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Posted 6/28/15
I think that peoples being so quick to generalize and write off bisexuality probably derives from only being able to understand things in comparison to ones self. So if a straight person were trying to put themselves in the shoes of a gay person it would be something like "well they like the same gender the way that i like the opposite," simple. Therefore when trying to understand how someone may like both, they assume everyone is like themselves and ignorantly follow this idea.

Also, since it is common for heterosexuals to be bi-curious or ACTUALLY in a "phase" (of testing the waters), just as it is common for homosexuals to come out as bisexual at first due to uncertainty or feeling it may be easier to start out, this may explain why people want to claim its not real, however i don't think its fair reject anyone's sexual identity, so it's always better to just believe the person.

I am bisexual, and i struggled with this a lot recently and at this point in time still prefer not to tell people that i'm not close with since i don't want to be ridiculed by people who don't believe me. If someone declares their sexuality to you, they shouldn't have to justify it or prove it, because it honestly is awful to have people just blatantly declaring back that what you've struggle so hard to be honest with yourself about isn't true, or they don't believe you.

In terms of preference i don't think I necessarily like one gender more than the other, but i will tend to like guys more often. I think a big part of this however, might just be that I've grown up knowing how to get with guys so at this point in time I just don't really know how to approach girls I like, and therefore go for guys instead since that is easier for me.

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23 / M / Abyss
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Titles make people feel unique, or in some cases feel more attractive I have found. It is truly stupid. I have some real labels on me... I hate them with a passion. I would just like to be a plain jane kind of person. The titles make it quite hard to do that. Of course for some reason people like those titles and want a title of their own?
Posted 6/28/15
Such a trivial thing. I honestly cannot process why people would be so obsessed with this stuff or even think it's of any importance.

I don't understand what anyone would have to do with another person's sexuality. I never understood why it's an obsession for people to label themselves so clearly as if it matters.
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There are definitely made up labels for people who have spent a lot of time on the internet or in other closed communities thinking stuff up.
There's a thing called a kinsey scale - everyone can get a bit hard/wet over either gender, the only difference is the extent.
I'm straight, have a girlfriend, but rarely there'll be two dudes getting at it in my porn and I don't always care.
This does not make me "A-quasi hetero demisexual", but if I was super duper bored I might come up with a label that supposedly fits me perfectly.

Thing is I don't need a funny name to make my identity valid.

Other people deciding they DO need a label to feel validated does not obligate you to accept it.

All possible permutations of sexuality come under the main LGBT umbrella of: Hetero, Homo, A and Bi.
If you're Bi, you get hard at naked men and women, its not complicated.
If you're "Pansexual", you're someone who gets hard over pictures of naked men and women. (and therefore Bi)
If you're Demisexual, you get hard over pictures of men and women, but want to know them before you fuck them (and are therefore Bi)

Theres a lot of room under the main 4 to include all these other permutations.

As for the "Bisexuality is just a phase" argument, this may actually be correct for many people, as both bisexuals I knew as teenagers are now gay. the title might serve some role as a placeholder for some.

It doesnt invalidate their prior feelings though, they were still aroused by both genders at the time, and could have easily stayed Bi, or swung straight or gay after that and it wouldnt have mattered - all their relationships were still valid.

Of course, when I was a teenager, we only had 2 genders, with 2 genders giving 4 sexuality permutations.
Now that there are a lot more genders apparently, 2^2 might become 4^2, or 2^4

I've never encountered any of these new sexuality permutations in the wild being claimed by anyone over 30. Might be a generation gap, but might be because kids today are battshit crazy. (I also had bleached blonde hair and an undercut in the early 2000's, so I was just as bad)
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What I don't understand is why people going around talking about what gets them off all the time. Everybody just trying to be a special snowflakes.
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KarenAraragi wrote:

I am bisexual but I do have preferences. I like girls more than guys. But I still like guys. Heaven forbid I have a favorite.


This. God fucking bless, Karen. I've always known that you were a good person.
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VZ68 wrote:

What I don't understand is why people going around talking about what gets them off all the time. Everybody just trying to be a special snowflakes.


Nobody wants to be told they're "wrong", they want to be told they're a "special snowflake" for not doing things the way it would normally make sense to.

("Now, dear, I know that some harsh close-minded people say that 2 + 2 'doesn't equal' seven, but it's just a new creative way of looking at the world! If you want the alphabet to start with J and end with Y, maybe it's about time we all did something different!")
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Ejanss wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

What I don't understand is why people going around talking about what gets them off all the time. Everybody just trying to be a special snowflakes.


Nobody wants to be told they're "wrong", they want to be told they're a "special snowflake" for not doing things the way it would normally make sense to.

("Now, dear, I know that some harsh close-minded people say that 2 + 2 'doesn't equal' seven, but it's just a new creative way of looking at the world! If you want the alphabet to start with J and end with Y, maybe it's about time we all did something different!")


I just tell everybody that asks I'm a deviant or pervert.

Then again, nobody asks. And I don't go around telling.
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26 / M / Socal
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If I'm not dating ya I don't really care what your sexuality is.

Plus I think all those are labels people seek because they want to belong to something, but sexuality (just like most human things) is subjective.
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22 / M / The Cosmos
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Fake sexualities, fake genders, fake all kinds of stuff. The way I see it is you're either straight, gay, or both (unless you're not into sex at all...then you're just abstinent). All these other sexualities is just one of those three with some specific personal preference thrown in.

I understand that you like what you like, but you don't have to make up some fake category based specifically on that preference.
If a dude says "I like guys that are this, this, and that, so I'm ____sexual." I'm gonna say no dude, you're just gay guy that has a type.

People try to make things more complicated than it seems.
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anzn wrote:

I had a conversation with my mom the other day about the LGBT community.
She said at one point though that she thinks Bisexual & Pansexual people are just being experimental. She thinks people can be either homosexual or heterosexual.
She also said asexuals just haven't found the right person yet or something.
Basically, she doesn't believe people who identify with those sexualities, aren't actually real/legitimate, just fake, really.
I hear other people say that too. And nasty stuff in general about every sexuality that's not either hetero or homosexual.
I'm personally kinda...I guess feel offended(?) by it since I'm bisexual (my mom didn't knew btw).
From my experience, I got a lot of crap from people about it. Its either "You're just not sure who you like yet" or "You're selfish for wanting to be with both the opposite and same sex".
This seems to come from both straight & gay people. It seems like they can't trust us. Saying we're more likely to cheat or something.
I do believe, all sexualities real. And its not meant to be like a "phase" or time when people are just being experimental.
What are you guys feelings about sexualities other than gay or straight?

EDIT :
I wanted to include a bigger list a small description for some uncommon ones that I already know. I thought it might help.
Asexual 'Ace' - Not attracted to anyone sexually.
Aromantic 'Aro' - not attracted to anyone romantically.
Demisexual 'Demi' - Only feels sexual attraction to someone once they're emotionally attracted to then first.
Biromantic - Romantically attracted to one or both genders.
Heteroromantic - Romantically attracted to the opposite gender.
Homoromantic - Romantically attracted to the same gender.


There is actually some really good research that has been done on this and there are now a couple of different scales on which you would fall depending on how you answer the questions asked and you do have to answer them honestly. The more famous of the two is the Kinsey scale which goes from 0 to 6. With 0 being exclusively heterosexual and 6 begin exclusively homosexual everyone falls somewhere on the scale just a matter of how honest you are with the questions the second scale is more granular and gives an even more detailed assessment of what your sexuality is but in both cases it is very well done science and provides solid evidence into human sexuality.
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Posted 6/28/15 , edited 6/29/15

gvblackmoon wrote:

There is actually some really good research that has been done on this and there are now a couple of different scales on which you would fall depending on how you answer the questions asked and you do have to answer them honestly. The more famous of the two is the Kinsey scale which goes from 0 to 6. With 0 being exclusively heterosexual and 6 begin exclusively homosexual everyone falls somewhere on the scale just a matter of how honest you are with the questions the second scale is more granular and gives an even more detailed assessment of what your sexuality is but in both cases it is very well done science and provides solid evidence into human sexuality.


brah that's actually really cool.

Didn't know about the Kinsey scale.

Took test online kept getting exclusively hetrosexual lol figured
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You can't say that kind of stuff about something you don't understand and will never experience. And it's funny, because I think I'm a combo of hetero and demisexual. I'm accepting of any human relationship as long as it's not incest.
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13 / F / California
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MoxiRoxi wrote:

You can't say that kind of stuff about something you don't understand and will never experience. And it's funny, because I think I'm a combo of hetero and demisexual. I'm accepting of any human relationship as long as it's not incest.


That's pretty normal though.

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