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Story about this guy & his girlfriend being in a open relationship
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Open relationships are BS.
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52 / M / Bay Area
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I have been in open relationships twice it can work if you trust the person first relationship ended because she decided to be with another woman and second we got married and that lasted for 16 years. Wont work if you get jealous or have insecurities on relationships.
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Kylar_Stern wrote:

Honestly, I think it takes a special type of person to be in a healthy open relationship. Personally I couldn't ever be in one, I would imagine that I view sex and intimacy differently than the required type of person in an open relationship would.


I feel this way too, that I'm not as great as a person would need to be for an open relationship. I would be too jealous and possessive. I would probably lose my husband because I would become an unpleasant person. I think that the person on reddit didn't think about that possibility. He also didn't realize that dating people is actually a lot of work on top of maintaining your primary relationship. I know I don't have the energy nor the desire to date a new person.

Besides all that nonsense, I wouldn't want an open relationship because of the health and safety issues. I think it's great that some people can do this, but I just don't have it in me. I would only ever have a third partner who was seriously committed, and even then that sounds like a lot of work and time that I could just stay in and watch my husband play Dark Souls.
Posted 8/4/15
I don't personally approve of open relationships
in the way that I would never have one
if you really want to date other people,
just leave. I don't need the shit.
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Not that I'd get into a relationship at this point anyways, but certainly not an open one. Would spread my resources too thin. Why on earth would I want to take care of multiple women to any degree?
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Should have went on Tinder. Honestly, the stuff people come up with. He should have tested the waters before opening his big mouth lol. I still laugh about that comment Jimmy Carr made in regards to what Chrs Martin called his split with Gwyneth Paltrow, "consciously uncoupling". Obviously as opposed to "unconsciously uncoupling" which is when it accidentally slips out lol.


dotsforlife wrote:
Why on earth would I want to take care of multiple women to any degree?


lmao.
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I have friends with benefits but I wouldn't do a open relationship technically like with actual feelings. I mean I've slept with more than 1 person while in a relationship (cheating, but this was due to problems within the relationship itself) but I wouldn't be in a open relationship.
While I'm open-minded sexually, open relationships don't do it because one thing will most likely always happen, someone is going to get hurt. A ex friend with benefits got hurt when she started to develop real feelings with me and I felt nothing for her. Same happened to me aswell. At some point the other shoe will drop.

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Kerst wrote:

I have friends with benefits but I wouldn't do a open relationship technically like with actual feelings. I mean I've slept with more than 1 person while in a relationship (cheating, but this was due to problems within the relationship itself) but I wouldn't be in a open relationship.
While I'm open-minded sexually, open relationships don't do it because one thing will most likely always happen, someone is going to get hurt. A ex friend with benefits got hurt when she started to develop real feelings with me and I felt nothing for her. Same happened to me aswell. At some point the other shoe will drop.


Most people on CR are younger in general and that's cool but I think all relationships change the longer they continue. You can change or not just like experimenting. Everyone likes to try new things your lying if you say no to 2 females asking for threesome just saying
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It sounds like too much of a hassle.
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What's the benefit of sleeping around? AIDS? HIV? Having a baby and not having a clue whom to sue for child support?
Uh... No thank you.

Now if we're talking money on the table and multiple guys paying my bills and doing things for me, then maybe I'd consider it. As long as I'm not expected to put out for it, of course. That's just too much work. I'd prefer multiple servants and worshipers over partners.
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Well I never had the chance for a 3-some with 2 girls have had the chance with 1 girl and 2 guys though. The guy was my bf at the time and the other was his sister. My ex-gf and I talked about a 2 girl 1 guy threesome before but never actually did it due to complicated feelings and her fear of losing me to the point where she wanted too still have one but didn't want to see me sleeping with another girl because the idea of it.
There was one time she had the chance to sleep with another girl and I told her too because if we wanted to stay together I told her if she wanted to she should expierence it so she wouldn't have regrets later if we stayed together and it never caused problems for us in our relationship of course due to the exact specifics of of her and the other girl that I won't do into detail with I knew they would never have feeings for one another. However I wouldn't agree to her doing it more than the one time I gave my consent and honestly if it was another guy I wouldn't have agreed and the same was for her, if it was another guy and me she would have gave her consent but wouldn't let me be with another girl. One of our reasoning is we could ever have romantic feelings for the opposite sex.
The whole idea for her came up from the movie Chasing Amy were they actually explain the emotioal dangers of a 3-way very well.
Also there was a social experiment where two twins (aww yeah) were asking guys and girls for if they wanted to have a threeway with them and the large Majority said no and only like 3 girls and 2 guys said yes. I would have said yes. I would like to think I would have moral obligations or fortitude to say no but I would say yes, come on man freaking twins!
Also I'm 23 so I think I'm quite young.
I agree relationships change in time but not always for better.
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Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/4/15

scoobydew wrote:

I have been in open relationships twice it can work if you trust the person first relationship ended because she decided to be with another woman and second we got married and that lasted for 16 years. Wont work if you get jealous or have insecurities on relationships.


I'm not trying to be rude, just legitimately curious. But how can you say they work if both relationships of that type you have been in have ended? Personally, successful to me would last until the death of one of the partners. That's just my opinion of course. Not trying to start a fight.

Unless the one that lasted 16 years did end in the death of your partner, in which case, I am severely sorry for your loss.
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I've been in one for 40 years.Nothing unique unless you've adopted and accepted the classic preconception.
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Posted 8/4/15
Dude in the story got hit with 'karma is a b*tch' club, and I don't really feel a bit of sympathy for him

As for open relationships, I personally wouldn't be in one and find the concept a bit of a mockery of a relationship (just from my perspective and not pushed on anyone else). Part of a relationship is being with a person and feeling a connection to them, not having the next level of 'friends w/ benefits'. The other part of a relationship would be trust and loyalty, which this also from a certain perspective tears away at. Add to that the feeling of 'not being good enough' it could trigger in the partner and its better to just not be with that person and be single.
Posted 8/4/15
The idea of sleeping around is just gross to me lol.

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