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Posted 7/2/15 , edited 7/8/15

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Yamstarch wrote:

Yep. Still scarred from it... moving on

Those scars are one of the many* reasons I often doubt that I'll ever have a normal human romantic relationship.

*other factors include difficult break-ups, social awkwardness, feeling I have passed optimal dating age, and various observations/experiences regarding females/myself/the nature of relationships, all of which add up to a very jaded individual.


I feel you on that one brother, but ya can't keep feeling that way. I'll be 36 in a few months, but i still feel like i am in my 20s. Hell I still act like i am in my 20s.

I am an old school romantic even through all my failed attempts at love and relationships. Just gotta keep plugging away at it man. You can't lose faith in all women and relationships. If you get hurt, use that education to help further your next attempt. I just keep the faith that when I meet someone amazing, those past scars will fade away.

I mean this with all sincerity. I have walked in your shoes. I still plan on trying to be happy... One of these days.
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cleruninja wrote:


Yamstarch wrote:

Yep. Still scarred from it... moving on

Those scars are one of the many* reasons I often doubt that I'll ever have a normal human romantic relationship.

*other factors include difficult break-ups, social awkwardness, feeling I have passed optimal dating age, and various observations/experiences regarding females/myself/the nature of relationships, all of which add up to a very jaded individual.


Yeah, then again, there is always the chance you'll get drunk and married by Elvis to a stranger!

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I have. It sucked. I have troubles trusting people now. How unfortunate, right?
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Yamstarch wrote:


Jwade316 wrote:


Yamstarch wrote:

Yep. Still scarred from it... moving on


Same here. Happened back in May and I'm still trying to get over it.

Also, what's with all the relationship type forum topics?


I'm gonna guess since Anime communities are kind of lumped in with nerd culture and many people in nerd culture are relationship challenged. That might have something to do with it.

Of course that might simply be my own bias.


You're probably right. It's either relationships, world views or random stuff like "do you sleep with a nightlight."
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Every relationship I had until the one I am in currently. 4 times that I can recall. Going on four years with my wife, and I'm pretty confident she won't cheat.

Either way, when I started dating my wife, I decided to put that baggage behind me, because I realized that every relationship I had been in had been sabotaged by paranoia caused from the first. Even if they hadn't cheated on me, my own paranoia would have destroyed the relationship.

Also, before getting with my wife, I realized that a lot of my problem was with who I was picking (or rather allowing to pick me). Not saying all women that are outgoing and approach the men are hoes. But, I will say, when they are outgoing and initiate things with you, they are likely to be a free-spirit and the paranoia I had stifled that... that's just asking for them to cheat. Not to mention, they WERE hoes. I had always been too shy to flirt with women or initiate convo. When I realized my weakness, I decided to put a conscious effort into A.) choosing more carefully and B.) actually approaching the women I was interested in.

Oh, and I was terrible in bed, due to reasons that were honestly beyond my control. Hard to get good at something you are very inexperienced at. My wife has given me ample opportunity to rectify that, which I have put to good use. ;)

Anyway, that concludes this session of the "Overshares of Holy Drumstick."

Cheers
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Posted 7/2/15 , edited 7/2/15

VZ68 wrote:


cleruninja wrote:


Yamstarch wrote:

Yep. Still scarred from it... moving on

Those scars are one of the many* reasons I often doubt that I'll ever have a normal human romantic relationship.

*other factors include difficult break-ups, social awkwardness, feeling I have passed optimal dating age, and various observations/experiences regarding females/myself/the nature of relationships, all of which add up to a very jaded individual.


Yeah, then again, there is always the chance you'll get drunk and married by Elvis to a stranger!



Sounds like a fun time to me. But then again I love Vegas and Elvis both.











Don't judge me.

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Yamstarch wrote:


VZ68 wrote:


cleruninja wrote:


Yamstarch wrote:

Yep. Still scarred from it... moving on

Those scars are one of the many* reasons I often doubt that I'll ever have a normal human romantic relationship.

*other factors include difficult break-ups, social awkwardness, feeling I have passed optimal dating age, and various observations/experiences regarding females/myself/the nature of relationships, all of which add up to a very jaded individual.


Yeah, then again, there is always the chance you'll get drunk and married by Elvis to a stranger!



Sounds like a fun time to me. But then again I love Vegas and Elvis both.











Don't judge me.



I ain't gonna judge, because that's how I plan on getting married, if I ever do.

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I've been in several open relationships so technically it's true.
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I've been in several open relationships so technically it's true.


Have you ever taken your partner to Thads club in SanDiego?
Posted 7/2/15 , edited 7/8/15
I have. I felt like shit for the longest time. It's pretty much saying, 'oh I used to like you and I kinda still do but.... I'm going to be with this guy at the same time without your knowing'
I felt so bad even though I didn't do the cheating.
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pirththee wrote:

I've been in several open relationships so technically it's true.


Have you ever taken your partner to Thads club in SanDiego?


Nope.I haven't been to San Diego in many years.
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If you have a open relationship nice and interesting place to go its on Yelp kinda funny
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I once trusted someone in a mutual relationship to help beat the enemy. I was very disappointed. They went to the enemy in the end and I lost. I'm talking about Monopoly. But no, because I've never been in a relationship.
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Lately I've just been trying to convince myself there are other things that are fulfilling besides love.. Other relationships can be meaningful, too.
Right now I hate the thought of a romantic relationship. And when I am thinking about what kind of person I would be with, someone who no-way-on-earth would cheat on me let's me know I'm not ready for a relationship, lol..

When he cheated on me I heard about it and asked him and he looked into my eyes and lied to me.
The person I trusted the most in the entire world.

Later when I found out he lied it made my insides turn. I could almost throw up.

It was my fault.
But I don't know if I'll ever get over it.
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Posted 7/2/15 , edited 7/8/15

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It was my fault.



Being cheated on is never your fault... unless you are just a giant bag of douche, which I doubt you are. The fault lies with the cheater.

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