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The denial, hate, and fetishization of Bisexuality & Asexuality...
Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15
Why is there so much of it?
There is so much of it even in the LGBT community.

Bisexuals seem to always be accused of being selfish, cheaters, and/or just wanting attention. We're also seen as horny preverts.
Our existence is denied. We're seen as people who are just being experimental and trying to figure out our "real" sexuality.
Fetishistization of bisexuality is kinda dumb. Some straight people see it as a automatic yes to a threesome.
I feel I might get why people can think that, but the reason is still dumb, and also highly unlikely imo. And I just can't believe people actually think these things about bisexuals.

Asexuals, I would say, is probably the most hated in general, and flat out rejected from their own community. There's not even any exceptions.
They are too denied of their existence, and are often told "you just haven't found the right person yet." Some are also told they need "to be fixed" and even go as far as raping them, to "fix" them.
That's also the reason they seemed fetishized as well. Its sorta part of the rape fetish, just more specific and kinda dumb imo.

I'm not asexual, so please correct me on anything I've said about them.

Im discussing both mainly because I see most of the reasons they aren't really accepted by people seem to be the same imo.

Anyway, what are your thoughts on them? And the accusations/stereotypes of them?
If you're bisexual or asexual, I'd like to hear what you think about this as well & maybe even tell us of your experiences with it.

I'd really like to know tbh.
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/31/15
I don't mind them. It's not like their lifestyle is affecting mine since their preferences are their own, so even if I had a problem with it, I would not go out of my way to demonize them.

I do feel a bit bad for them, though. Must be hard finding similar people to talk to,
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/23/15
Female bi sexuals are awesome
A sexual? I dont know. For me its to each their own. But for alot of guys life is pretty much soley about having sex. Weather its with someone attractive or not, free or paid for its like the main objective and pretty much what they judge people on, probably how they rate themself.
So for alot i guess an A sexual is just strange and not natural?
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Posted 7/23/15
As long as I'm free to do things as a heterosexual I see no problem with people liking both or none, crap like this is just people being nosy >_>

Nobody is benefitting from this >_>
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Posted 7/23/15

anzn wrote:
Asexuals are often told "you just haven't found the right person yet."


Wow, I've gotten that one a lot without realizing it. With that being said, I'm not aromatic - I can still have a romantic relationship even if I'm asexual. Not that I have, though.

I'd suppose that from an outside perspective, asexuality is boring. It's why you don't often see them in fiction, for example.

I've also had a lot of girls into me who gets frustrated with me because I don't return their interest. With such disappointment, it's easier to think it's all my fault as an individual than to blame their assumption that I'm definitely not asexual. I suppose it's fair enough since I'm not that open about it, but it's still annoying when someone only considers you worth anything if it's for your relationship potential.

Since I live in Europe it's not a big deal at all. I don't participate in communities about this at all, but I'd think that since those communities are all about sexuality and you have individuals who are completely averse to it, it's not really a surprise that they're thought less of even if the discrimination is unreasonable.
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/24/15
There's nothing wrong of being bisexual or asexual, I don't understand asexuality, isn't that when people don't want to be with anyone whatsoever? Like Asexuals don't have "feelings" to be with someone? I dunno. For bisexuals, they are with who makes them happy. I'm pretty sure I was raised and taught to be with someone that makes me happy regardless of color/race or size, accept them who they are and be there for them, can that include gender too? Gender wouldn't have matter if that person sees them as them, as the person they love.
Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15

jackrabbit92 wrote:

There's nothing wrong of being bisexual or asexual, I don't understand asexuality, isn't that when people don't want to be with anyone whatsoever? Like Asexuals don't have "feelings" to be with someone? I dunno.

No its just that they don't feel sexual attraction. They can feel romantic attraction though.
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Posted 7/23/15

anzn wrote:


jackrabbit92 wrote:

There's nothing wrong of being bisexual or asexual, I don't understand asexuality, isn't that when people don't want to be with anyone whatsoever? Like Asexuals don't have "feelings" to be with someone? I dunno.

No its just that they don't feel sexual attraction. They can feel romantic attraction though.


Thats gotta suck. But i guess at least they dont get sexually frustrated? and its one less thing to spend money on i guess?
Iam not exactly living in the sheets but hard to imagine not even feeling attracted to anyone.
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15
I am bi and i really, honestly do not give a fuck. If anything, the fact that most bisexuals around here are perverts, makes irt easier for me to find willing pervs to play around with! xd

So nah i dont mind and tbh, dont really care....
Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15

MrAnimeSK wrote:


anzn wrote:


jackrabbit92 wrote:

There's nothing wrong of being bisexual or asexual, I don't understand asexuality, isn't that when people don't want to be with anyone whatsoever? Like Asexuals don't have "feelings" to be with someone? I dunno.

No its just that they don't feel sexual attraction. They can feel romantic attraction though.


Thats gotta suck. But i guess at least they dont get sexually frustrated? and its one less thing to spend money on i guess?
Iam not exactly living in the sheets but hard to imagine not even feeling attracted to anyone.

Lolol
I see it as convinient more so than it sucks tho tbh.

I mean I heard asexuals will have sex to please their partners & maybe even themselves. They just don't feel like they need to have sex, is all. I don't think it means they can't find is pleasurable either.
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15
This is basically just people who "Know what's best" telling others how to live properly. It's no different from people with kids telling people without kids and don't want them that they're selfish or that they're missing out on life.
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15

ZenZaku wrote:

This is basically just people who "Know what's best" telling others how to live properly. It's no different from people with kids telling people without kids and don't want them that they're selfish or that they're missing out on life.


Same with people who dont get married and etc
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Posted 7/23/15 , edited 7/29/15

ZenZaku wrote:

This is basically just people who "Know what's best" telling others how to live properly. It's no different from people with kids telling people without kids and don't want them that they're selfish or that they're missing out on life.


Basically yes.
It's like that for a lot of things anyway. Someone that don't like being looked down is better of trying to at least mimic what the majority does because life will be difficult otherwise. For peoples who don't want to mimic it, better learning fast how to ignore or take with a smile that kind of stupid remark. .
The "you just haven't found the right person yet." disappear when you get older though. Peoples that have known you for a while and were inciting you to find a woman or saying that it would change by getting older shut their trap on that matter and don't mention it any more. Sooner or later, they understand that you were not kidding when you were saying that it will probably not happen.

After a while, I'd say that for a man at least, women have a tendency to be quite curious/fascinated by an asexual man rather than what is said on the op. Well, there are always stupid people around I suppose, but no one tells you to inform stupid peoples of your sexual tendencies either.
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Posted 7/23/15
I don't care about them either way. If you are bisexual or asexual, cool. Doesn't affect me in any way and unless you're somehow managing to use that to hurt people, I don't see how it's anyone else's business either. I think it's because they're still seen as kind of new and are misunderstood, especially asexuality. After a while of people identifying and others becoming more educated on the subject, I imagine a lot of people will stop with that stuff.
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Posted 7/23/15

anzn wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:


anzn wrote:


jackrabbit92 wrote:

There's nothing wrong of being bisexual or asexual, I don't understand asexuality, isn't that when people don't want to be with anyone whatsoever? Like Asexuals don't have "feelings" to be with someone? I dunno.

No its just that they don't feel sexual attraction. They can feel romantic attraction though.


Thats gotta suck. But i guess at least they dont get sexually frustrated? and its one less thing to spend money on i guess?
Iam not exactly living in the sheets but hard to imagine not even feeling attracted to anyone.

Lolol
I see it as convinient more so than it sucks tho tbh.

I mean I heard asexuals will have sex to please their partners & maybe even themselves. They just don't feel like they need to have sex, is all. I don't think it means they can't find is pleasurable either.


I think you are still really young when it comes to labeling yourself don't get caught in a rut if being asexual makes you happy then go with it. I would say like you want to join in a threesome 2 women and a male might actually be kinda cool to see cause its like a buffet you can sample both or one at a time without commitment of a total meal,try something new and be an explorer
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