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24 / F / canada
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Posted 7/24/15
Is it possible to have an actual relashionship with someone that dosen't live next door or close enough to see him/her every day?

If you have cutes stories of long distance relashionship i'd like to ear about it too!

Because recently i've meet somebody but he live pretty far from where i live. And my bestfriend just can't shut up about the "fact" that it's an imposible kind of relashionship.

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Of course it's possible. Plenty of people have them. To say it's impossible is just ignorant. It might not work for everyone, but it can certainly happen and does.
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Long distance is acceptable only when both people are fully committed. It will be difficult. And eventually you both will have to ask who is coming to see who or if you're both going to meet somewhere halfway. The situation is that at one point you will have to see the other person. Preferably by the 1st year you're with them. Your heart will grow fonder and yearn for that physical part.
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24 / M / USA
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It works, of course. It just takes commitment and trust.
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17 / M / CS Colorado
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Commitment is key
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Ehhhhhh
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ya
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21 / F / Southern US
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Very possible, but it depends a lot of the characteristics of the people involved and the desire to make it work. I've had a number of long distance relationships.
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18 / F / Croatia
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Everything is possible, but it seems to be easier to maintain a "normal" relationship than a long distance one. It is only normal to have physical contact in a relationship, which is hindered in this case. It completely depends on the individuals, though. You won't know if it will work out until you try.
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Long distance relationships can work, it's just that they often don't. It's the same for non-distance relationships too, so just because the odds are against you doesn't mean you shouldn't try. I had a long distance relationship for a month or two and it was an important experience because it taught me that I personally do not like long distance relationships. That's not to say that I hung all over my husband when I met him, in fact, we only saw each other on the weekends and didn't talk to each other during the week. Neither of us were phone talking people.

In summary, what I am saying is this: "Why not try it and see how things go?". Keep an open mind and have fun with your life.
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24 / F / canada
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I really want it to work out. That's why i ask about it. and because i wanted to know some other point of view on it.

But if you had "a lot" of them, dosen't make it a bit contradictory?
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34 / M / Mexico
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I think long distance relationships are extremely difficult but not impossible; I've known of some "successful" cases, but of particular relevance, there are two: one, a Mexican friend of mine met her husband in some forums, and during that time, they both travelled to see each other whenever possible. They are currently married and living in the UK (where he was originally from), and have been together for 7 or 8 years more or less.

The second case is a somewhat famous one that can be read in the book 40 Years of GenCon, in which a Brittish guy met a woman in GenCon (in the US) and kept contact by video chat and travelling every now and then to see her for some months, until he finally decided to move to the US and marry her.

However, I've also known many other cases in which long distance relationships didn't work out. Personally, I've never tried it because I think closeness and regular physical contact is a must in any relationship.

Based on what I've seen, it seems that, for that type of relationship to be successful: you need to see that person's face as much as possible and one person must be very much willing to leave their country behind for the sake of the relationship.

I hope your relationship is successful, you just have to decide if the relationship is worth pursuing or not, and if you have the time and resources to make it happen.
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Pretty much what everyone else said. They can be very difficult, but not impossible. I have two good friends that are currently in their 3rd year of dating as a long distance couple. They make it a point to see each other at least every few months or so. It's hard for them, but they've both chosen to stay committed to one another. And eventually, if the relationship is right you won't stay distant from each other forever. My friends are planning on moving in together soon so that they can eventually plan getting married. It just takes a lot of time, patience, and communication.
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48 / M / New England, USA
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In the past it was extremely hard to have long distance relationships. I remember an $800 phone bill I didn't hesitate to pay . Now with Skype and Video Cameras on everything it's easy to keep in touch with anyone on a daily basis. My longest long-distance relationship lasted about three years. Honestly, it could've gone the distance if we were mature enough at the time not to listen to "friends" who were more interested in their "partying partners" than our happiness together. We actually had quite a few friends who met online and were either married or living together after years together.

Date nights were interesting. We'd both go out and rent the same movie while talking about it over the phone and we'd set up our vacations together to places we both thought we'd enjoy. Nowadays the virtual date nights are even easier with streaming versions of channels/rental places (Epix online version even has an "invite friends to movie night" feature in which you can all stream together and chat below).

Long distance relationships do work, if you're willing to go all in on them despite what others try to convince you.
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I would say if your committed yes they work but trust is the biggest issue
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