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Having a racial preference...
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Posted 7/25/15

anzn wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

Indeed.

Are you attracted to family members? Cousins and the like? No?


Now you're plain just not making sense.


No, because I don't want to have sex with family members, I have to think, and like people, outside my race.
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anzn wrote:

I think a better thing to say really is that you're more open to them to at least make an exception. You'd be surprised how people won't even allow exceptions for certain races. Its so ridiculous imo.


I wouldn't date someone that I'm not physically attracted to. Theres nothing ridiculous about that. Physical attraction is extremely important in most relationships
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I'd only date a Caucasian (American/European) or Asian. I can't see me being more than friends with an African, Arabian, or Indian.
Posted 7/25/15 , edited 7/25/15

VZ68 wrote:


anzn wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

Indeed.

Are you attracted to family members? Cousins and the like? No?


Now you're plain just not making sense.


No, because I don't want to have sex with family members, I have to think, and like people, outside my race.

That's not the same...
Everyone in your race don't look like your family...


sundin13 wrote:
I wouldn't date someone that I'm not physically attracted to. Theres nothing ridiculous about that. Physical attraction is extremely important in most relationships

I know. Physical attraction is pretty much required in most relationships.
Races vary in looks/physical appearances. I just find it boring mostly that you'd evrn have a race preference.

I'm a prime example of that. (Black American)
Literally the most uncommon physical trait I have that probably half the black people here who look mostly like me (brown/blondish highlighted natural hair and tan colored skin) is probably my eye color. Which is green.
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anzn wrote:
I know. Physical attraction is pretty much required in most relationships.
Races vary in looks/physical appearances. I just find it boring mostly that you'd evrn have a race preference.


Usually you don't exactly decide what you are attracted to, so it really doesn't matter if someone finds it "boring"...
Posted 7/25/15 , edited 7/25/15

Irishsushi wrote:

I think everyone has a preference of what they like, but that doesn't mean that they never go outside their preferences. I find a certain look to be more appealing than another does that make me a bad person? No it doesn't...ope not. . .


This. To each their own with regards to preferences. If we were talking employment, it would be a different matter, and illegal actually, but we can't tell others who to like.
Posted 7/25/15 , edited 7/25/15

sundin13 wrote:


anzn wrote:
I know. Physical attraction is pretty much required in most relationships.
Races vary in looks/physical appearances. I just find it boring mostly that you'd evrn have a race preference.


Usually you don't exactly decide what you are attracted to, so it really doesn't matter if someone finds it "boring"...

If you choose to be closed minded, I'd say kinda.

But not everyone is like me I guess. People having racial pretences is very common anyway. It doesn't affect me personally. Like I said, I feel its just unfortunate & boring to have one. And most would be disappointed.
Posted 7/25/15

Irishsushi wrote:

I think everyone has a preference of what they like, but that doesn't mean that they never go outside their preferences. I find a certain look to be more appealing than another does that make me a bad person? No it doesn't... at least I hope not. . .

That's fine. It just mean you're at least a bit open about it, and you didn't choose to completely close them off.
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Posted 7/25/15

anzn wrote:


VZ68 wrote:


anzn wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

Indeed.

Are you attracted to family members? Cousins and the like? No?


Now you're plain just not making sense.


No, because I don't want to have sex with family members, I have to think, and like people, outside my race.

That's not the same...
Everyone in your race don't look like your family....


It sure does when you have less members of your race left than a college football team has members.

Posted 7/25/15
I have preferences for certain, and looks/features I am more attracted to than others. I think most people, if they're being honest, will agree to that.

But just because I have preferences does not mean I'm going to treat someone badly based on their race. Yes, I am sexually attracted to certain looks: but being sexually attracted to a certain look/ethnicity/race does not entitle you to racism, nor does it mean you are a racist.
Posted 7/25/15 , edited 7/25/15

teallerina wrote:

I have preferences for certain, and looks/features I am more attracted to than others. I think most people, if they're being honest, will agree to that.

But just because I have preferences does not mean I'm going to treat someone badly based on their race. Yes, I am sexually attracted to certain looks: but being sexually attracted to a certain look/ethnicity/race does not entitle you to racism, nor does it mean you are a racist.

I'm an experimental type and went out with like 3 people in my life as well. All were different races/ethnicities too. (White, Brazilian, and Korean). Of course I have physical preferences that I like more compared to others. I just don't completely shut the rest of them off. I've seen people who look good with all types of preferences (imo anyway) which makes me more open I guess.

Not exactly saying its completely racist. Just when people who go off of stereotypes. Like asian girls are the mostly desired because of stereotypes and black women are the mostly undesirable, also due to stereotypes.
Both are put in a rather negative sorta light in their own ways much more than they should :/
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Meh, I could care less what race they are. As long as they meet the long list of other expectations, I'm fine.
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Morbidhanson wrote:

I have preferences and don't think it is dumb or wrong. Having a preference, as long as you don't use it to be closed off and discriminatory, is fine, if not expected. People can't force themselves to be attracted to someone, but I think it is reasonable to expect tolerance. It's true that people of any race can look good and be attractive, but this mere fact does not mean a person has no preferences or tendencies. Dating is all about impressions and image; as shallow and terrible as that may sound, with invisible qualities coming second. There are obviously a few exceptions to this but sight is the primary sense that people rely on. At the very least, looks are important for most. It's better for people to admit it than to pretend they are so thoughtful and fair. It's better to confront it directly than to sweep it under the carpet and pretend things are what they are not.

Racial preferences are neither right nor wrong. They are sort of just there, like a fleshless skeleton. There needs to be more in order to determine what's right or wrong without relying on wild speculation. Especially since people are molded by and are a product of their surroundings and upbringing. Can't really always blame them for being affected by their upbringing.


Well, I was going to type an essay... but you pretty much summed it up for me. Thanks!

As for some stuff, most people tend to be racially inclined to people near their own skin color. I tend to like lighter skinned people (Caucasian>Asian>Hispanic>Indian>African American). It doesn't mean I wouldn't date them, it just means I find them more sexually pleasing. You cant really choose what your attracted to after all.
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Meh...

Racial/ethnic preferences are a shame in the sense that appearances are what cause you to first turn your head, so you may be failing to notice opportunities with people you might otherwise find desirable. However, that's true for any and all aspects of physical attraction.

I think people are fine so long as they aren't against the concept of venturing outside their normal preferences.. and I think most people would, given the right circumstances (i.e. a situation requiring they interact, and thus potentially notice internal qualities as well as external).

It also sort of balances itself out: where one person may be less likely to notice you because of their racial preferences, another may be more likely to.

In an ideal world everyone with the character traits you desire might appear to have a sign around their neck saying "Hey, you should date me". Humans are pretty dumb though (or rather, lacking in psychic powers), so instead we say, "Damn, he/she has a great butt," and proceed from there.
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I love interracial dating.
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