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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was mentally ill?
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I think anyone here can say their ex boy/girl friend had some screws loose lol
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While I've never been in a romantic relationship my entire life has been surrounded by mentally ill people, family, friends, even I've been a little out of tune before but I got better, most of the mental issues I've been around have been bipolar disorders, and that is something I'd never want in a person, none the less every person has some type of issue, so I don't really judge by that.
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I am depressed and dropped my therapy because it was expensive as hell.

It is really hard to date with me, because people think that on a relationship one needs to make the other happy.
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One of my ex-boyfriends was schizophrenic. He is a really sweet and compassionate guy, but I should have listened when he told me that he was a bad boyfriend.

When the relationship finally ended it was a mercy to me, whose mental health had suffered considerably. I was young and I thought love could solve every problem. I learned through the experience that people don't break up or divorce because they stopped loving each other necessarily. Romantic relationships are about more than love. As a result, I took some time to recover myself and ended up meeting my husband.

So as a note to the rest of you: Love is not enough! Good relationships with any person are built on a solid foundation of trust, communication, and respect. Love is merely the icing on the cake.
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No tower shooters, but one of my Ex- wives recently did just try to kill herself after the death of her 4th husband.Her health is failing and she's buried both of her last 2 husbands.
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Until my physical health improves thereby my emotional health (and I'm working on it), it's been tough on my boy. Just snapped at him again last night. While I'm emotional by nature--some upsets are me and some are not me. I try and make it up to him though, there's only so much I can do aside from apologizing and groveling about it...You'd be surprised how many stupid things you can manage to say in 5 minutes.

I'm better than I used to be, but I need to get even better to treat him right. It's not fair to him otherwise.
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anzn wrote:

If not, how would you think it would feel/be like?

I have, when I was mentally ill, for all my relationships.
It seems it could be difficult, depending on the person I guess. From what I heard, there is mostly an issue on one of them being too dependent on the other.

If you're like me, with some self-esteem & anxiety issues, you're constantly worried about them leaving you, even if they constantly tell you they won't.
Then you'd feel like you're annoying them, asking the same questions practically over and over. I did it to feel reassured I guess. It must be bothersome to deal with especially if you don't know how to deal with that stuff.


I have.

We worked through it together.

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Dariamus wrote:

I have.

We worked through it together.





I love happy stories like that. My boy always says similar and I hope he can tolerate me long enough to improve, it's been years already. He's lasted me for this long, but it never excuses me from always trying to do better for him. I feel awful when I slip up with him.
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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:

One of my ex-boyfriends was schizophrenic. He is a really sweet and compassionate guy, but I should have listened when he told me that he was a bad boyfriend.

When the relationship finally ended it was a mercy to me, whose mental health had suffered considerably. I was young and I thought love could solve every problem. I learned through the experience that people don't break up or divorce because they stopped loving each other necessarily. Romantic relationships are about more than love. As a result, I took some time to recover myself and ended up meeting my husband.

So as a note to the rest of you: Love is not enough! Good relationships with any person are built on a solid foundation of trust, communication, and respect. Love is merely the icing on the cake.


Everything you say is here is so true I am divorced for going on three years but I still love my ex wife just wasn't enough to stay married she needed something more to keep her happy. I can except that today but I was a believer that love conquers all and it doesn't you cant make someone else happy doesn't work long term.
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I'm currently in a relationship with someone who has bipolar and chronic anxiety...And I myself have severe depression and anxiety as well.


you're constantly worried about them leaving you, even if they constantly tell you they won't.


This is soo true! Whenever I feel very emotional or anxious, this is one of the first things I worry about on a daily basis. It gets hard sometimes to deal with, but in my experience if you truly like being with that person and love them for who they are, mental health disorders are nothing really...

At least that's what my partner says
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scoobydew wrote:
Everything you say is here is so true I am divorced for going on three years but I still love my ex wife just wasn't enough to stay married she needed something more to keep her happy. I can except that today but I was a believer that love conquers all and it doesn't you cant make someone else happy doesn't work long term.


My wife was my best friend for years before we started dating.

That friendship is what keeps us going when things get rough.

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No, but I know for now that I am not "stable" yet for such -_-
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yes

worst experience ever
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Freddy96NO wrote:

No, but I know for now that I am not "stable" yet for such -_-


I hear ya! I was single for years just to get myself stable to be in one...
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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:

One of my ex-boyfriends was schizophrenic. He is a really sweet and compassionate guy, but I should have listened when he told me that he was a bad boyfriend.

When the relationship finally ended it was a mercy to me, whose mental health had suffered considerably. I was young and I thought love could solve every problem. I learned through the experience that people don't break up or divorce because they stopped loving each other necessarily. Romantic relationships are about more than love. As a result, I took some time to recover myself and ended up meeting my husband.

So as a note to the rest of you: Love is not enough! Good relationships with any person are built on a solid foundation of trust, communication, and respect. Love is merely the icing on the cake.


Man, that would be a tough one. With the delusions, paranoia, difficulty initiating tasks and following them through to completion, disorderly thought patterns, and hallucinations a person with schizophrenia might be fully convinced you two had a fight you never even had, or that you cheated with someone who doesn't even exist (which is not to imply visual hallucinations, which I know don't happen in schizophrenia, but rather more paranoid delusions). And I'm not trying to be funny, either. Those are some of the challenges I could conceive of for a relationship with a person with schizophrenia. Another would be that the difficulty figuring out a proper medication and dosage scheme (and then difficulty getting them to stick to that scheme) would, in addition to the frustration of trying to successfully medicate them, pose a major challenge for their holding employment. All couples argue about money, and I'd imagine that would be severely exacerbated by a person with schizophrenia's added challenges for producing it (though they can).

It's not his fault, of course. I'm not blaming him for his schizophrenia. But this sort of thing is part of the schizophrenia package, and it's a lot to deal with for everyone involved.
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