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Asperger's teen left with concussion and black eye by bullies decides NOT to press charges - and asks only that they wat
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I guess that's noble and all, and he may have made the right choice. Pressing charges may have made them angrier and more likely to launch future attacks. I doubt they would have served much time, and when they got out...
But really, autism/asperger's awareness is so not the problem here.
Had it not been him, it would have been someone else. Someone in some way nerdy, effeminate, small...
It's not as if seeing someone with asperger's is suddenly causing normal kids to feel compelled to attack.
These clearly are bullies. Bullies need a victim. Bullies choose victims who don't fit in, particularly those perceived as "weak".

https://youtu.be/nDqaTXqCN-Q
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If that does not work, what about the scared straight program? That's when high school trouble makers get to spend a day in prison to see what its like. Other times, the bully or some other lowlife gets sent to a boarding school by their parents, weather its a religious (mainly Catholic) or military institution. And then there's the "A Clockwork Orange" solution where you get strapped to a chair with your eyes pried open and forced to watch all kinds of horrible things but then again, that might be a little too extreme.
Posted 7/9/15

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Dark_Alma wrote:


Ssomething wrote:
On another note, while I was reading the article I asked myself "wtf is Asperger's syndrome?"
So I googled it....



^lmao I think I have Asperger's syndrome since that's technically me XD


You will want to check if you have a monotone too. That comes with Asperger's. Also if you piss people off with either how blunt you are, or the fact you cant tell your pissing them off. That is another good clue. Finally people with Asperger's often have clinical/major depressive disorder. This stems from the lack of social interaction while you really want it. Other than that the list is pretty good.

Also, if you want to check, go to a therapist. They will be able to test you and see if you have it. I was found out pretty late in life, about 6 years ago in later high school. They thought I was ADD, ADHD, OCD, Bipolar and finally a ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder, the new and correct name for Asperger's). If you do think you have it, go check! They can offer a lot to help someone like me!


Not to come to the bullies' defense, but I can usually tell (in the more extreme cases) when a poster has Asperger's and they can be annoying and weird.
(If you've ever had a forum poster who drives the other members crazy constantly trying to steer the subject back to the one subject he wants to talk about that no one else does--and thinks it'll be okay if he just keeps at it, since there are only one or two vocal "meanies" upset with him for reasons he can't figure out--that's a good sign. Unexplainable formatting or spelling is another.)
Starting to wonder about myself a bit, too, since I was your classic Weird Kid in elementary school, and nowadays, one out of every four or five of my posts keep getting responses of "Huh? Wanna translate that one for us? ", although I take it in more of a guru sense. Speaking Your Own Language, literally or figuratively, is another tip-off symptom.

Because the A/A has impaired social skills, he has less ability to see whether or not he's acting in socially approved ways.
And while not giving his bullies jail time would be admirable in a normal person, the idea that we'll all be on his side for being "martyred", as much as he thinks of himself as one, is another symptom of the disease, as it is with the picked-on annoying posters.


Yeah no. Regardless is socially acceptable or not. Even if he an ass. Or keep bringing a topic regardless of how people feel. That a piss poor excuse for that. Unless I mistaken. I haven't see something that warrant getting somebody alone and beating the shit out of them.
In essence. They are still pieces of shit.

Sorry but if those where the bullies reason to attack him. They when from assholes to trash of humans beings.
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I would like to hope that the bullies and their parents would learn something from this. However, I know that there are parents who would sit through this video and then immediately tweet how they got off easy and what a joke the justice system is.

I admire the teen who was beaten up for doing something like this. Our society teaches us that vengeance is acceptable. I think that this needs to be changed as actions that come from hate only create more hatred. I think some community service would also do the bullies some good as well.
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How admirable. If I was put in his position, I'd have been extremely frustrated and angry. There's no way I'd be able to do something that noble. Simply inspiring.

As for the bullies, if Gavin doesn't want to press charges against them, then that's his choice. Even if they DID go to prison, it wouldn't be for long, and it's extremely unlikely they'd come out of it a better person. You think some fines are going to stop them from beating someone else up?

It's a shame our society is so flawed.
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Let's educate them on why it was wrong to do such thing AND put them in jail. Sounds fair to me.


I agree with this. While I believe Gavin did do an admirable thing by thinking about other people first, despite the fact that he was the one who was wronged, unfortunately more than likely the bullies are only going to see his kindness as a weakness and take advantage of it instead of using it as a learning experience. If they were the kind of people that had any empathy for people different from them then they wouldn't have bullied him in the first place, especially not beat him up that violently. While I don't have any disability like Asperger's syndrome or been victimized like Gavin has, I have been the target of bullying, especially in elementary, just because I am an introvert and the bullies wanted "to teach me a lesson". I tried countless times to either get an adult for help or I would get so angry I would start yelling at them. I didn't want to fight because I never liked fighting and was scared to because I would have a feeling that I would always lose. My classmates took this as a weakness, which it was, and the bullying would only get worse to the point that I was scared of going to my elementary school everyday.

Sorry for sounding so cynical in this post, I do believe that there will be a lot of people's lives who learn and benefit from Gavin Joseph's decision, I'm just not sure if it will help his own. Only time will tell.....
Posted 7/9/15

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You will want to check if you have a monotone too. That comes with Asperger's. Also if you piss people off with either how blunt you are, or the fact you cant tell your pissing them off. That is another good clue. Finally people with Asperger's often have clinical/major depressive disorder. This stems from the lack of social interaction while you really want it. Other than that the list is pretty good.

Also, if you want to check, go to a therapist. They will be able to test you and see if you have it. I was found out pretty late in life, about 6 years ago in later high school. They thought I was ADD, ADHD, OCD, Bipolar and finally a ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder, the new and correct name for Asperger's). If you do think you have it, go check! They can offer a lot to help someone like me!



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Poor guy. As for the bullies, send them to Iraq and let ISIS take care of these problems for us.
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How did those teens react to the video?



Probably we will never know, since they are teens. not grow people that can retract from their actions.


Maybe, but sometimes kids grow up sooner rather than later :X
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Posted 7/10/15

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To be honest I don't know anything about Asperger's other than Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory has it but I do know that bullying someone for having a problem is terrible.

Even if he didn't want to press charges, they should be punished as they broke the law.


Asperger's is basically High Functioning Autism that doesn't have the language acquisition delay that most autism comes with, in fact it's so similar to high functioning autism, that they removed the Diagnosis from the next iteration of the DSM (DSM V I believe). Now anyone who would be Diagnosed with it will instead be labelled something like: High Functioning Autistic. Asperger's is basically Autism, and was come up with by Hans Asperger near the same Time that an American came up with Autism.

This TED talk does a good job of explaining Autism
http://www.ted.com/talks/temple_grandin_the_world_needs_all_kinds_of_minds?language=en

And this TED talk basically points out the lack of difference between Autism and Asperger's, though it isn't the Talk's original intent
http://www.ted.com/talks/steve_silberman_the_forgotten_history_of_autism?language=en


You are fairly accurate, but it is called ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
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It takes a huge heart to do something like this. Bravo dude.
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