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Morbidhanson wrote:

To me, marriage is not important. I've never really wanted to get married and I have never wanted kids, either. Seems like a waste of money and time. I can't speak for others, though.


I was same way your still in your twenties I waited till 30 for marriage and 40 for kids 50 for divorce so 10 year bench marks you got time
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Not important at all. In my next lifetime it will be.
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Not important in the slightest.
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Not important in the slightest.
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Depends on your culture. I'm sure the Amish (sp?) find it really important
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Marriage is just a contract.

What about love and romance? Well, do you really need a slip of paper from the government to tell you how you feel?

What about fidelity? Is your partner so unfaithful that they need legal recourse to keep an agreement with you?

What about the kids? Should you procreate with someone who would simply abandon a child?

And how about tradition? Should you do things just because they have always been done that way?

I don't really see what's desirable about it.
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CKD-Anime wrote:

Marriage is at the bottom of the list of things to do in my life, so not very important.


Could not agree more. Its unfair the burden that is put on women to have children because will they are baby makers but still ladies do what what makes you happy.
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Posted 7/11/15 , edited 7/11/15

scoobydew wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:

To me, marriage is not important. I've never really wanted to get married and I have never wanted kids, either. Seems like a waste of money and time. I can't speak for others, though.


I was same way your still in your twenties I waited till 30 for marriage and 40 for kids 50 for divorce so 10 year bench marks you got time :)


Well, I'm 26 with no steady girlfriend at the moment and plenty of business to take care of! Needs to be a huge change at this point to shift me into marriage mode.
Posted 7/11/15 , edited 7/11/15
I'm not really sure what you're asking... But for me, nope not important! It's not that I don't like weddings though, I'd be happy to go to someone else's. For me personally, marriage is not important and I don't think it lines up with my ideals either. I don't come from a religious family or area either - and I have older family members who have been together without marrying (with plenty of kids) for much longer than I've been alive, so I wouldn't be the first to skip it!

I suppose I'm still young so I can't say for sure, but this has always been my preference and I don't see this changing.
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Importance of marriage I think depends on context.

One day I would like to be married and settle down. I'm a simple old fashioned kind of guy. So, it's important to me.

Marriage isn't for everyone though. I have some friends who have been together since right out of high school. They have multiple kids together. They have never married and have an open relationship. They have also been some of the happiest and simplest living people I have known.

And look at the recent SCOTUS decision to make gay marriage possible nationwide. I bet that was hugely important to the LGBT community.
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Let's see... My view on marriage, especially in the light of recent events;

There are certainly advantages of having an 'official' recognition of marriage, making some things simpler when raising children, receiving aid of some sort, simplifying taxes, etc, things that most likely are beneficial for the individuals themselves as well as the society as a whole.

The 'official' recognition should be completely detached from the ceremonial side, and gender shouldn't be an issue of any kind if a couple opts to register their relationship with the state.

The ceremonial side however, under whichever skydaddy/-mommy umbrella it's conducted under, doesn't, in my mind at least, need to be prohibited to have rules on things like genders etc (Though in the long run I'd think that sort of thing will impact the membership numbers negatively...). And they should be free to conduct those ceremonies without the need for the couples in question to officially register their partnerships with the state.

However, what a ceremonial marriage must NOT have, is any part in the official recognition of a partnership(whether called marriage or something else) by the state, that should instead be a completely separate issue and conducted separately.

To put it simply and descriptively, if for example a Christian couple want to have an official recognized marriage, then they conduct the Christian marriage ceremony in whatever their place of worship. And then receive a marriage license from a county clerk(or whoever manages those things). Or vice versa(get the official license first, then conduct the ceremony).

However, an atheist couple would have no need for the Christian ceremony, instead they could have whatever other ceremony of their choice. Likewise, a Zeus-believing couple would most likely have a Zeus-inspired ceremony.

NONE of those 'ceremonies' should affect whether of not the couple opts to get an 'official' recognition of their relationship. As far as the County clerk should be concerned, it shouldn't matter at all whatever ceremonies are conducted or not, under whatever umbrella or not.

So simple.

Applying those rules above should solve a lot of problems. Though having been reading news past year, religious fundamentalists in USA sure seem to be doing their darndest to keep the country in a backwater state in that regard. Or that's the general sentiment I get at least...
Posted 7/11/15
Man I fucking love marriage omg.
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I have been married for 21-years and I'm still sane


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zalbik wrote:
I have been married for 21-years and I'm still sane

lol have you been dried out?
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Why wouldn't marriage be important?

It makes it harder to escape me.



On a more serious note, it does help stability. Normally people consider relationships with marriage a lot more seriously, not that it can't work without. Just helps people take some time out to really consider if they want to spend 'the rest of my life with him/her'. I really do look forward to marriage and kids, but just the same I wouldn't marry someone I was unsure about in the slightest. Hard to get rid of me once yah have me.

There's just a little more security in agreeing on a marriage, refusing almost feels like 'nah idk if this is for life and marriage is a pain in the ass to get out of'. I never gave a rats ass about someone looking for a short term relationship. It's the long haul or gtfo. So a simple life is what I want, I don't have time for people that are interested in anything less than that.
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