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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was mentally ill?
Posted 7/27/15
If not, how would you think it would feel/be like?

I have, when I was mentally ill, for all my relationships.
It seems it could be difficult, depending on the person I guess. From what I heard, there is mostly an issue on one of them being too dependent on the other.

If you're like me, with some self-esteem & anxiety issues, you're constantly worried about them leaving you, even if they constantly tell you they won't.
Then you'd feel like you're annoying them, asking the same questions practically over and over. I did it to feel reassured I guess. It must be bothersome to deal with especially if you don't know how to deal with that stuff.
Posted 7/28/15 , edited 7/28/15
No, I haven't. It could work , but it would be a roller coaster. It would be an acid test to see if that person is worth it.
Posted 7/28/15 , edited 7/28/15
I suffer from mental illness so I really can't judge but I can warn you,
some people are so mentally ill or immature that they try
to guilt trip you and make you feel as terrible as they do.

DO NOT get in relationships with people who are
out for attention (and some of us do that too) They
are too immature and unstable for a relationship.

It's not only unhealthy but it's also mental abuse.

But not all of us mentally ill people are rollercoaster rides.
Some of us are quite stable.
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Posted 7/28/15
Despite being more intellectually smart then most anyone that I have every met, I've been mentally imperfect myself.

I've almost positively been with someone that way, looking in hindsight. However I only ended our relationship due to us being on totally different wavelengths. So it's probably not necessarily the mental situation itself but other factors that impact it more heavily.
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I was in a long term relationship with a guy who dealt with diagnosed depression. He'd regularly cut himself, and always made a big deal out of the smallest things. He even started lying and made up dangerous events to get my attention. It pretty much became a one way street where I was always trying to build him up and be strong for him. But he was never really there for me. After almost 3 years he broke it off because he thought I was using him (oh the irony). It took me over a year later to realize the huge bullet I dodged with him.
Now I'm sure not all people dealing with depression are like this, but I know now how difficult it can be.
Posted 7/28/15
Well I have ADD and depression so I'd probably be the one, but I haven't been in a real relationship so who knows.
Posted 7/28/15

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I was in a long term relationship with a guy who dealt with diagnosed depression. He'd regularly cut himself, and always made a big deal out of the smallest things. He even started lying and made up dangerous events to get my attention. It pretty much became a one way street where I was always trying to build him up and be strong for him. But he was never really there for me. After almost 3 years he broke it off because he thought I was using him (oh the irony). It took me over a year later to realize the huge bullet I dodged with him.
Now I'm sure not all people dealing with depression are like this, but I know now how difficult it can be.


Perfect example of what I was saying.
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Posted 7/28/15
I dated a girl with bipolar for about 2-3 months.. she would have breakdowns over silly things.. for example, my friend called me a slayer (equivalent to a stud?) and she went crazy. She was also still cutting which seriously made me feel bad. I now have her number blocked and will never talk to this girl again. ..seriously her issues started to affect me mentally and I couldn't handle it anymore. It wasn't only that but her personality just caused alot of BS. She thought she was being "outgoing" by messaging my friends every day all day and that was messed up to me. Definitely not worth to be in a relationship with somebody so unstable.
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Posted 7/28/15

kiri_ wrote:


CayBoo wrote:

I was in a long term relationship with a guy who dealt with diagnosed depression. He'd regularly cut himself, and always made a big deal out of the smallest things. He even started lying and made up dangerous events to get my attention. It pretty much became a one way street where I was always trying to build him up and be strong for him. But he was never really there for me. After almost 3 years he broke it off because he thought I was using him (oh the irony). It took me over a year later to realize the huge bullet I dodged with him.
Now I'm sure not all people dealing with depression are like this, but I know now how difficult it can be.


Perfect example of what I was saying.


Yep. Granted we were only in high school at the time, and babies when it comes to relationships. But we've still remained friends and even though he's 24 now, he hasn't let go of his attention seeking ways.

Posted 7/28/15

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kiri_ wrote:


CayBoo wrote:

I was in a long term relationship with a guy who dealt with diagnosed depression. He'd regularly cut himself, and always made a big deal out of the smallest things. He even started lying and made up dangerous events to get my attention. It pretty much became a one way street where I was always trying to build him up and be strong for him. But he was never really there for me. After almost 3 years he broke it off because he thought I was using him (oh the irony). It took me over a year later to realize the huge bullet I dodged with him.
Now I'm sure not all people dealing with depression are like this, but I know now how difficult it can be.


Perfect example of what I was saying.


Yep. Granted we were only in high school at the time, and babies when it comes to relationships. But we've still remained friends and even though he's 24 now, he hasn't let go of his attention seeking ways.



It's sad, I mean. But it makes me nuts because
I have as much problems as the next guy
but then you get these people who are really unstable
and won't get help and it's really sad but at the same
time it drives me insane(no pun intended)

I just stay away from people like that anymore.

I'm sorry you had to go through something like that.
I know how hard it is.

Last relationship I had lasted 4 years and
she was on meth and absolutely flippin crazy...
because of the drugs

She beat me and one day turned a knife on me
and that was the end of that.

It was hard, but looking back on it, I know it
was definitely the right thing to do.
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Oh my gosh that's crazy! Yeah any sort of hard drugs is definitely a deal breaker for me. But going through relationships like that I find are totally an eye opener. They make you realize that there are much better people out there.
Posted 7/28/15

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Oh my gosh that's crazy! Yeah any sort of hard drugs is definitely a deal breaker for me. But going through relationships like that I find are totally an eye opener. They make you realize that there are much better people out there.


Yep, it is now for me too.
Unfortunately, I just have kind of
closed myself up after that.

Well I don't know if that is a bad thing
because I guess I learned that I didn't
need a relationship to survive.

So yeah, it was an eye-opener, you are right.
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Posted 7/28/15
No, I don't like yandere girls.
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Posted 7/28/15 , edited 7/28/15
Yes and it was difficult. My ex girlfriend suffers from bipolar disorder and it put a real strain on our relationship. It never got extremely violent, but we have quite a few shouting matches and she did/said some things that hurt me deeply. She and I are on OK terms but she still holds a bit of resentment towards me for 'giving up' on her.
Posted 7/28/15

kiri_ wrote:
But not all of us mentally ill people are rollercoaster rides.
Some of us are quite stable.

Stable due to meds in my case ://

Sometimes I feel worse than people who are bipolar or something.
Because people like never see any breakdowns/panic attacks/anxiety attacks I get. It just seems completely unexpected. Unless I'm having those rare times when it happens like everyday for at least a week lol

I don't want to scare ppl off, but we really are not crazy or unstable all the time.
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