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Why are kids so blunt?
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I would change the title to thread Why Are Kids So Rude.-Bottom line some kids don't have any manners nobody was parenting them while growing up. I remember telling my son to ask to leave the table at dinner. Sounds simple and easy took me 4 months telling him over and over but he does now. My favorite thing is when we go to someone elses house he asks to be excuse at table even if those kids don't and sometimes he gets made fun but a parent will always yes you may and thanks for asking. Took maybe 5 months for him to not interrupt a conversation he waits and then asks a question kids have some instincts like animals but also shine when they receive lots of love and attention. Parenting is done best in my humble opinion by being present when your child is around.
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I would change the title to thread Why Are Kids So Rude.-Bottom line some kids don't have any manners nobody was parenting them while growing up. I remember telling my son to ask to leave the table at dinner. Sounds simple and easy took me 4 months telling him over and over but he does now. My favorite thing is when we go to someone elses house he asks to be excuse at table even if those kids don't and sometimes he gets made fun but a parent will always yes you may and thanks for asking. Took maybe 5 months for him to not interrupt a conversation he waits and then asks a question kids have some instincts like animals but also shine when they receive lots of love and attention. Parenting is done best in my humble opinion by being present when your child is around.


Manners are such a gem these days! Parents can really bring the best out of their kids if they give them the proper attention and discipline they need. People are too quick to blame kids. Its the worst whenever I hear a parent talk badly about their young kid because they don't know how to handle them.
Posted 8/4/15
Younger kids are still trying to make sense of the world and in a way working towards independence and developing an identity of there own, but in the mean time they really don't have much of that stuff and need to depend on authority figures(people bigger and older than them, even though that's grossly over simplified it'll do for the sake of the conversation) in order to navigate through the world since they can't do it by themselves. Therefor they mimic the authority figure in order to blend in with the world they see simply because the authority figure did so or said so.

Kids are attempting to learn the rules of society, in terms of mannerisms they're trying the best they can in order to play along till it's time to think for themselves. Honestly I'd rather a person tell me what they really think even if they used some words that I find distasteful and not what they think I want to hear or what the most appropriate thing to say is or anything that's inauthentic to what they really think, but I understand we have to play a game sometimes cause we may not want to deal with the affect it has on that conversation or relationship,or because we simply don't have the time, or merely cause we want to have fun. All are understandable.

Also you don't have to be a parent to be like a parental figure in someones life we really don't decide that the kid does mostly. I think everyone as a society is to blame, some more than others but we all play a role in this somewhere where we influence a kid who is still learning the rules.
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Nothing wrong with being brutally honest. Of course that's no excuse to be an asshole though. Still, I'd rather have someone call it like they see it than sugar coat words to make someone feel better. Sugar coating is basically the equivalent of telling "white lies." I'll pass on the fake shit.

People can be blunt without being mean. I do it all the time.
Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/5/15
but was he right?
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scoobydew wrote:

I would change the title to thread Why Are Kids So Rude.-Bottom line some kids don't have any manners nobody was parenting them while growing up. I remember telling my son to ask to leave the table at dinner. Sounds simple and easy took me 4 months telling him over and over but he does now. My favorite thing is when we go to someone elses house he asks to be excuse at table even if those kids don't and sometimes he gets made fun but a parent will always yes you may and thanks for asking. Took maybe 5 months for him to not interrupt a conversation he waits and then asks a question kids have some instincts like animals but also shine when they receive lots of love and attention. Parenting is done best in my humble opinion by being present when your child is around.


Manners are such a gem these days! Parents can really bring the best out of their kids if they give them the proper attention and discipline they need. People are too quick to blame kids. Its the worst whenever I hear a parent talk badly about their young kid because they don't know how to handle them.


Kids for the most part are innocent and learn fast. I have a nephew who is autistic and he is polite but its takes him a little more time to do things
if you don't have patience then being a parent is really hard. The funny thing is when you do have a child something happens that makes you more patient cause its your flesh and blood not always but sometimes. Sometimes kids are rude cause its a survival instinct they might be hungry and parents don't feed them on regular schedule I see this a lot. Food is like wonder drug I feed half the kids in my neighborhood and laughter in my house is my reward along with dirty dishes lol
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Kids are so fucking blunt like...how do they get away with that especially if they're mean...

A few years ago a kid asked me if I have a boyfriend and I said no and he said "Is it because ur ugly and fat and only play video games all day?"

Like, damn??

Not even I was that blunt when I was younger.


A) Selfishness, since they're still in childhood mode where they don't know how to serve the needs of others when their own satisfaction is more pressing, and
B) Hierarchy, and the pecking-order need to be above something else when all us birds are trapped in the "middle" (parents, school, other enemies, etc.)

Maturity is being able to escape such crippling handicaps.
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scoobydew wrote:

Kids for the most part are innocent and learn fast. I have a nephew who is autistic and he is polite but its takes him a little more time to do things
if you don't have patience then being a parent is really hard. The funny thing is when you do have a child something happens that makes you more patient cause its your flesh and blood not always but sometimes. Sometimes kids are rude cause its a survival instinct they might be hungry and parents don't feed them on regular schedule I see this a lot. Food is like wonder drug I feed half the kids in my neighborhood and laughter in my house is my reward along with dirty dishes lol


I agree completely. Patience with children is a must for parenting.

Yeah, feeding the hungry kiddos is always important, lol.

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I have alot of patience but I think kid's would remove most of it. Good thing I don't want kids unless I can adopt one.
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Don't worry, a good chunk of them will grow up to be oversensitive politically correct wackos like most millennials.
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Kids are innocent and don't know any better. I don't think they should be able to get away with it though. Parents should scold their children when they notice them being little shits.
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Kids are innocent and don't know any better. I don't think they should be able to get away with it though. Parents should scold their children when they notice them being little shits.


The book It Takes a village to raise a child is good read. Basically if you notice a kid being a little shit sometimes parents need someone to say your child is an ass lol sometimes they say thanks other times its oh not my child you must be mistaken lol
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Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/4/15

MrAnimeSK wrote:

Maybe the fact that its frowned upon and in some cases illegal to smack your kids these days?
Lack of discipline, kids have too many rights, they know they cant be touched.
You just know how they can exploit the system!
(too many video games have teached them how to "go around things") XP

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anzn wrote: A few years ago a kid asked me if I have a boyfriend and I said no and he said "Is it because ur ugly and fat and only play video games all day?"

Like, damn??

Uh... I'm fat and ugly and I have someone.... If I played video games, honey, it'd be a fucking BONUS...
I am... Big Mac!
and they can't get away with it on girls when the looks are into play... now I turned it into a game ...
- "Weird Al" Yankovic-
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t2mU6USTBRE
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Don't blame the kids, blame the parents. If they are rude, that means they have seen other people be rude without being punished. You have to tell them what's tolerable and what not. I don't think corporal punishment is a good thing, you just need to have some patience. If you're raising them, you have to teach them about every thing, even those you find to be ridiculousy obvious. Remember, you used to be new to this world, too.
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Everyone keeps stating kids aren't taught discipline & the lack of physical punishment has given them a sense of security. I highly disagree. Kids are naturally blunt; they do not know social protocol in society as a whole. Example: when I was dating a chick who was missing part of her arm we would always have kids come up to us at random places and ask her about it. Some were really awkwardly phrased questions like did your dog eat your arm, some were far more normalized like were you born that way. Children are simply examining the environment around them and analyzing how things are - they do this based off of previously encountered events and use reduction to gain an understanding. To the first comment about being fat & ugly - that was the kid attempting to piece together why you are single & kindness isn't always a counterpart to truth. A child does not fully grasp the emotional baggage their words can carry; so if you are overweight and not pretty, this is not the child being malicious towards you - this is a child calling out what they see, although they certainly can be little shits.

You don't have to physically punish a kid for being rude. In fact, punishment does nothing for the behavior except suppress it when you are around so if you aren't giving your child positive or negative reinforcement you are not providing the child an alternate behavior to express; children need to be taught how to choose words & that their words carry weight & this is often neglected from parental units.
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