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What's With Boys Obsession With "Pure" Girls?
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Posted 6/30/15
Unless coupled with arrogance, I find innocence of anyone to be entertaining and kind of a cute trait. I had my own innocence very thoroughly destroyed in the span of time between my 7th and 9th birthdays, so it's something I haven't had in a long time, and it reminds me how lucky some people are to maintain it.
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There are likely many reasons for these beliefs. Here are some came to me right away when I read the topic.

1) Human nature causes men to generally want to be the protector, to feel in charge, and to take on that masculine role. All of these things support the idea of a 'pure' girl. Purity often means naivety as many of you have already mentioned. It also tends to mean the need to be protected and the need to be taken care of. It helps with the concept of a man's quests for dominance. If the girl is 'pure,' then the man can take pride in the fact that he was the one who was chosen to be the alpha dog out of all the other men out there.

2) You can't deny the role that historical references have played in this discussion. The Bible, the Quran, almost every culture in the world puts purity pretty high on their list of traits that women stereotypically should have. The concept of the Virgin Mary. Women wearing all white at a wedding. Women covering their faces with veils. Women in some countries wanting whiter/paler skin due to dark skin being considered 'tainted.' The list goes on and on. It's depicted in books, in television, online. It's really hard to avoid. Like it or not, we are influenced by these sources of media for better or for worse.

These two things are what struck me right away. There are definitely more, but that will make this comment too long lol.
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Because anime girls are the only girls these "guys" are capable of getting.

On the other hand, they're obsessed with those Japanese girls who "bring the pure anime-girl to life". Unfortunately for them, these uh, "pure girls" are:

- acting the part with high pitched voice and a lot of physical care

- with a lot of makeup, circle lenses, plastic surgery as well sometimes

- acting like super innocent babyish "women" while in reality they're totally normal like everyone else

- copying "innocent", childish mannerisms including speech patterns, voice, and expression

That pure-girl is almost always going to be a carefully constructed act.

It is very rare this type of girl ACTUALLY exists. What they're going to get is a creepy, disturbing and poor copy of a 2D character. Better to let those weird fantasies live in the moe and loli animes guys!


It sounds like you have a strong dislike for people who have different tastes than you.
Posted 6/30/15
Guys who've liked me are the ones who immediately thought of me as one of the "pure" girls they fantasize, then completely lose interest in me lmao
But most have liked me for not being one of those pure girls.
So idk.
Is it really that much of a turn off if the shy girl actually ends up being a freak?????
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wavves wrote:



Agreed. I feel offended because some people are viewing those traits negatively.


People are dissing our existence.


i know right? I think this person just defined most of the women on this site! Lol
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Posted 6/30/15
Different strokes for different folks. What turns on one guy turns off another.
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As long as your not fat its okay.
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from my experience and from what i hear and see, guys like the idea of a """""weak""""" sweet and soft girl that doesn't know much about life. i mean no real life girls are exactly 100% like that but can have some of those traits, and they're commonly taken advantage of.

there seems to be a fetish for taking a """pure"""" girl and tearing her innocent nature away through sex/abuse/etc. it's commonly depicted in porn. some tags on porn sites relating to innocent are; young, virgin, teen, etc. look it up if you don't believe me. it's pretty gross. Virginity is fetishized because a guy can meet a girl and be the first one to ""take"" her or destroy her innocence and make her "his". It's depicted in fictional porn all the time.

I'm not saying this is a thing that happens commonly with normal people, but it's depicted all over the internet and it makes you wonder who's watching/reading this stuff and what they believe from it.

what i hear in all these comments is "i'd rather not have the opposite because i wouldn't trust her and would have less control over her"

people can do whatever they want. if you're afraid that a girl will leave you or treat you as lesser if she's not a virgin, is in touch with her sexuality, knows about the world, is a damn INDIVIDUAL, you're a pretty sad person. going for a girl who is naive to intimacy and innocent to the bad in the world in hopes that she will "rely" on you and trust you automatically is kind of gross. have fun with that
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A stupid, outdated, social construct of virginity. I dont care about whether the girl I date has sleep with 0 or 1000 men. Its stupid to care about that shit.
Posted 6/30/15 , edited 6/30/15

wavves wrote:



Agreed. I feel offended because some people are viewing those traits negatively.


People are dissing our existence.


They just need to grow up, don't mind them.


:P.
Posted 6/30/15 , edited 6/30/15

Kira0309 wrote:


wavves wrote:



Agreed. I feel offended because some people are viewing those traits negatively.


People are dissing our existence.


i know right? I think this person just defined most of the women on this site! Lol

Unbelievable.........impossible.......i'm always right......how can this be.............
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Posted 6/30/15
So much bullshit in this thread lol. Not wanting to be with an obnoxious slut who's slept around or had multiple partners doesn't translate to wanting a pure girl.
Posted 6/30/15

DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

So much bullshit in this thread lol. Not wanting to be with an obnoxious slut who's slept around or had multiple partners doesn't translate to wanting a pure girl.

And not wanting a pure girl doesn't translate to wanting to be with an obnoxious slut who's slept around or had multiple partners (even then, who cares how many partners she had. As long as she doesn't cheat).
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Posted 6/30/15

DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

So much bullshit in this thread lol. Not wanting to be with an obnoxious slut who's slept around or had multiple partners doesn't translate to wanting a pure girl.


Exactly! I know some girls who are fun to be around, make dirty jokes, but aren't an obnoxious slut. But I also know girls who might seem innocent but once you know them they are actually one of the dirtiest horniest people you'll meet.
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Posted 6/30/15 , edited 6/30/15

anzn wrote:


Kira0309 wrote:


wavves wrote:



Agreed. I feel offended because some people are viewing those traits negatively.


People are dissing our existence.


i know right? I think this person just defined most of the women on this site! Lol

Unbelievable.........impossible.......i'm always right......how can this be.............


Oh come on, you must realize most of the girls on this site are introverts that are nerdy and never left their houses. Of course we are going to be pure cause we are sheltered and live on the Internet and use all are money for anime instead of body piercings and drugs....although I won't deny I live a very sad and lonely life, but WE DO EXIST!
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