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Why do people often take things way too personally?
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Posted 8/2/15
It really depends on the person or the situation or they are just way too judgemental
Posted 8/2/15

sundin13 wrote:

Looking at the KLK example, I think the phrase "takes things personally" is wrong. It is essentially asking a combination of "why do people care about things" and "why do people try to discuss things on discussion boards". The answers to both should be fairly self evident. I think people need to stop thinking that disagreement means that someone "took something personally" or is "offended" or worse, is committing "harassment". We are on a discussion board. Discussion is kinda the point...

PS: I've actually had a pretty in depth discussion about KLK with megahobbit a while back if anyone cares to peruse through my thoughts. The framing of the question was revolving around sexism, but overall it was a good chat. It starts about here:

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-908045/is-anime-really-that-sexist?pg=25#50547093


That was a fucking awesome discussion between you and megahobbit. I had no idea the possible symbolism the show has, I need to rewatch the show in order to analyze it and see where I stand. that was a fun read.
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Posted 8/2/15
Depends on the situation.

Forums are made for discussions. It be different if it was on a profile and someone went out of their way to pm about something on it. Etc etc. Situation matters.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Some people are sensitive to certain things.


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Posted 8/2/15

anzn wrote:

People gotta realize nobody is gonna agree with you or have the same interests as you all the time tbh
Yet, people still feel the need to do this, come outta nowhere & present to me a 5 paragraph essay on why I should like it/take it seriously/why they're offended by my statement.

My friend loves romance anime
I hate romance anime's. I can never find them entertaining in the slightest. She understands that though, and doesn't try to convince me to like it & understands why I don't like it.
And I do the same with her.

Why can't people be more like that?


because everyone's different haha . if only it were that easy for some
Posted 8/2/15
i find this thread and everything in it personal
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It depends. And quite honestly, I've seen it go both ways. Some people are SUPER offensive....and others are SUPER defensive. Moderation people....moderation.
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Just people are so damn sensitive nowadays about every little freaking thing. I'm a pretty straight forward talker and people just seem to start crying out of nowhere. Like if u mention a fact in their argument they forgot or an opposition to what they said they just freak the eff out.
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Well if you're referring to this forum, this is a forum, so arguments against your opinion, even if not asked for, are going to arise. That's why forums are here. I believe some people take offense to people doing just that and consider them taking it personal. But in reality you're the one taking it personal if you have a problem with someone arguing against your point. I'm not saying this is your problem, but maybe it is for others.

But yes in other situations people do get overly sensitive about things. I don't know why it happens, but it does. It always has though and I don't believe that it's something "people do nowadays." It's obviously going to be more obvious when we have lots of ways to give our opinions, and it isn't something that just appeared with this generation.

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I don't bother most of the time responding to people arguing cause
you never know if they even really care. When you find out its just
a troll you think about all the time wasted... People I tell you its just
not worth it. If people really want to learn things they will do it on their
own. No need to "show them the light". Also debate through text is
horrid and gets no one anywhere.
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Posted 8/2/15

That's all that needs to be said.
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You can tell who takes things way too personally by the amount of lines that fill their post
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Posted 8/2/15 , edited 8/2/15
It is funny when something that dose not involve you personally at all leaves people so greatly offended. And it os really common now. People cant even have an opinion with someone getting offended these days.
You always see celebrities having to publicly or via social media apologies becasue peopel take opinons or jokes or whatever to heart.
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Posted 8/2/15
Really just depends. If, like in your example, it's something such as a dispute over an anime then it's probably because they are deeply obsessed or just because they are on the internet and know they can act like a completely moron with little to no real world consequences. If it's something deeper, there's usually an issue of people not being able to separate criticism of something they believe with criticism of their person. Basically, they feel like you aren't criticizing what they believe, you're criticizing them.
Posted 8/2/15 , edited 8/2/15
Every opinion has a counter opinion.

Also, everyone has opinions they're passionate about.

The internet essentially opens up what you say to practically everyone else in the world who speaks the same language. Because of this, it's more likely that your opinion will be seen not only by someone who holds the opposite opinion, but by that one individual who is passionate about it as well.

Imagine if I said "Hamsters suck". Maybe to me that's an innocuous statement, but maybe someone else out there really loves hamsters. Perhaps they even love hamsters as much as I love cats. If that's the case, I wouldn't be surprised if they took offence and tried to defend their beloved hamsters. I might do the same for cats.

Generally, this can be avoided if you simply make it clear that you're speaking from your personal opinion, and also throw in a healthy helping of courteous language. Doing that will allow you to avoid about 90% of such conflict, or at least it will help to mitigate it.
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