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Why are kids so blunt?
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Posted 8/4/15
Poor parenting. There's a difference between blunt and rude. You can blame children, I blame shitty parenting.
Posted 8/4/15
Better blunt and honest than a refined ass-kisser. I'm less inclined to trust mature adults than other kids, as adults have been playing the game longer and make better liars.

Anyway I don't think age has anything to do with it.
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Depend how old the kid kid was. If they were really little, they were probably just saying what they saw. If they were older, they were trolling you.
Posted 8/4/15
I would shake that kid's hand, anzn.
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It's a mixture between bad parenting and society. Society has established a taboo on corporal punishment and has not established a proper alternative. We as people now have to tiptoe around each other so we don't take offence or be perceived as cruel/blunt/direct people. As a result, teachers feel restricted on how to chastise children without getting a mouthful from the parents. Teachers are now blamed for bad grades as a result of poor teaching, or are severely punished if they reprimand a child outside of the "please, don't do that" approach. I feel that things like ADHD or ADD and other mental illnesses are being slapped on every misbehaving child. I know these conditions exist, but I think we are too quick to label rather than deal with the problem.

Parents are equally to blame, putting pressure on teachers or anyone but themselves. Everything has become too liberal. I'm a liberal person myself but I think a lot of things have gone way too far. Parents don't tend to teach children the value of money or looking after their possessions anymore, or things like respecting elders and extending kindness to others. It's come under the mentality of "freedom of expression". In it's true sense i agree, but there needs to be boundaries, examples and routines for children so they can grow up to be a functioning, well rounded individual.

Also, children copy those around them. If their parents or the people around them have a bad attitude, they will imitate that behaviour as it would be seen as acceptable in their eyes.
Posted 8/4/15

DawnofSorrow wrote:

Better blunt and honest than a refined ass-kisser. I'm less inclined to trust mature adults than other kids, as adults have been playing the game longer and make better liars.

Anyway I don't think age has anything to do with it.


That's true but only if this kid knows that having a boyfriend/girlfriend is not some hurdle you have to get over that confirms your looks or shape are on par lol. For all we know, this kid just wanted her attention and now she's still thinking about what he said xD. Anyway, i thought it was hilarious. Maybe anzn should lose a couple of pounds (for herself) if it bothers her :D.
Posted 8/4/15
21 and I still am blunt. Im not rude, nor disrespectful, but I don't mince my words, good or bad. I think everyone should be.
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AiYumega wrote:

21 and I still am blunt. Im not rude, nor disrespectful, but I don't mince my words, good or bad. I think everyone should be.


And this is why I (platonically) love you. I have a hard time trusting people who sugar coat everything. Makes it hard to tell when they are actually telling the truth!
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Kids just say it like it is, they are yet to understand social aspects and respect. If you got a big nose for example, a normal person would be polite and keep to themselves because of social restraints. But not a little kid, who doesn't understand the complexities of emotion past their own little world.
This sort of relates to the double sided car trick where a card with a black and white side is shown to a child, yet up to a certain age they truly believe that you are seeing the same color of the card, even when viewing the opposite. Children only understand themselves and have no ability to empathize..... up to a certain point.
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I wouldn't use the word 'blunt'. my little brother has no respect and the language is awful (your setting a bad example by swearing yourself!) it's because he hangs round with men my age. Hopefully this is all just a phase and they will mature and learn some self control. I was beaten as a child and I turned out great, however my brother was not so he is little sod. That kid needs discipline! And should respect his elders.
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Because they're never taught not to be.

They aren't disciplined when they do something wrong, any physical contact and now child services are involved. School teachers can't touch them, they have the teachers by the neck.

Many years ago, someone thought, maybe slapping kids, hitting them, etc is cruel, so maybe we shouldn't. Little did they know, they while a noble goal, they really didn't think ahead, they didn't have a game plan to teach kids how to behave properly. From one extreme to another.

Kids aren't taught respect, courtesy, or how to behave many times now. They're insensitive because no one really taught them why it is wrong and how they should behave.


I agree with you parents from the 60's are more successful than the '16 and pregnant' of today. Discipline helped me and it should be brought back to help the next generation. It's not cruel unless it leaves a mark.
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It's because they haven't really learned subtlety/tact and don't realize that a lot of times people can't handle the truth. Not saying that it's the truth that you're fat and ugly though; I haven't seen you so I can't judge.
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Depends on how old the kid is. Could have to do with parenting or it could just have to do with the fact that the kid hasn't developed a good sense of empathy yet.

As far as discipline goes, you don't need to hit your kid to discipline them. My parents never laid their hands on me but were still successful in instilling discipline. As far as I'm concerned, if you think the only way to instill discipline in a child is to hit them then you probably shouldn't be a parent. Now, there may be a problem with parents not instilling discipline in their children. However, disciplining and hitting are not synonymous.
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Personally I'm somewhat relieved they're blunt, compared to how most people tend to shrug off any issues you may or may not have.
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Depends on how old the kid is. Could have to do with parenting or it could just have to do with the fact that the kid hasn't developed a good sense of empathy yet.

As far as discipline goes, you don't need to hit your kid to discipline them. My parents never laid their hands on me but were still successful in instilling discipline. As far as I'm concerned, if you think the only way to instill discipline in a child is to hit them then you probably shouldn't be a parent. Now, there may be a problem with parents not instilling discipline in their children. However, disciplining and hitting are not synonymous.


I agree parenting doesn't require physical force. Stern tone and calm demeanor go a long way. If that doesn't work, taking things away usually does. I think my last resort would be the same thing my mother did, lock them in a room and hold the door shut for hours until they calm down enough to talk.

My cousin wasn't parented right, still isn't, he's older than I am and acts like a brat. He swears at his mother all the time and she lets him. Cries and throws fits, he can't even hold a stable job because of how shitty he treats people. My mother used to babysit him, and she'd sit on the fella when he threw a fit. My mother is the only person that guy treats respectably because he can't get away with any of his bullshit lmao.

Bad signs are when parents 'give in' to their children's demands, swear at/insult them, give them no attention, or raise their voice at them all the time.
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