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Asperger's teen left with concussion and black eye by bullies decides NOT to press charges - and asks only that they wat
Posted 7/8/15
Asperger's teen left with concussion and black eye by bullies decides NOT to press charges - and asks only that they watch video he made about living with his condition and 'see the damage they did'
Beaten: Gavin Joseph, who has Asperger's Syndrome, was attacked by bullies in his home town of New Baden, Illinois


Gavin Joseph, of New Baden, Illinois, was attacked in late June
Peers who thought he was 'creepy' and 'weird' lured him out and beat him
After attack he was left with painful wounds - but isn't pressing charges
Instead wants attackers to see 20-minute video he made about Asperger's
Gavin's mother shared account of attack, saying she was 'so proud' of his reaction


A teenage boy with Asperger's syndrome who was viciously beaten for being different has decided not to press charges against his attackers - so long as they take the time to learn about his condition.
Gavin Joseph, a recent high school graduate from New Baden, Illinois, was beaten at the end of June by a gang of other teenagers who mocked him for spending most of his time alone.
He was left with a concussion, a bruised esophagus, a fracture on his nose and a huge black eye in the heartless beating - but decided not hold back from taking legal action.
Instead, Gavin made a 20-minute video for his assailants explaining the realities of living with Asperger's, a type of autism, and asked only that they watch it with their families present.
Gavin's mother, Courtnie Stone, posted an account of his response to the attack on social media, alongside pictures of her son's still-raw injuries.
Stone wrote that Gavin, who was diagnosed with the disorder at age three, 'makes everyday interactions with people very difficult' and means that he has trouble making and keeping friends.
As a result, she said, he spends a lot of time out on his own - which some of his peers dubbed 'weird' and 'creepy'.
And at an event on Friday, one of the group who dislike him called him over to meet somebody, then had his friends surround Gavin while he attacked him, then left him bleeding on the pavement.



Restraint: Gavin, pictured here eating soup after being hit repeatedly in the face,
Stone wrote that the assailant 'didn't ask questions, didn't get to know Gavin, never met him, and didn't give him a chance to leave.
'He was called to meet someone, surrounded by people he didn't know, choked, punched, and left laying on the pavement so he would "learn his lesson".


'If you are reading this, I hope you talk to your teens, tell them about disabilities you can't see, teach them to be tolerant of people that are different, teach them that if they continuously see someone alone that maybe it is not their choice to be alone, remind them to ask questions first and get to know one another.'

'Hear it from his perspective': Gavin, pictured above with a friend, asked that his attackers make an effort to hear more about his condition
'Gavin is fine. He has a mild concussion, a bruised esophagus, the tip of his nose fractured, and hematoma in his eye, but nothing permanent.'
'He did not press charges, but requested their community service be disability-related, that they write a paper on Asperger's, and that they watch a 20 min video statement he taped while their families were present so they could see the damage they did and hear the event from his perspective.
'I am so proud of him, and I hope a lesson will come of this to all that hear about it.'


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3150642/Asperger-s-teen-left-concussion-black-eye-bullies-decides-NOT-press-charges-asks-watch-video-condition.html

Do you agree with his decision ? Personally while I respect his choice. I think he should send them to the gulags and throw away the key.
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He did more work than the justice system would have ever taught these kids.
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I respect his decision, of course. As to whether I think it was the right decision...

If the attackers genuinely turn a new leaf after learning about his condition, doing disability-related community service, and writing a paper on Asperger's, then it was the right decision. There'd be no point in just sending them to jail and have them not learn about why it was that he was different. Well... I guess the point would be for punishment, but I while I do think that punishment is most definitely needed for them, educating them and potentially getting them to understand how ignorant they are is better, in my opinion.

Then again... that would be quite an optimistic view on this. They'll probably not care in the slightest about any of the requests they were given, if they're the kind of people who gang up on one guy for being different.
Posted 7/8/15 , edited 7/8/15

Frenzify wrote:

I respect his decision, of course. As to whether I think it was the right decision...

If the attackers genuinely turn a new leaf after learning about his condition, doing disability-related community service, and writing a paper on Asperger's, then it was the right decision. There'd be no point in just sending them to jail and have them not learn about why it was that he was different. Well... I guess the point would be for punishment, but I while I do think that punishment is most definitely needed for them, educating them and potentially getting them to understand how ignorant they are is better, in my opinion.

Then again... that would be quite an optimistic view on this. They'll probably not care in the slightest about any of the requests they were given.


Not to mention it does't matter if he has a condition or not. Attacking somebody because they don't like pending time with people is idiotic.

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Let's educate them on why it was wrong to do such thing AND put them in jail. Sounds fair to me.
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Nalaniel wrote:

Let's educate them on why it was wrong to do such thing AND put them in jail. Sounds fair to me.


This. So much this.

Thing is....I've heard several times that the prison system is meant to "rehabilitate" the criminals so they'll be more productive to society. Problem with that is part of "rehabilitating" someone is helping them learn why what they did is wrong to begin with. Saying "this is evil, don't do it" is almost never enough. If all you do is say 'don't do that again" and throw them in adult timeout for a while, the only thing they'll learn is "don't get caught next time". If you want someone to stop committing a crime, teach them about that crime. Teach them why that crime is bad. Teach them how that crime affects others. Teach them the full implications they may not have realized before. Then, if there's any good in them, they'll change. They'll "rehabilitate".

That being said, punishment is also important. Reality is, they hurt someone. Whether they fully understood what they were doing or not, they hurt someone. Reality is, that someone deserves at least some amount of....repayment (can't think of a better word, but I KNOW there is one), and simply slapping them with a newspaper and saying "No! Bad dog!" just isn't enough.
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*ponders*

As viscerally satisfying as it might be to jail the people responsible, that is how bullies get turned into hardened criminals, unfortunately. The U.S. prison system is ... not what people outside it want it to be, to put it gently.
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As viscerally satisfying as it might be to jail the people responsible,


This right here is really the entire problem with the jail system. We claim it's for rehabilitation. We call it a "justice system". But really it's just an attempt at self-gratification seeing the "good guys" beat the "bad guys".

It's also a game of politics (yay lawyers!).
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As someone with Asperger's who has gone through a lot of this stuff himself... I would have done the same thing. I feel that while it may have locked up 4 or so of them... you would have gotten more publicity this way and hopefully help raise awareness. We can also be too kind for our own good. I detest hurting people in any way shape or form.
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To be honest I don't know anything about Asperger's other than Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory has it but I do know that bullying someone for having a problem is terrible.

Even if he didn't want to press charges, they should be punished as they broke the law.
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Those are not the kinda people who will help others, let alone with disabilities and sit in a room to learn more about it. This guy has too much faith in trashy people who care more about their reputation with their other inbred friends than anything else.
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Throwing someone in jail will not work all the time and in the end he turned out to be the bigger man by not pressing charges on them at the same time though it just burns me up to see people treat others who are different in the slightest that way maybe its because I understand this from having an older sister with autism.
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Frenzify wrote:

I respect his decision, of course. As to whether I think it was the right decision...

If the attackers genuinely turn a new leaf after learning about his condition, doing disability-related community service, and writing a paper on Asperger's, then it was the right decision. There'd be no point in just sending them to jail and have them not learn about why it was that he was different. Well... I guess the point would be for punishment, but I while I do think that punishment is most definitely needed for them, educating them and potentially getting them to understand how ignorant they are is better, in my opinion.

Then again... that would be quite an optimistic view on this. They'll probably not care in the slightest about any of the requests they were given, if they're the kind of people who gang up on one guy for being different.


This is probably the most realistic outcome. His choice is his choice, but not punishing them for this is only going to make them think (and possibly others now) that it's either ok or they can get away with it.

The kid is too nice for his own good sadly.
Posted 7/8/15
Too nice of him, but I agree that nice actions against bad actions get more publicity. I think he cared more to let the world know about this syndrome than punishing the bullies which is good but if that was me I would do everything to see those bullies behind bars.

On another note, while I was reading the article I asked myself "wtf is Asperger's syndrome?"


So I googled it....



^lmao I think I have Asperger's syndrome since that's technically me XD
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