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Do you think we need better sex education in the US?
Posted 7/20/15 , edited 7/20/15
Do you think we need better sex ed in the US?
Or maybe even in general? Honestly, i'm not so sure what's the case of Sex Ed in other countries, so feel free to mention them as well.

I think we should. And should be a class we'd take at least once. Like, I would say, one time in elementary school (preferable 5th grade), Junior high (8th grade), and maybe Highschool but in 11th grade. So basically every 3 years I guess.
I suggest this because when we're in puberty, and the stages we go through it can be confusing imo for people who have no idea whats going on with themselves & their bodies.

You would expect parents to do tell their kids themselves about it, but that doesn't seem like the case.
I heard a story of a 13 year old girl, who were basically protected from her parents so much. They never told her about sex, or even what her genitals are called & why she gets periods. Then one day she has sex with a friend she had (and since her parents never told her about it, she had no idea what it was, what happens or what it does.) and to no surprise, she got pregnant.
I basically have heard of similar stories, but most of them I heard weren't that bad compared to that one. More like stupid, like a friend of my moms she had when she was younger, had sex thinking that she wouldn't get pregnant the first time she does it. And of course, she did.

I feel like they should also teach about the different sexualities...Though I doubt that would ever even happen in my lifetime lmao.
(I've noticed as well that states that practically never teach kids about sex ed at all tend to have higher teen pregnancy rates...)
So as you see, I agree fully to that idea.

So, what do you guys think?
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Posted 7/20/15 , edited 7/23/15
The data doesn't lie.

Sheltered kids don't do well in life, usually.

Lack of sex ed leads to higher pregnancy rates, usually.

Ignorance of some things isn't necessarily bliss, that goes doubly so for sex ed.

I had Sex ed in like...fifth grade? I don't remember, I remember it was part of a course segment known as "family life" that went from like third to sixth grade, probably seventh, I forget, that was over 15 years ago. (I went to a catholic school since my dad went there, only stayed because it was a decently rated school.) I feel I'm better off having gone through sex ed decently early enough, especially before the mass "think of the kids" panic the populace is prone to nowadays.
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Posted 7/20/15 , edited 7/26/15

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Do you think we need better sex ed in the US?
Or maybe even in general? Honestly, i'm not so sure what's the case of Sex Ed in countries, so feel free to mention them as well.

I think we should. And should be a class we'd take at least once. Like, I would say, one time in elementary school (preferable 5th grade), Junior high (8th grade), and maybe Highschool but starting in 11th grade. So basically every 3 years I guess.
I say suggest this because when we're in puberty, and the stages we go through it can be confusing imo for people who have no idea whats going on with themselves & their bodies.
You would expect parents to do tell their kids themselves about it, but that doesn't seem like the case.
I heard a story of a 13 year old girl, who were basically protected from her parents so much. They never told her about sex, or even what her genitals are called & why she gets periods. Then one day she has sex with a friend she had (and since her parents never told her about it, she had no idea what it was, what happens or what it does.) and to no surprise, she got pregnant.
I basically have heard of similar stories, but most of them I heard weren't that bad compared to that one. More like stupid, like a friend of my moms she had when she was younger, had sex thinking that she wouldn't get pregnant the first time she does it. And of course, she did.
I feel like they should also teach about the different sexualities...Though I doubt that would ever even happen in my lifetime lmao.
(I've noticed as well that states that practically never teach kids about sex ed at all tend to have higher teen pregnancy rates...)

So, what do you guys think?


I think it's not so much about how sex works or even the STD part of it, for in my experience, I was educated well about that in the school system.

For me, I think we just need to stop demonizing sex and treating it as something that can only produce bad things because sex can be a beautiful act with the right person. Rather, we should look at sex responsibly and teach people how to do it safely without patronizing them in the process.

There are STDs and they need to be talked about as consequences as well as pregnancy, but honestly, I don't think people take fear tactics seriously and talking down to them only makes them want to rebel. If sex is talked about as an adult thing, then they should be talked to as adults and they should be taught the adult way of how to handle sex, STDs, and pregnancy (like going to Panned Parenthood, gaining access to birth control, talking to your partner before having sex, and how to protect yourself from STDs appropriately and realistically.

I'm mostly talking about educating high-school student, who are the most likely to have sex. Still, though, I'm against using fear tactics against middle-schoolers as well, although I do agree you need to walk them through the process a little more than their high-school counterparts.
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Definitely need better sex education - better and wider delivery, more information, less biased.
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I did a hell of a lot of sex ed in England both in secondary and primary school. I got a pretty good grasp on it by the time I hit puberty. Not that I've ever needed any of that information.
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The states promoting abstinence only are the ones with the highest teen pregnancy rates. That's not coincidental.
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I went to a few sex ed classes in middle school and high school. Seems fine. My first girlfriend and I just looked it up online before doing anything, anyway.
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Posted 7/20/15 , edited 7/20/15

KisaiGate wrote:

The data doesn't lie.

Sheltered kids don't do well in life, usually.

Lack of sex ed leads to higher pregnancy rates, usually.

Ignorance of some things isn't necessarily bliss, that goes doubly so for sex ed.


Unless you grew up in a catholic home like I did. I was taught fear but not exactly what sex was or how it worked, just that it was terrible. Basically told me that babies happened when two people love each other very much. After I played Sims when I was younger I thought it happened from kissing until I was 16. Which you can imagine, I thought everyone in school was getting pregnant.



I actually didn't find out until I was at band camp and my friends figured out while joking about pokemon sex I hadn't a clue how it worked.

Yeah band camp. It's cliche.

Still a virgin today though, but completely by choice, not religious matters.

On topic, should there be better sex education? Ehhh, I guess so. Probably would help.



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Sadly, sex can be found beyond the sex education classroom. It is best for the parents to step up and focus more on telling the possible consequences of engaging in sex. Many parents do not know how to setup parental control or simply do not care. I knew a friend who had a daughter when she was 12 years old because her parents did not sign the papers for her to participate in it.

Furthermore, I know that females learn a lot about sex through their friends.

I think sex education should be more effective, less focus on teaching on how sex works or promoting abstinence and more focus on understanding that sex will occur and practice safe sex. Look at the teenage pregnancy statistics of those countries that teaches that way. It is very low.

Lastly, if parents are involved, then practicing safe sex will be more effective. Just my 2 cents.
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It would be good if every child got a good grounding in sex education no matter what country they resided in. It should be holistic, including the social and emotional aspects as well. It should start from age 7. The youngest puberty can start is around age 8. A child needs to be prepared for that and likewise their class mates needs to know too. We had maybe one discussion about it in school when I was around 14 then we looked at some books about protection from STDs. My mother had gotten us books on the subject when we were aged 5-8. She had had none herself when she was a child. She started menstruation as a teen and thought she was going to die. Her mother still didn't explain just told her that she should wear some special stuff when bleeding that's it. I suspect that my uncle was rushed into marriage at 18 with his girlfriend of the same age because she was pregnant neither of their parents wanted to be embarrassed so they got them married. It lasted a few years.
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I have a question I have about sex I never asked in class before when I was small because I thought everyone was going to call me stupid, but I hope this forum can feed my knowledge a bit.

1. If 2 virgins who never had sex with anyone before have sex together- can they get STDS?


2. You can only get STDs if you have sex with a person with STDs right?

I'm sorry, for wasting your time please answer.
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Its not so much MORE Sex Ed as it is the right kind. Most states teach abstinence only classes and don't cover any sort of safe sex practices. The religious right has a lot of many and therefore influence on what is taught in schools. Though not always the case I think high school nurses offices should have some kind of contraceptives that kids can get. I think in a lot of the more "ghetto" schools it would help decrease the number of pregnant teens.
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A big yes from me.

In fact, it should be mandatory, a prerequisite, sort of like getting above a certain grade or taking a required elective. Many parents who refuse to let their kids learn about it in the classroom do not do an adequate job explaining it to their kids themselves. There are not many excuses to keep kids from learning about it. Not liking to talk about it is certainly not among the acceptable excuses. It's better for public policy as well as informed decision-making in personal life if kids get good sex ed.
Posted 7/20/15 , edited 7/20/15

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I think it's not so much about how sex works or even the STD part of it, for in my experience, I was educated well about that in the school system.

For me, I think we just need to stop demonizing sex and treating it as something that can only produce bad things because sex can be a beautiful act with the right person. Rather, we should look at sex responsibly and teach people how to do it safely without patronizing them in the process.

There are STDs and they need to be talked about as consequences as well as pregnancy, but honestly, I don't think people take fear tactics seriously and talking down to them only makes them want to rebel. If sex is talked about as an adult thing, then they should be talked to as adults and they should be taught the adult way of how to handle sex, STDs, and pregnancy (like going to Panned Parenthood, gaining access to birth control, talking to your partner before having sex, and how to protect yourself from STDs appropriately and realistically.

I'm mostly talking about educating high-school student, who are the most likely to have sex. Still, though, I'm against using fear tactics against middle-schoolers as well, although I do agree you need to walk them through the process a little more than their high-school counterparts.

Yeah. I feel it might have to do with the fact that the US population is mostly christian & also that it was built around Christianity. Which demonizes sex, and it's only exception is after marriage :/ (I know I said to not bring any religious beliefs, sooo this will be the only time I'll mention it I swear).
Oh yeah, they need to teach STD's as well. The schools that actually do teach it, never seem to mention that all, or just barely, from what I hear & from my experience.
And yeah, that's why I suggest having more than one class in a persons time in school. Cuz I sorta expect the first time to teach you like "this is why your body is doing this" then the second "this is why you feel this way" (with also a recap of the first one maybe, since most start in middleschool it seems) then in highschool, is when you really need to talk about STDs, where to get condoms, how to get birth control, etc etc.
The most important stuff in my opinion that you would need to know once you become sexually active.

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Also what do you mean by fear tactics?

geauxtigers1989 wrote:

The states promoting abstinence only are the ones with the highest teen pregnancy rates. That's not coincidental.

I'm glad to see that I wasn't the only one who noticed this and doesn't think its a coincidence.
Cuz nobody I discussed this with knew or even brought it up.
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Posted 7/20/15 , edited 7/20/15

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I have a question I have about sex I never asked in class before when I was small because I thought everyone was going to call me stupid, but I hope this forum can feed my knowledge a bit.

1. If 2 virgins who never had sex with anyone before have sex together- can they get STDS?


2. You can only get STDs if you have sex with a person with STDs right?

I'm sorry, for wasting your time please answer.


1. Yes.
2. No.
From - my public education/ Health class.
Just because they're sexually transmitted doesn't mean they're only transmitted by having sex.
For example, if somebody has HIV, and I take a blood sample from them, and inject that blood into you, you will then have HIV, no sex required.
You can get one simply by being born, if it transfers from mother to child.
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