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Why do people often take things way too personally?
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I think people like that tend to think of themselves as more important than they actually are. They think people are targeting them, so they get defensive whenever a person expresses a contrary opinion, even if it is a mere expression and not an attempt to persuade or disprove.

Then, they think being offended makes them more right or something, and it spirals out of control from there. They might not admit it outright or even realize it themselves, but they'll even cherry-pick information to justify their feeling as being one derived from justice or righteousness rather than of preference.

There's some overlap between caring deeply about something and taking things too personally, but they are distinct in my book.
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misunderstandings & lack reasonableness

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anzn wrote:

Its something I see a lot on the internet mostly.

I just don't see why people get so worked up over it too. Its gone to the point where people will get so offended & defensive over the littlest things/general opinion.

Me: Kill la Kill ain't that deep.
Guy comes out from under my bed in full Ryuko Matoi cosplay: Look see, I'm offended by this, because KLK actually has superior storyteling for an anime only intellectuals like myself would understand since it actually gives a very deep & serious outlook on women coming of age and-
Me:*sprays air freshner* shoo.

Like, damn???


The art of debate is lost on a lot of forums. What you meant to say was that you didn't perceive Kill la Kill as having any depth, and what the guy meant to say is that he disagrees with your opinion for [insert reasons here]. The problem is that people don't realize that opinions like the one above are not concrete things. Just because something didn't seem deep for you, doesn't mean it wasn't deep for others. Just don't take it personally when people disagree with your opinions, and you'll be fine. After all, any big emotional response is all theirs, so you don't have to be stressed out by it.

((I have never watched Kill la Kill)).
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Dabossman26 wrote:

People think that if someone has a different opinion then them, their opinion won't be as valid. Also, they care too much about what others think because they want to be accepted. It's like the "console wars". Even though each console has its problems, people defend the consoles as if their lives depend on it.


Xbox sucks buttcheeks :3

Granted I WAS a sony fan. but I know that xbox has better games right now, i just don't like Xbox as a company and the kind of people that like Xbox are urrrr uhhhh usually.... i'd rather not finish my sentence.
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ayesharocks wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

Some people are sensitive to certain things.


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Because they can.
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Long text walls /= Personal offense.

When someone takes to personally insulting that's a different story.

"Omfg, you dumbass piece of shit, how could you hate xyz for something like that!?!?"
^butthurt

However that's different from frustration.

"Okay. ._. Got it. And pigs fly."

Or long responses because someone is either bored, passionate, or expressive.
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Your rights end where my feelings begin
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Posted 8/3/15

Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:


anzn wrote:

Its something I see a lot on the internet mostly.

I just don't see why people get so worked up over it too. Its gone to the point where people will get so offended & defensive over the littlest things/general opinion.

Me: Kill la Kill ain't that deep.
Guy comes out from under my bed in full Ryuko Matoi cosplay: Look see, I'm offended by this, because KLK actually has superior storyteling for an anime only intellectuals like myself would understand since it actually gives a very deep & serious outlook on women coming of age and-
Me:*sprays air freshner* shoo.

Like, damn???


The art of debate is lost on a lot of forums. What you meant to say was that you didn't perceive Kill la Kill as having any depth, and what the guy meant to say is that he disagrees with your opinion for [insert reasons here]. The problem is that people don't realize that opinions like the one above are not concrete things. Just because something didn't seem deep for you, doesn't mean it wasn't deep for others. Just don't take it personally when people disagree with your opinions, and you'll be fine. After all, any big emotional response is all theirs, so you don't have to be stressed out by it.

((I have never watched Kill la Kill)).


This is largely what I was thinking as well, though I'm not even sure it's the art of debate so much as seeing any simple discussion or disagreement as an invitation to heated debate (though that would be better if those involved actually knew how to debate). Sometimes (most times?) it's okay to agree to disagree or to simply discuss the situation without needing to bring out the lecterns and stopwatch.

As far as the topic at hand, yes, some people definitely do personalize their attachment to certain things perhaps a little more than is healthy but it's also rampant on the internet for people to always take their own opinion as fact. When the two of those things clash is when you end up with the real problems, and it's really due to a fault on both sides.

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