they can actually pursue their desires like grownups. They can not for instance issue a strike at schools. I remember we would get "absence" to participate in a demonstration that was a pursuit of a right to free text books during school. No right to vote, no real right to be heard. The only leeway given is when it comes to crime (!) which shows more than anything else how adults look at teenagers. That teenagers rebel is a sign of their mental capacity and logical thought, if I had to go through the patronizing I had to go through then again, I would rebel much more than I did. It is not so much a "rebellious stage" as patronizing from ageism I would say. And it is also patronizing that it is labelled "a rebellious stage" to fight for your independence and rights. If an adult does it, we might considered it "a just cause".
Posted 5/6/08

CarrotGlace wrote:

If your parents were assholes like mine would you want to become emancitpated?

Reason for me:
1. They don't ever listen to me or my sister
2. They always think they are right even though they are not

I have more reasons but i feel like saying them


On a general basis I greatly support the right of any individual to emancipate. Some people are under violent environments, some are even threatened with death on a daily basis, sometimes the parents are heavy drug addicts, etc. There are plenty of reasons why a person who is perfectly capable of surviving on their own should make an effort to do so IF they are in a negative atmosphere such as the ones I just listed.

On your note however, your reasons do not validate your need for emancipation. Now I dont know the other reasons because you chose not to post them, but based on what you did write, it just sounds like you need to tough it out until you head off for college. If this were a case were you were being beaten horribly, or raped, or mentally abused to the point where you actually harmed yourself, then I'd say "get emancipated immediately" but from the sounds of it you seem to simply be pissed because they won't let you have your way.

If the issue is simply that they are a bit too strict, weigh the pro's and cons. you're on the internet. that must mean they at least feed you, clothe you, provide you with shelter, I would hope you have a bed to sleep on, a warm shower at night. I mean you having access to the internet in order to post this basically implies that you have a slightly ok life. Albeit there are plenty of kids out there with the net who get beaten and raped, but you didn't provide those details (nor should you feel obligated to, and if you ARE being abused you should immediately go to http://www.bgca.org/ where they can offer you even better information on how to reach a safe environment).

If you ARE someone who is simply pissed off because their parents are actually parenting, please keep in mind the many kids out there suffering much worse, and consider your lucky stars.
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Posted 5/6/08 , edited 5/6/08
LOL parents being assholes is nothing new. if everyone were to be emancipated just because their parents didnt listen to them, we'd have a bunch of minors running around thinking they're real adults. Your parents not listening and always acting right is not a problem that can be solved by legal means. Even if you were to be emancipated it doesnt mean that you're to never talk to them again so the same shit would just happen anyways.

Emancipation should be reserved to either people who are abused and want to legally live on their own and such, or like those celebrity kids who are completely taken advantage of by their parents.

so yea these problems can easily solved:
1. if they never listen, dont try to talk to them about problems unless its some real major shit like your pregnant or something haha. im guessing you have friends and other adults you know that can help although we all know it would be nice if your parents just listened instead.

2. if they always think theyre right, then dont argue back and just listen to them chew you out. they eventually get tired of it and stop anyways. thats what i do and my mom and i get along just fine afterwards haha.

Edit: Oh and if you're asian and your parents are completely asian, then youre shit out of luck cuz it is not a stereotype that asian parents are strict, its just true haha. i used to get smacked around for getting an A- instead of an A+ which is completely dumb but hey, there's people living worse lives and have harder problems so you just gotta deal with it.
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I love my parents though they can be real shit heads once in a while.
You'll find out how good families are when the time comes.
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