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Women who are paranoid that their man is cheating
Posted 7/29/15

reaperx- wrote:

I really can't blame them. Did you know that women are more likely to cheat than men?


I honestly believe it.
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Posted 7/29/15

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Augment wrote:


Humans cheat.

How far they go with it depends on if they are worth it.


So we have no control over our actions? No free will at all? Even though cheating is considered wrong by all, none of us can help it so who cares? Sounds like you are quitting before you even start. I hope your let your love interest know how you feel about this before you enter any sort of relationship. She should probably know ahead of time that you have no intention of staying faithful to her.


Did I say anything about self-control?

Free will? Cheating, is usually free will, unless you are blackmailed into doing it? I don't understand where you are coming from.

Cheating is considered wrong by all? Your attempt at speaking for all of humanity is foolish. There are those of us who actually do not care and some of us whom are attracted to affairs.

Going to skip a few of this nonsense.

My love interest? Why are you so offensively making this about me?

Again, why is this about me, and what did I say to give you the impression that I personally would cheat? But go on, reply to this and allow me to take apart your foolish assumptions and gibberish.

Before you do, I will dumb down my reply. Just for you (:

Humans cheat. - Open to interpretation, is checking out another woman cheating, or just intercourse, some animals, maybe most- I haven't done that research- but I do know for a fact some take more than one mate, "but they are animals" we are too. "We are civilized" I won't even go down that road, animals are going by the natural order, are we? I would argue not.

How far they go with it depends on if they are worth it? - How much and how far they took their cheating helps you make your choice on whether they worth forgiving or not. I'm guessing you would walk away, or beat them. Assuming, since you are this aggressive and this is only a simple online discussion.
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Posted 7/29/15

Cheating has many factors most younger people do not understand.

Almost anyone can be manipulated into cheating, actually it isn't difficult at all.

Looks and personality are just toppings on a cake. With these you almost don't need anything else to get through to someone.

But for those with an obstacle whether it be your looks or the other persons' strong devotion. Situation, opportunity, proper motivation, careful handling, and determination is all someone needs to be manipulated into cheating.

Then again there are those exceptions and to those people I tip my hat off to. I respect strong loyalty and devotion very much.

For the rest of you, go into a relationship understanding this and you will save yourself from a lot of stress and disappointment.


So it's your job to strengthen that devotion and bond between you and your partner, with not just 'love' and 'time' but with respect and care.
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Posted 7/29/15 , edited 7/31/15
If I ever get a girlfriend (not looking, relationships beyond being friends look shit to me due to stuff like this) and she starts porohibiting me to be with other friends or shit like that, and we´d already be married, I think I´d simply point out to her that any loans for the house etc. are shared by both of us, and we are both 100% responsible for paying back those loans, and that if she kept up ruining my life I might just consider moving away to the next city over very suddenly without telling the bank etc. in advance - for whom it´s then far easier to get the money from the ex-wife, which is what they usually do.

You be a bitch like that to me, I will be a bitch back. Time to employ some privilige

Then again, this shit is why I will never, ever want to have a relationship. I love having friends, I am a very social person, I am always happy and chatty etc and hang out with otakus like 3-4 days a week in the vacation in the manga cafe, cosplay meets, cons etc, but I never want a relationship. I am a perv, but I´ve had ~10 one night stands in a year, so I really see no reason a relationship and all this shit would be necessary for me...

And no I don´t want kids. Having your own kids seems like trouble, costs a lot of money, and severely limits your freedom to go away to otaku events all the time. (and destroys your night rest for the first few years).
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Posted 7/29/15

Augment wrote:


ginnysababe wrote:


Augment wrote:


Humans cheat.

How far they go with it depends on if they are worth it.


So we have no control over our actions? No free will at all? Even though cheating is considered wrong by all, none of us can help it so who cares? Sounds like you are quitting before you even start. I hope your let your love interest know how you feel about this before you enter any sort of relationship. She should probably know ahead of time that you have no intention of staying faithful to her.


Did I say anything about self-control?

Free will? Cheating, is usually free will, unless you are blackmailed into doing it? I don't understand where you are coming from.

Cheating is considered wrong by all? Your attempt at speaking for all of humanity is foolish. There are those of us who actually do not care and some of us whom are attracted to affairs.

Going to skip a few of this nonsense.

My love interest? Why are you so offensively making this about me?

Again, why is this about me, and what did I say to give you the impression that I personally would cheat? But go on, reply to this and allow me to take apart your foolish assumptions and gibberish.

Before you do, I will dumb down my reply. Just for you (:

Humans cheat. - Open to interpretation, is checking out another woman cheating, or just intercourse, some animals, maybe most- I haven't done that research- but I do know for a fact some take more than one mate, "but they are animals" we are too. "We are civilized" I won't even go down that road, animals are going by the natural order, are we? I would argue not.

How far they go with it depends on if they are worth it? - How much and how far they took their cheating helps you make your choice on whether they worth forgiving or not. I'm guessing you would walk away, or beat them. Assuming, since you are this aggressive and this is only a simple online discussion.


You are pretty condescending. Probably should work on that don't you think? You obviously think you are pretty dang smart. But the intelligent don't need to belittle others to affirm their intelligence...So you could say those who belittle others are not that intelligent? Well I wouldn't say that...but I think that would be a decent generalization.

Despite what your intentions were at what you were trying to say, when you say "Humans cheat," it can be interpreted as "*Scoff*, Humans cheat, it's what we do, just like breathing or eating." I could elaborate, but I'm almost positive you will just be defensive and stubborn. So. Why waste my time.
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Posted 7/29/15
If a girl does find out with evidence that the guy is cheating then he isn't worth her time, no arguments need to get out of hand just dump the guy, there's more fish out there. It's hard to move on, but you'll forget about it in the long run. I understand there's girls that keep on and on and the guy isn't doing anything then it's he's right to leave someone like that.
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Posted 7/29/15 , edited 7/31/15
Cheating is for assholes and cowards. That's my stance on that. Being attracted and acting on it are two very different ball games.
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Posted 7/29/15
Haven't seen anyone mention this yet (though I may have missed some posts) but I'm wondering if everyone thinks that cheating only pertains to a physical level. To me, cheating is more than just a physical action. It can be emotional too. I mean if you're with your significant other but in your head you're thinking about another woman the whole time in the wrong way then you might as well be cheating. And no, I don't mean that in a "Yeah, I'd tap that" way when you just see someone who looks attractive.

Fleeting thoughts are one thing, but can often lead one down the wrong path.

If you're going to cheat though, just leave. Not that hard and saves everyone the drama.
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Posted 7/29/15
And here I thought yandere and yangire were very popular around here?
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Posted 7/29/15
^ Yanderes would never cheat.
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Posted 7/29/15

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If you're going to cheat though, just leave...


Or negotiate an understanding that allows for the desired behavior without it being considered cheating. Certainly not always the answer, but it's one possibility.

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Posted 7/29/15

lorreen wrote:


dotsforlife wrote:


If you're going to cheat though, just leave...


Or negotiate an understanding that allows for the desired behavior without it being considered cheating. Certainly not always the answer, but it's one possibility.



True. I know of a couple that basically let each other do just about anything. Swingers I guess.

Whatever works for them
Posted 7/29/15
I think a lot of women can be
super psycho .-.

The only time I was ever like that,
I was completely right, my ex
cheated on me with our best friend

And that's all she wrote.
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Posted 7/29/15
i think some times
it can go out of hand
when you are falling in love in such way,
or just loosing the line.
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Posted 7/29/15 , edited 7/31/15
Cheating and related behaviors have been extensively studied. Women DO NOT cheat more than men. The numbers are roughly equal these days, men cheated more in the past. The men cheat more than women by a couple percent, and that is likely to change to a point where they are completely equal based on trends and their known causes. This is science. You know, the same kind of stuff that created the internet, developed psychiatric treatments, cured many diseases, revolutionized agriculture, etc.? While the margin of error for the methodologies used in the related studies can be debated, we're not talking about a sufficient variance in said margin to suggest this data is not pretty reliable.

Another thing, it is only cheating if you don't have the other party's approval. Some relationships are completely open, some allow dalliances within certain rules, and still others are not standard dyadic arrangements. For example, if my wife wants to sleep with another woman and I say "okay", that is not cheating. Cheating is doing it against the rules of the relationship, or without the other's knowledge. There are a pretty standard set of relational rules in our culture, but they include a lot of grey areas. My wife and I have sat down and actually talked about what is and is not cheating so that we are 100% on the same page. Some people don't consider cyber-sex or sexting to be cheating, others do. Some people don't think flirting is cheating, others do. Moral of the story kids, make sure you and any significant other are on the same page to prevent a lot of heartbreak and possible breakups.
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